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CS market share in different EU countries
Go by the numbers ...
How easy or difficult it might be to find a date in another EU country (using CS) depends a lot on the market share CS has in different countries. This varies dramatically!
As an example I've checked the number of women 40 and over in few EU countries.
In my native Belgium there now are 378 female 40+ CS members for a population of well over 11 M (of course all ages and both gender).
This does compare favourably to Italy where there are only 395 for a population of 60 M (over 5 times more)
and France isn't a lot better: 466 for a population over 65 M.
Spain does better than both France and Italy with 1095 women over 40 registered for a 47.5 M population.
Yet all of the above turn bleak considering the 3758 Irish women on CS of that same age range in a population of only 5 million... and we haven't got the winner yet, since there currently are 1034 Maltese female CS members in a population of only 441 thousand.
Note: all of the above numbers were obtained on the same day. Selections need to be narrowed down to less than 5000. The easiest method is applying an age interval narrow enough for the purpose.
Another issue to consider is the propensity of any individual to create and use a CS profile. Europeans having moved to a different country are more inclined to date other expats (or migrant retirees) than locals firmly anchored within their community.
How easy or difficult it might be to find a date in another EU country (using CS) depends a lot on the market share CS has in different countries. This varies dramatically!
As an example I've checked the number of women 40 and over in few EU countries.
In my native Belgium there now are 378 female 40+ CS members for a population of well over 11 M (of course all ages and both gender).
This does compare favourably to Italy where there are only 395 for a population of 60 M (over 5 times more)
and France isn't a lot better: 466 for a population over 65 M.
Spain does better than both France and Italy with 1095 women over 40 registered for a 47.5 M population.
Yet all of the above turn bleak considering the 3758 Irish women on CS of that same age range in a population of only 5 million... and we haven't got the winner yet, since there currently are 1034 Maltese female CS members in a population of only 441 thousand.
Note: all of the above numbers were obtained on the same day. Selections need to be narrowed down to less than 5000. The easiest method is applying an age interval narrow enough for the purpose.
Another issue to consider is the propensity of any individual to create and use a CS profile. Europeans having moved to a different country are more inclined to date other expats (or migrant retirees) than locals firmly anchored within their community.
nice from far
Saw a seriously dishy guy today during long airport wait - our eyes met, we half-smiled, did that thing, you know, where you widen your eyes slightly oooh you look interesting. He was with someone, though, her back turned, very slender, VERY brown. When she turned round she was so sunbeaten and wrinkled she looked 90 but the main thing that spoiled her looks was the fading black eye.
Funny, he suddenly didn't look so good either.
I met a surprising number of women on this holiday who moved to Spain with a guy, it went sour, but they've stayed. Also met a couple who met online 9 years ago, married, and look great and happy. I mention that because they were a little older than I am now when they met. Nice to know it can happen and there ARE keepers out there!
That sort of makes up for the thumpers. That's why I told both stories.
Funny, he suddenly didn't look so good either.
I met a surprising number of women on this holiday who moved to Spain with a guy, it went sour, but they've stayed. Also met a couple who met online 9 years ago, married, and look great and happy. I mention that because they were a little older than I am now when they met. Nice to know it can happen and there ARE keepers out there!
That sort of makes up for the thumpers. That's why I told both stories.
A Gift or Not A Gift?
She is here on holiday from one of the Northern provinces and will be leaving for home on the fifteenth. I met her at a dance on the third day of her vacation. After spending a very pleasant evening together, we decided to see each other again.
To the present we dated five times and we have three more dates set before she returns. The last one is on Valentines Day. I have booked a table for us in a dark and cozy seafood joint with a small dance floor. I can only find one word to describe our dates so far and that is ‘joyful’. We will probably spend some more time together this weekend. She appeared on the scene at a time when I needed somebody to get somebody else out of my system.
She is not a woman that I would have dated regularly if she was from around here but now, after we dated a few times and knowing her better, I must admit that I would have hanged on to her if she did not live so far away. During our first two dates we have sort of agreed that we won’t pursue the relationship afterwards. Since then the subject was not raised again. I don’t have a problem with that. As I said earlier, she is not quite the woman that I would normally date.
But the fact remains that we had some great times during the last three weeks. I want to give her something to show my appreciation. She is not a materialistic person and she has always offered to pay half the bill. Naturally I refused every time. Last night she wanted to pay the whole bill and I had to be very firm to change her mind.
I have never been in a situation like this and I don’t know if it is appropriate to buy her a parting gift and if so, what a suitable gift will be.
See! It is almost weekend again.
To the present we dated five times and we have three more dates set before she returns. The last one is on Valentines Day. I have booked a table for us in a dark and cozy seafood joint with a small dance floor. I can only find one word to describe our dates so far and that is ‘joyful’. We will probably spend some more time together this weekend. She appeared on the scene at a time when I needed somebody to get somebody else out of my system.
She is not a woman that I would have dated regularly if she was from around here but now, after we dated a few times and knowing her better, I must admit that I would have hanged on to her if she did not live so far away. During our first two dates we have sort of agreed that we won’t pursue the relationship afterwards. Since then the subject was not raised again. I don’t have a problem with that. As I said earlier, she is not quite the woman that I would normally date.
But the fact remains that we had some great times during the last three weeks. I want to give her something to show my appreciation. She is not a materialistic person and she has always offered to pay half the bill. Naturally I refused every time. Last night she wanted to pay the whole bill and I had to be very firm to change her mind.
I have never been in a situation like this and I don’t know if it is appropriate to buy her a parting gift and if so, what a suitable gift will be.
See! It is almost weekend again.
Useful things you learned from your ex
The last relationship that I was in was with a woman from Kentucky. We broke up last January. She had some interesting ways to say the least. I remember one night I opened up the fridge and saw a bad of Doritos in the back on the top shelf. I thought why did she stick in in their for, never saw until now. I had always used a plastic clip to seal the top part of the bags of Doritos, Cheese Puffs, and Funyuns. But I hadn't used the plastic clip for so long, so I had always just rolled up the top part to try to keep it fresh. After about a week or so, it was stale, not good at all.
So one night, which was about two weeks ago I was a little hungry, and decided to go for that bag of Doritos that must have been in there since last December. I thought for sure it wasn't going to have a good taste to it after about a year being in the fridge. Well, I gotta say, I was really surprised. It tasted like I had just bought them and opened to eat.
After that, I put my cheese puffs in there for a few days. Still fresh. Never knew this would work on potato chips. I guess you're never too old to learn things.
Anyone else pick up on some useful things that you learned from your ex, feel free to share.
So one night, which was about two weeks ago I was a little hungry, and decided to go for that bag of Doritos that must have been in there since last December. I thought for sure it wasn't going to have a good taste to it after about a year being in the fridge. Well, I gotta say, I was really surprised. It tasted like I had just bought them and opened to eat.
After that, I put my cheese puffs in there for a few days. Still fresh. Never knew this would work on potato chips. I guess you're never too old to learn things.
Anyone else pick up on some useful things that you learned from your ex, feel free to share.
Scary nature of relationships
Relationships can be a scary situation...especially if you are coming from a past relationship that had failed badly for you.
Why are relationships scary? It is primarily due to the uncertainty of the outcome of that relationship. Both men and women can get deeply hurt if they become involved with the wrong person. It is wise to vet the person you are going to become involved with...and that takes time for that the happen. However, what is the purpose of this vetting process if you do not understand the human dynamics of a relationship in the first place, and the human nature of toxic traits?
Many people have been properly taught what to look out for with toxic traits of people. This teaching primarily comes from one's parents. But, what happens when one is not taught that from their parents? What happens when one is raised in a family that did not have both parents? There are fundamental elements they are not going to learn...thus they still remain uneducated, picking wrong, single/divorced, and scared of entering a new relationship.
When one is educated on human nature and how to spot toxic traits with others, they can then make better decisions in their vetting process; thus, being willing and able to enter a new relationship in a more confident and comfortable way. I think the 50+% divorce rate speaks for itself on how well people have picked in the past. Is it too late to reduce the divorce rate and have couples happy again? I don't think so. But for that to happen, both men and women need to be educated to the reality of discerning a partner's value before jumping into something they regret later on. The sooner a man or a woman picks the right partner, the better it is for both of them.
But, we need to be educated.
Is this so wrong?
Why are relationships scary? It is primarily due to the uncertainty of the outcome of that relationship. Both men and women can get deeply hurt if they become involved with the wrong person. It is wise to vet the person you are going to become involved with...and that takes time for that the happen. However, what is the purpose of this vetting process if you do not understand the human dynamics of a relationship in the first place, and the human nature of toxic traits?
Many people have been properly taught what to look out for with toxic traits of people. This teaching primarily comes from one's parents. But, what happens when one is not taught that from their parents? What happens when one is raised in a family that did not have both parents? There are fundamental elements they are not going to learn...thus they still remain uneducated, picking wrong, single/divorced, and scared of entering a new relationship.
When one is educated on human nature and how to spot toxic traits with others, they can then make better decisions in their vetting process; thus, being willing and able to enter a new relationship in a more confident and comfortable way. I think the 50+% divorce rate speaks for itself on how well people have picked in the past. Is it too late to reduce the divorce rate and have couples happy again? I don't think so. But for that to happen, both men and women need to be educated to the reality of discerning a partner's value before jumping into something they regret later on. The sooner a man or a woman picks the right partner, the better it is for both of them.
But, we need to be educated.
Is this so wrong?
27 and ready
Never thought at this age I would be on a dating site looking for my true love. I'm aware that I may not find him here. Patience is the key I keep telling myself. Still hoping it happen for me. I even think to myself will it happen for me at all.Or will I die before I even have a chance to fall in love for the first time. I guess only time will tell.
Celibacy...Fighting Temptation
First off, I’m not talking about celibacy for religious reasons here but rather celibacy that strengthens fidelity, loyalty, respect and trust in a relationship… specifically that of a long distance relationship.
Fighting off temptations is a hard thing to do.
s*xual energy is a very potent energy and attraction towards opposite sex ( or same sex for others ) are natural. There are different ways to channel s*xual energies to creative uses that could help fight temptation. Spending quality time with my kid, getting busy, work and blogging are the few things that help keep naughty thoughts off my mind 
I had a long heartfelt conversation with my BF last night. Maybe he was drunk...he said he feels guilty of not being here to give me what I should have… I’m much younger than him and I’m at the prime of my s*xual life but not getting enough of it …and that if I decide to have sex with someone I’m attracted to he would understand. He prefer that I don’t but if I really want to enjoy myself then he will accept. He assured me that there’s no one else for him but me and he can’t imagine his life without me in it even with the distance between us now. I told him NO, I could never do such disrespectful thing and maybe just maybe if I could I would just for the heck of it. I’ve already chatted with some nice guys online and could meet anyone here local but it never crossed my thick skull to have some fun sex with any of them. I gave him my word that I would wait and keep myself for him as long as we are in this relationship. I would ask for a complete break before exploring the s*xual world with someone else. He said maybe I should try it to be sure that this is what I really want. Well, I’m not going to risk our relationship for some s*xual rendezvous that would surely make me feel shitty guilty afterwards. If that happens, he will never hear nor see me again.
I'd rather wait and enjoy making love with him than have it with someone else and feel horrible about it afterwards.
Anyway, I’m looking forward to seeing him next weekend…if he could manage to book a flight and hotel as it will be Eid holiday here and a very busy time. Our weird conversation ended up with him asking for goodnight kisses and me reassuring him that I’m all his and that I won’t do any stupid things beyond blogging and of course some harmless chat and flirtations in the virtual land
…easier said done that!
Well, I’m human, I’m a woman…I have needs, I have longings but here I am practicing celibacy for months …all in the name of love. Sure I can go on without sex for years….can you? Really , really?
Fighting off temptations is a hard thing to do.
s*xual energy is a very potent energy and attraction towards opposite sex ( or same sex for others ) are natural. There are different ways to channel s*xual energies to creative uses that could help fight temptation. Spending quality time with my kid, getting busy, work and blogging are the few things that help keep naughty thoughts off my mind I had a long heartfelt conversation with my BF last night. Maybe he was drunk...he said he feels guilty of not being here to give me what I should have… I’m much younger than him and I’m at the prime of my s*xual life but not getting enough of it …and that if I decide to have sex with someone I’m attracted to he would understand. He prefer that I don’t but if I really want to enjoy myself then he will accept. He assured me that there’s no one else for him but me and he can’t imagine his life without me in it even with the distance between us now. I told him NO, I could never do such disrespectful thing and maybe just maybe if I could I would just for the heck of it. I’ve already chatted with some nice guys online and could meet anyone here local but it never crossed my thick skull to have some fun sex with any of them. I gave him my word that I would wait and keep myself for him as long as we are in this relationship. I would ask for a complete break before exploring the s*xual world with someone else. He said maybe I should try it to be sure that this is what I really want. Well, I’m not going to risk our relationship for some s*xual rendezvous that would surely make me feel shitty guilty afterwards. If that happens, he will never hear nor see me again.
I'd rather wait and enjoy making love with him than have it with someone else and feel horrible about it afterwards. Anyway, I’m looking forward to seeing him next weekend…if he could manage to book a flight and hotel as it will be Eid holiday here and a very busy time. Our weird conversation ended up with him asking for goodnight kisses and me reassuring him that I’m all his and that I won’t do any stupid things beyond blogging and of course some harmless chat and flirtations in the virtual land
…easier said done that! Well, I’m human, I’m a woman…I have needs, I have longings but here I am practicing celibacy for months …all in the name of love. Sure I can go on without sex for years….can you? Really , really?
I Know the month Of A Birthday But How About DAY
I love wishing all the bloggers Happy Birthday But How Can One Do So When You Only Have The Star Sign Or Month.I Don't want to look like I am ignoring a birthday,because no matter how we feel about a certain person it is nice to wish them a happy day of birth. Has anyone an idea how we can resolve this little problem.I really hope that we can
Thanks ladies and gents if you can help as there are birthdays 
men's praise
This is when I was younger...much younger.
I didn't realize that men required/need/deeply appreciate (to a psychological level at times) praise from their woman. I am willing to bet that many men did not realize that either.
How could we? Well, I will actually speak from my perspective...how would I? I only dated one woman in my life...it lasted 13 years, but I never dated many women. That is not the way I am wired. I respect a relationship and everything about it. Now of course, there are some men out there that have different wiring than myself; however, I think the topic of this blog is still relevant to you as well.
Okay, back to it then. I didn't realize that men required praise from their woman. It is healthy for a man's self-esteem, his motivation to succeed, to be happy, to be the best possible self he can be. There is nothing wrong with a man being all these things....is there?
The reason why I bring this up is because back in the day, when I was in the middle of that 13 year relationship, I had heard on many occasions from the woman I was dating, she would tell me, "I am not going to give you praise." At the time, I thought to myself, I am not asking for any praise. I am going to continue on with my success and what I am doing in life with our without your praise...needless to say, I was not doing these things for her praise anyway. It was for survival in this tough world.
However...just moments ago I was listening to a pod cast by a certain somebody ...I won't mention his name...and he had a whole show about praise....and how not only women should praise their man, but they should also praise their man in public.
The bottom line...it was an ironic event, and I am thinking there must be something to it...my ex-gf used that exact word back then, and today that blogger used the same word. There must be some importance to it.
P.R.A.I.S.E.
Public display of following traits.
Respect
Accepting
Investing
Sacrificing
Enthusiastically
What do you think men and women....should women praise their man?
....also I would like to ask...
What does it mean if they don't praise you?
or
What does it mean if they do praise you?
If your woman is not "investing" in you, is that a troubling sign for the relationship?
Of course, this topic of praise is about a high value man...a man who is not toxic in anyway....
I didn't realize that men required/need/deeply appreciate (to a psychological level at times) praise from their woman. I am willing to bet that many men did not realize that either.
How could we? Well, I will actually speak from my perspective...how would I? I only dated one woman in my life...it lasted 13 years, but I never dated many women. That is not the way I am wired. I respect a relationship and everything about it. Now of course, there are some men out there that have different wiring than myself; however, I think the topic of this blog is still relevant to you as well.
Okay, back to it then. I didn't realize that men required praise from their woman. It is healthy for a man's self-esteem, his motivation to succeed, to be happy, to be the best possible self he can be. There is nothing wrong with a man being all these things....is there?
The reason why I bring this up is because back in the day, when I was in the middle of that 13 year relationship, I had heard on many occasions from the woman I was dating, she would tell me, "I am not going to give you praise." At the time, I thought to myself, I am not asking for any praise. I am going to continue on with my success and what I am doing in life with our without your praise...needless to say, I was not doing these things for her praise anyway. It was for survival in this tough world.
However...just moments ago I was listening to a pod cast by a certain somebody
...I won't mention his name...and he had a whole show about praise....and how not only women should praise their man, but they should also praise their man in public. The bottom line...it was an ironic event, and I am thinking there must be something to it...my ex-gf used that exact word back then, and today that blogger used the same word. There must be some importance to it.
P.R.A.I.S.E.
Public display of following traits.
Respect
Accepting
Investing
Sacrificing
Enthusiastically
What do you think men and women....should women praise their man?
....also I would like to ask...
What does it mean if they don't praise you?
or
What does it mean if they do praise you?
If your woman is not "investing" in you, is that a troubling sign for the relationship?
Of course, this topic of praise is about a high value man...a man who is not toxic in anyway....
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