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In an area where Connecting Singles is firmly anchored, it may be easier to find a decent match and a date if it works out. Men outnumber women among CS members. For both gender you may find a lot of inactive members. That narrows down your choice, but also the 'competition'.

I have checked the number of male CS members between 40 and 50 in different countries in the EU and in the UK. Ladies, here we go.

In my native Belgium you find 1112 men in the target age range for a total population (both gender all ages) of 11.6 Million. (Those 1112 men don't include me, since I 'm way over 50.)

In the Netherlands, CS counts 923 men in the target range for a population of 17.5 M.

In France you find that same number of 923 men, yet more thinly spread among a total population of 67.9 M.

In Germany CS counts 1499 men aged 40 to 50 range among a population of 84.3 M.

In Sweden CS counts 1024 men in the target age range for a population of 10.4 M.

Italy counts 1130 male CS members in that age range for a population of 58.9 M.

In Spain you may find 930 men in the target age range for a population of 47.6 M.

In the UK you find 6224 blokes between 40 and 50 for a population of 67.3 M. Greater London and Northern Ireland are slightly overrepresented.

That brings us seamlessly to the Irish Republic where we find 5716 blokes between 40 and 50 for a total population just north of 5 M. That dwarfs the UK market share and it comes even close in absolute numbers.

Some more small EU member states now: Malta is topping the CS market share billboard with 1775 male members in the target age range for a population of barely 518.500.
No more chance for Cyprus to do better. But with a total number of 680 CS men between 40 and 50 for a population of 1.25 M, their CS market share nevertheless eclipses that of the UK.
Forget about Luxemburg where CS narrowed down your choice to only 78 men for a population of 640.000.

Note: Last year, I have published a similar blog : "CS market share in different EU countries" for men looking for a lady aged 40 or above:

We all, whether on our profile, or just in our heads, have a list of the characteristics and qualities we would like in a potential partner.
The list can be mind-boggling in some cases , both for the prospective partner, and even more importantly for ourselves.

To differentiate between them, maybe we should break them down into categories, from the Gamechanger down to the Would be nice, but basically Inessential

1. Gamechanger

2. Preferable but not a gamechanger

3. Desirable, but not that important

4. Would be nice, but basically Inessential

When we think about it properly, we may have no gamechangers, but lots of No. 2s instead.

No two people will have exactly the same order of necessity. Indeed, some people’s priorities are polar opposites to others.
But it is good for ourselves to know them either way.


If we sort them out, it may be easier to separate the wheat from the chaff, and concentrate on what is really important to us.

There's two fundamental issues here I see. loneliness and living unfulfilled. ( and feminisms propaganda backed by cia psyops)
Men and women both have needs and desires and both have their mental and emotional ways of going about aquiring both to be happier and to enjoy some contentment in life.

Here's the thing I see. If you see today's females on the cam sites, just going crazy with 's*xual expression' and having a field day raking in the bucks. We can say two people are enjoying themselves and some what being full filled. And we see a female with no holds ...no gate keeping requirements or standards, as many webcams are free to watch and admire and comment converse between models and clients. Yes its a bit sterile but sex is all in the head right.

The secrets oit! Females like sex. Females like being creative sexually. Females enjoy attention and want admiration. Females want to be wanted and needed. Females want to make a living on their terms. Females develope and use their skills to earn. No different than say a roofer or plumber or singer, I say.

But .. People still live alone and are lonely and live unfulfilled, with no mate, husband, wife, gf, bf. And no LAWYERS! Yes divorce has really destroyed male female relationships and increased the gun shy crowd...
(Cont?)

Some days I read through the blogs, skipping the numpties, popping in to see what my favourites have to say, saying little myself, and enjoying CS socials.

Some days, and there is never any warning, I get offended for little or no reason and wham, I'm talking and the feet are kicking themselves to see which one can get into my mouth faster.

Those days I should go away. I'm going now. This blog is just to say sorry if my response on a blog looked abrupt or downright rude. Sorry if I hurt anyone's feelings. Sometimes the fingers are rattling away before the brain is in gear and then too late to hit the brakes, the comment is out there, and it is OTT, because I'm an idiot.

It's hard when you miss people. But you know, if you miss them, it means you were lucky. It means you had someone special in your life, someone worth missing.

Whats wrong with you guys. What are you looking for?
After being married most of my life and now single, I find men are ugly, inside and out. OK I am not expecting men to look better than they did than in younger years, but just letting yourselves go does not help either. Who likes an enormous pot belly in front of you?
Forgetting the looks, now to your character, did I just have a great husband and forgot that all the other guys are just not nice, or am I just meeting up with the wrong ones? How do I difference between someone who wants to try them all the available ones out and those that really want a relationship?
Also to finances, some, mostly divorced, find themseves with a very low pension and now expect the woman to keep them, while keeping their meager income to themselves.
Have I tried all sorts that are available, or there those that are really ready, just to be happy in a comfortable relationship, where each puts in the best they can. I think men are afraid of commitment.
One day it will be too late for you, and you will be sitting there slobbering.
My biggest problem, there are not a lot of suitable men near me, so I am very limited .

Sometimes i wonder if people are here for dating or just for the hell of it.
I haven't been here for a while but it seems nothing much has changed when it comes to why people are here.
The next question i have is, why are africans especially interested in only how to get money?
there are so many different kinds of people here but its only africans who has asked fo money, and doesn't seem to care really how they get it.

When I think of "You don't look like your father" actress Liv Rundgren aka Liv Tyler comes to mind. Her mother Bebe Buell had a brief relationship with Aerosmith singer Steven Tyler distanced by his drug addictions and had been living with Musician Todd Rundgren.
Liv always thought Todd was her biological father.
About 10 years later Liv met Steven and noticed their resemblance. Her mother later confirmed her suspicion.
Okay, so everyone became rich and famous and life moves on...

That doesn't always happen that way as some suspicions that are confirmed by DNA testing often have negative consequences. If you've seen episodes of Maury Povich or Dr. Phil you know what I'm talking about.
Typical scenario: She's a Baby-Mama looking to find who the real daddy is. The 3 guys she's been shacking up with all took DNA tests. The reveal is explosive!

Maury, Maury, Maury...

Here's one where two women claim the same man fathered their children and he denied their accusations.

Only to meet someone as messed up as I am and marry her

Last week, a handsome white man, and a beautiful black girl walked in a shop,i was there with my boss.
The girl greeted me and smile , with her small metisse son, immediately, the boy friend (or i don't know if it was the husband)
got angry, and asked her why did you greet him in english.The wife replied, what is wrong in greeting him?
The man brutally push the wife, took his son and asked the woman to follow him out of the shop.Since my boss don't understand english, he asked me why the man was so rude? I said he was angry because the wife greeted me. I almost called the police, but my boss asked me not to.
Well, that's the world!