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New to online dating..Now, I' m beginnjng to think if it works at all.First, I came across some scammers...who say they' re looking for relationships, but, only interested in getting to know you, your personal life so they scam you.
Are there real men here ? I'm interested in foreign men for long term relationship.
I'm caring, homely, kind,sincere.

She has set her notifications that prevent communication from those in faraway lands. I send her a LIKE in hopes that she will reconsider her position and allow a message to be received from another continent. I can understand her reluctance - this person she desires should be within 50 miles or less for practical reasons - and where too would I find the money to pay for a flight (when flights resume more as they should) to get her to me or vice versa? I'm idealistic, I know, but shouldn't we believe love will find out the way? As per the following poem:

Love Will Find Out The Way

Over the mountains
And over the waves,
Under the fountains
And under the graves;
Under floods that are deepest,
Which Neptune obey,
Over rocks that are steepest,
Love will find out the way.

When there is no place
For the glow-worm to lie,
When there is no space
For receipt of a fly;
When the midge dares not venture
Lest herself fast she lay,
If Love come, he will enter
And will find out the way.

You may esteem him
A child for his might;
Or you may deem him
A coward for his flight;
But if she whom Love doth honour
Be conceal'd from the day-
Set a thousand guards upon her,
Love will find out the way.

Some think to lose him
By having him confined;
And some do suppose him,
Poor heart! to be blind;
But if ne'er so close ye wall him,
Do the best that ye may,
Blind Love, if so ye call him,
He will find out his way.

You may train the eagle
To stoop to your fist;
Or you may inveigle
The Phoenix of the east;
The lioness, you may move her
To give over her prey;
But you'll ne'er stop a lover-
He will find out the way.

If the earth it should part him,
He would gallop it o'er;
If the seas should o'erthwart him,
He would swim to the shore;
Should his Love become a swallow,
Through the air to stray,
Love will lend wings to follow,
And will find out the way.

There is no striving
To cross his intent;
There is no contriving
His plots to prevent;
But if once the message greet him
That his True Love doth stay,
If Death should come and meet him,
Love will find out the way!

Anonymous Olde English

Many people here openly say they are looking for love.

Where do they think to find it ?

People are so obsessed with finding love. (I feel) But it's not a job/business opportunity, lost puppy or a Diamond in a mine to be found or to look for.

You can not find love signing up in a dating site with an ideal partner solidly etched in your head. Matches are only made in heaven. May be you will find a perfect match if and when you reach there. On earth you have to become the match.

Be open minded. Be kind. Be loving. You have to start loving in order to be loved. Love is in loving. You won't find it anywhere else unless you first find it in your own heart.

So... until you find love within yourself, all you need is not love. A shag, a partner to share your life or loneliness with. (May be.)

Delete the ideal image in your mind and learn to accept people for who they are while not changing who you are. That's the basic seed of love.

Or just say, looking for a shag. That is honesty to a certain degree with most profiles. I think.

What can I say? Many years go by and nada. It gets really tough to keep on believing that there is that special someone out there for you. Maybe it's just not in the cards, and the sooner you realize that, the sooner you can be free of the whole romantic thing? Sometimes I can handle the 'loneliness' situation better than at other times. Right now, all I want to say is: 'Ahm lonely, woman! Git a move on!'

One question, madam ... Do you like French men? What do you think of us? Would you like to meet a French man? Have you ever met a French man? Give your opinion ...

You've been ghosted when the person who was messaging / emailing / texting so often suddenly goes quiet. Whoosh. Gone. No explanation, not a word, no message, no email. Could be dead. Could be bored. Could have lost their cellphone privileges.



You've been benched when they vanish to pursue other interests, then return all smiles

Hard to know whether you've been ghosted or benched at the time Also hard to know how to react when the ghost reappears as though there had never been a benching. If you like them, I mean.

Kick em inna teeth or act as if you never noticed they'd vanished ...

Is it when your toes curl? when your heart beats fast?

What is it?

Years ago when I used to use the dating sites for dating, I had quite a few dates. I never had a bad experience unless you count boredom on a date a bad experience. I had a few of those. But I also had a lot of very fun dates and really never disliked any of the girls I met. A few became good friends over the years. There was some romance here and there, but I’m not easy to warm up to and I have a standoffish personality with women so I never let them get too close. Eventually, the ones who are interested in me give up.

But there were a couple of things that happened during my dating site extravaganza that were particularly memorable.

The first one happened I’m going to say maybe 7-10 years ago, I don’t remember exactly. It was on MD. Some here will know what that is.

I got a very strange message from a woman who claimed to be a matchmaker for celebrities and she said she had a client interested in meeting me. My first reaction was yeah right. I mean I am about the last person a scammer would ever want to waste their time on. I was sure it was a scam.

So she asked if we could talk on the phone and she would tell me more. As skeptical as I was, I was still intrigued, so I told her okay provided I can call her instead of her calling me. And I asked her to be sure to give me her office number so I can look it up and trace it to her business. She did! I did! It was! I was shocked at that point. In fact that number was registered to a dating agency that specializes in finding dates for celebrities. And I even went on their website and saw a profile of this woman that contacted me there. Couldn’t believe it was legit.

So anyway I called her and she told me something about this woman including a basic physical description but could not reveal anything that would identify her because she would have to remain anonymous until we met. That was the rule. It would be a blind date. Hmmmmmmm. I don’t do blind dates, but I didn’t say anything. She said she was a very well known actress who had homes in both New York, and California and was taking a break in between sessions shooting a movie overseas. I mean if I didn’t know this woman was legit, I wouldn’t have believed a word I was hearing.

So I asked her why this woman wanted to meet me. She said she thought I was attractive and liked the things I said. Okay now I was REALLY suspicious! ;-)

So I told her that I wanted to think it over and would get back to her. I thought it over and decided not to do it. I just couldn’t get passed the blind date thing. She would know what I look like and something about me, but I knew pretty much nothing about her. That just made me uncomfortable.

I still don’t regret it, but I do wonder, every time I think about it who it was. I will never know...

Okay the second story.

I was on another dating site. Can’t remember which one it was. This girl had something in her profile that caught my attention and I wrote her a short note to comment on it. She didn’t have a picture posted in her profile, and in those days that was a no go for me as far as dating because it was just a waste of time if I met someone and wasn’t physically attracted to her.

Her name was Kitty.

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How come some women say they want a good man that loves them and cares for them, but when a good man comes in their life, the woman gives the man their old baggage. I don't understand. Now I am sure some women feel like I do, but for now lets please talk about my point of view. Thank you. I honestly believe two people can be together understanding what needs to be done for them to be happy for the rest of their life. That's just how I feel.