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Its so easy for people to download an image from the net and post it as their own. All dating sites seem to be vulnerable to this. Basically if its a profession looking photo and the woman is good looking the chances are extremely high its fake. Check by going to (better than Yahoo, Bing or Google I found but you can try them as well) after saving the image on your device. Then you upload the image to Yandex/Google and the search engine will look for the same image online. Takes just a couple of seconds. Get ready to be disappointed and hopefully you haven't wasted too much time talking to Miss Wonderful who mysteriously never is available to voice chat (no privacy, no mic, no internet, and on and on). Probably a 300 lb Nigerian guy!

First determine is she's female. Voice chat is the only way for that (hopefully software voice modification hasn't gotten popular with the scammers yet). Next is video chat so you can see the person talking. Does it match the photo on the profile

Second determine her financial needs. Does she bring up her money woes all the time? if she does she's probably doing exactly the same to 10-20 other guys. Even if they only send $50 a month (nothing for a developed country worker), multiply that by 20 and its a sizable sum for someone making a few dollars a day doing maid work. Enough they would never consider mopping another floor again. The financial motivation is enormous for poor people acting "friendly" on the phone. She may even rationalize it by convincing herself this is the best way to screen all her suitors. Or her children need it. We're all very skilled at rationalization.

Third determine her dependents. Many rationalize gold digging because their family is out of work and is destitute. Marry her and you have to support the whole family.

Fourth determine how open she is to you visiting. If you hang out with her a lot she won't be able to hide her many contacts online who want to talk to her, who she risks losing if she's not available as before. A con artist doesn't like to be observed closely.

What other ways do you guys use for screening golddiggers?

Interracial dating is a touchy subject for many.
I have no emotion about it either way!

More about love and it's short comings..

Relationship taught me that,
you should always find a reason to stay. You will get tired in the process and question your love but the most important thing is to understand each other & compromise. If you get tired, rest but don’t just leave and be patient. ????
Through Night and Day...

Sure, money, inlaws, illness, substances, military service, flings, politics, and much more. In our case it was differences in parenting. I was wrong. VERY wrong.
Today, a nice younger couple from New Hampsire bought my latest boat, in a fair deal to both parties. I spent the day with them teaching how to be good owners, so it will be fun and last a long time.
I think boat ownership should be added to the sad list of things coming between couples.These two were a nice match, and loved each other by all appearances. And they were good learners (of course they had a tree top teacher), and already had many technical sailing skills. And it was gratifying to see how they cooperated with each other, and with me. No kids yet, and both were educated and with good jobs.
A perfect picture. Until things started to go wrong, which of course on any watercraft, is bound to happen. Regularly. And at the worst possible times and circumstances.
She seemed better at technical things than he did, yet he seemed to try to do more than his share of tasks. He made his share of understandable errors, all of us as novices make. She and I were calm and understanding, as we all made our share of the usual goofas well.
But then I saw it, and heard it. As his frustration grew, he also began to speak a little more harshly with her. Once saying, in a slightly angry voice, "I can't believe you did that the way you.did." She kept her calm supportive demeanor.
Overall, it was actually congenial. But couples who have been there will know the worrying signs.
Here I am signalling virtue, when in fact, in younger years, I wish I was more patient.
Experientia docet.

I mentioned in one of my threads...about political beliefs not being on dating profiles and how important it is to know....which side of the fence...people stand on....well I noticed POF now has political beliefs as part of the dating profile...but will people be honest or pretend to be something...they are not...

I mean will a far left wing marxist...admit to being the worst of the worst on the political ladder? I think it's unlikely and I admit...I would run a mile...regardless of how good looking a woman looked{not that many marxists are worth a single look)...if I knew she hated men...the white race...productivity...traditional family values...a babies right to be born...free speech...free will...the right to own property etc...nothing would be a bigger turn off

I do think it is important to know someone's political beliefs...cause lets face it....Who wants to date someone...who is totally incompatible and totally in opposite to their own beliefs...Maybe some might think it does not matter...but I tell you now...it will matter and your life could be made a complete misery...just for being you

Some quote i see today
"if you are not happy, then itsnot a happy ending"
its very similar with my own experience today.
I was thought that this man will be the last one.
He looks very religious.
Very mature.
Very kind.
Very sweet with his words.
But ... he want me to be somebody i even dont know.
and it wasnt me.
He wanted me to be more skinny,
more white,
more slim,
more religious,
more...
and
.. he want me to be just like my sisters.
I've tried but i finally found that i cant be anyone.
I love my body even it has fat everywhere.
I love my skin even it looks like burnt in the sun.
I love my job even it cost a small wage.
Then..
I saw that quote today on my facebook.
I realize that, i dont have tobe anyone to be happy.
I want a happy ending not a sad ending.
Its so simple.
Not a complicated thing to do.
Just a happy life.
so...
I send him a break up message.
I cannot do this anymore.
I cannot follow his rules.
I think it's better to be alone right now.
I still hope...i will found my happy ending tommorow.
I dont know when but i am sure it will come.
Stay good. Stay wise.
Stay safe.


19/07/2020

Some people date other races...get married to other races and have children with other races...but I wonder if it is a good thing...or a bad thing....to mix races in dating and have mixed raced children....

I consider the differences in culture...ancestral history...religious beliefs...between me and a woman of another race....also if a woman could not speak very good english...it would be a nightmare communicating my thoughts to her....

Women of my race play enough mind games and use shit tests...but at least they will understand my words...when I am bold enough...to call them out on it and tell them how it is

The Task is simple. A series of questions.
The bride & groom sit back to back and answer questions simultaneously
by holding either the male type object up, or the female object.
Do they agree, or not ?

Lets see;

I logged on this morning to see that 4 of 5 profiles (with photos) created today are bogus.
Guys, that's not good if your intentions are to meet someone for dating.

We've got Jessica Clements and Valentina Nappi hanging out here!