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As I ponder what it is that each gender wants in a partner, I cannot help but think that there are going to be inevitable conflicts within the opposite gender we seek.

Are we destined by life to be partners? I would say yes. We need to reproduce to be life...otherwise life itself would no longer exist. In order to create life, we need to partner up.

So therefore, we need to pick a partner we wish or want to procreate with.

For a woman, she desires security. That could be a tall guy. That could be a wealthy guy. That could be a well adapted socially intelligent guy. That might be a physically strong guy. The list goes on. Many (if not all) women want all of these traits in the guy they choose to reproduce with.

The problem is, God did not design all men in such a way to satisfy all women. If all men were tall, there would be no tall men. There needs to be short men in order to have tall men. If all men were physically strong, there would be no strong men. There needs to be physically weak men in order for there to be strong men. .....and so on and so on.

The same can be said about men's desires with the woman he wants to reproduce with....she is to be young, she is to be healthy looking (hair & breasts). She is to be of an agreeable nature. She is to be nurturing.

Not all women are these traits.

So why did God create such variations of humans?

Maybe the answer to that question has to do with Life's Big Picture.

Perhaps our purpose.

Remember, we need to partner up to have life in the first place. Need....

Maybe we are here to test our ego, to test our vanity, to test our level of selfishness.....how much will we bend to our personal desires? Will we bend to our personal desires to the point where we will eliminate ourselves...deny life; thus, deny ourselves?

When I think of "You don't look like your father" actress Liv Rundgren aka Liv Tyler comes to mind. Her mother Bebe Buell had a brief relationship with Aerosmith singer Steven Tyler distanced by his drug addictions and had been living with Musician Todd Rundgren.
Liv always thought Todd was her biological father.
About 10 years later Liv met Steven and noticed their resemblance. Her mother later confirmed her suspicion.
Okay, so everyone became rich and famous and life moves on...

That doesn't always happen that way as some suspicions that are confirmed by DNA testing often have negative consequences. If you've seen episodes of Maury Povich or Dr. Phil you know what I'm talking about.
Typical scenario: She's a Baby-Mama looking to find who the real daddy is. The 3 guys she's been shacking up with all took DNA tests. The reveal is explosive!

Maury, Maury, Maury...

Here's one where two women claim the same man fathered their children and he denied their accusations.

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It has been awhile since I last talked about feminism and its dangers to society.

I am curious, what do people on here think about feminism today?

...good
...bad
...indifferent

In an area where Connecting Singles is firmly anchored, it may be easier to find a decent match and a date if it works out. Men outnumber women among CS members. For both gender you may find a lot of inactive members. That narrows down your choice, but also the 'competition'.

I have checked the number of male CS members between 40 and 50 in different countries in the EU and in the UK. Ladies, here we go.

In my native Belgium you find 1112 men in the target age range for a total population (both gender all ages) of 11.6 Million. (Those 1112 men don't include me, since I 'm way over 50.)

In the Netherlands, CS counts 923 men in the target range for a population of 17.5 M.

In France you find that same number of 923 men, yet more thinly spread among a total population of 67.9 M.

In Germany CS counts 1499 men aged 40 to 50 range among a population of 84.3 M.

In Sweden CS counts 1024 men in the target age range for a population of 10.4 M.

Italy counts 1130 male CS members in that age range for a population of 58.9 M.

In Spain you may find 930 men in the target age range for a population of 47.6 M.

In the UK you find 6224 blokes between 40 and 50 for a population of 67.3 M. Greater London and Northern Ireland are slightly overrepresented.

That brings us seamlessly to the Irish Republic where we find 5716 blokes between 40 and 50 for a total population just north of 5 M. That dwarfs the UK market share and it comes even close in absolute numbers.

Some more small EU member states now: Malta is topping the CS market share billboard with 1775 male members in the target age range for a population of barely 518.500.
No more chance for Cyprus to do better. But with a total number of 680 CS men between 40 and 50 for a population of 1.25 M, their CS market share nevertheless eclipses that of the UK.
Forget about Luxemburg where CS narrowed down your choice to only 78 men for a population of 640.000.

Note: Last year, I have published a similar blog : "CS market share in different EU countries" for men looking for a lady aged 40 or above:

Firstly, how attractive do you find people with no profile pic and (b) what does the absence of a profile pic indicate?

*Yes I am aware of the numbering.

So, yesterday, I was invited to hang out with a female friend in the city, she was making a 2:30pm facial appointment at this salon, after waiting an hour and a half, she was finally ready, so she paid, $110.00 for the facial, then she says, oh I have to go quote a laptop for her college studies, so we then went off, and searched around the city, we stopped at a few places to get prices, one place, was asking $1,699.00 for a laptop, the second place was $899.00 and the third was $299.00, but the third laptop was refurbished and she wanted a brand new one, so I told her, an refurbished laptop is just as good and it comes with a one year warranty, so she’s decides to call her boyfriend on the phone, and gets him to pay for it, then she requested a laptop carrying case to go with it, which the boyfriend paid again, afterwards we decided to go grocery shopping, when we get to the grocery store, she says to me, oh I need food this week coming for me and my son, she then asked me, did I have my card, so my response was, yes I do, little did I know, she used me, to buy a few bits of groceries for the week, I realized this later, when arrived home, I said to myself, she can spend $110.00 on a facial, get her boyfriend to spend $300 on an laptop, but can’t afford to buy herself groceries. SMH.

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