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Studies have shown that there are plenty of differences between the way a woman’s brain functions, versus that of a man’s.

men
and women....
man seem to have different thought processes.

Harvard Men's Health Watch

says....

men are the (medically) weaker sex.

UNICEF is the acronym for United Nations International Children’s Emergency Fund, created in 1946. In 1953 their name changed to United Nations Children’s Fund.
What do I know about UNICEF?
Other than the name being some agency that helps children in third-world countries... I really know nothing substantial about them.
What I do know is the number of women who are on CS and claim to be working for UNICEF to be as much as 5% of new membership, only to be beat by hairdressers who work in saloons. (yeah, saloons and not salons)

So, I did a quick check to see a little about UNICEF.
Headquartered in New York City much of their efforts impact the lives of the most disadvantaged children. Prevention of disease, immunization programs, educational and welfare services is what they do.
Their website has a global outreach working in over 190 countries and that sounds like they employ hundreds of thousands of people around the globe.

Looking at the careers, they are always hiring on a contract basis for all positions. That part is legit. So it makes things harder to sift out who is real and who is fake, especially since so many female members on CS claim to be working for UNICEF.

I'm a skeptic and think it's the perfect front for a scammer who claims to travel or be an American working for UNICEF to be on assignment in Zambia, Ukraine or some country different that what the profile really says. She's from Texas but on assignment in Ghana.
You get the picture...

Getting down and personal with this blog but I'm hoping someone could shed some light on an individual's (my ex's) behaviour.

So the story goes;

My ex and I were together for two years. I broke up with him last month due to a number of reasons, one of those being I had a niggling feeling he was up to no good behind my back. He swore to me on many occasions he would never cheat or do anything to hurt me.

For the few days following our breakup, he made attempts to get me back but not much effort, he was nonchalant and on the whole seemed like he could take it or leave it. By the end of that week I found out he had indeed been cheating on me, however I kept it to myself until I texted him after 3 weeks to inform him that I knew and I then proceeded to block/delete him in every which way I could.

What I know for certain and don't need clarification on is that he doesn't want me back and I don't want him back, but I don't understand some of his behaviour since;

E.g. Keeping our profile picture for five weeks afterwards? Is this a way of portraying to the public that he is respectful of the relationship we had, when it is far from the truth? He has since changed his main profile picture but our picture is still on display on his page.

Today I arrived home to a delivery, it was a box returning some of my daughter's things which I had left at his place, and also containing a Christmas present for my daughter. At first, I felt he was trying to hurt me returning them a few days before Christmas but after giving it some thought, the timing of returning the items makes sense when he wanted to send an Xmas gift. There was no note, apologising for any of his behaviour and he didn't return any of my belongings. In his defence, I didn't leave much only a few small travel appliances and nightwear, but could he have not returned those? I'm guessing he has discarded my belongings.

If you have wronged someone who loved the bones of you and only did good by you, why not own up, apologise and do the right thing?

Relationships can be a scary situation...especially if you are coming from a past relationship that had failed badly for you.

Why are relationships scary? It is primarily due to the uncertainty of the outcome of that relationship. Both men and women can get deeply hurt if they become involved with the wrong person. It is wise to vet the person you are going to become involved with...and that takes time for that the happen. However, what is the purpose of this vetting process if you do not understand the human dynamics of a relationship in the first place, and the human nature of toxic traits?

Many people have been properly taught what to look out for with toxic traits of people. This teaching primarily comes from one's parents. But, what happens when one is not taught that from their parents? What happens when one is raised in a family that did not have both parents? There are fundamental elements they are not going to learn...thus they still remain uneducated, picking wrong, single/divorced, and scared of entering a new relationship.

When one is educated on human nature and how to spot toxic traits with others, they can then make better decisions in their vetting process; thus, being willing and able to enter a new relationship in a more confident and comfortable way. I think the 50+% divorce rate speaks for itself on how well people have picked in the past. Is it too late to reduce the divorce rate and have couples happy again? I don't think so. But for that to happen, both men and women need to be educated to the reality of discerning a partner's value before jumping into something they regret later on. The sooner a man or a woman picks the right partner, the better it is for both of them.

But, we need to be educated.

Is this so wrong?

"Woman flew 3000 miles to meet online boyfriend before being murdered for her organs".


Sad and Painful......
The romantic pursuits of a 51-year-old woman that saw her travel 3,000 miles from her home in Mexico for a date in Peru took a nightmarish turn after her dismembered body washed up on a beach.

Let's be careful and aware of the 'unexpected dangers' in online connections and dating.
Scammers target online dating services to commit Crimes, Cheating, identity thefts and financial frauds.

Just got through watching a clip from Family Feud where a question was asked (name something you like your girlfriend to do to your face) to the players on the show.

I have to admit, this would be my choice. I'm sure along with myself, most guys would like this.

After watching the women's reaction to this answer to where they didn't look upset about it at all, as they laughed and clapped about it whether they actually liked that, and/or thought it was funny enough to clap. It got me thinking just how many women out there actually enjoy this?

Any thoughts on this feel free to share. Down below is the clip.

This is when I was younger...much younger.

I didn't realize that men required/need/deeply appreciate (to a psychological level at times) praise from their woman. I am willing to bet that many men did not realize that either.

How could we? Well, I will actually speak from my perspective...how would I? I only dated one woman in my life...it lasted 13 years, but I never dated many women. That is not the way I am wired. I respect a relationship and everything about it. Now of course, there are some men out there that have different wiring than myself; however, I think the topic of this blog is still relevant to you as well.

Okay, back to it then. I didn't realize that men required praise from their woman. It is healthy for a man's self-esteem, his motivation to succeed, to be happy, to be the best possible self he can be. There is nothing wrong with a man being all these things....is there?

The reason why I bring this up is because back in the day, when I was in the middle of that 13 year relationship, I had heard on many occasions from the woman I was dating, she would tell me, "I am not going to give you praise." At the time, I thought to myself, I am not asking for any praise. I am going to continue on with my success and what I am doing in life with our without your praise...needless to say, I was not doing these things for her praise anyway. It was for survival in this tough world.

However...just moments ago I was listening to a pod cast by a certain somebody ...I won't mention his name...and he had a whole show about praise....and how not only women should praise their man, but they should also praise their man in public.

The bottom line...it was an ironic event, and I am thinking there must be something to it...my ex-gf used that exact word back then, and today that blogger used the same word. There must be some importance to it.

P.R.A.I.S.E.

Public display of following traits.
Respect
Accepting
Investing
Sacrificing
Enthusiastically

What do you think men and women....should women praise their man?

....also I would like to ask...

What does it mean if they don't praise you?
or
What does it mean if they do praise you?

If your woman is not "investing" in you, is that a troubling sign for the relationship?

Of course, this topic of praise is about a high value man...a man who is not toxic in anyway....

Wow. There’s a well-known saying that we learn something new everyday, but I never really put any thought to it. However, I learned something today that made me realize that I had overlooked the dictionary meaning of a crucial word in my profile, by assuming a ‘personalized’ meaning instead. “Companionship” for me, means (meant) a relationship that’s strongly anchored in friendship, and also consists of intimacy (emotional & s*xual). So, according to my profile heading, I’m looking for more than just a relationship. However, to my surprise, I’ve recently learned that:

“Companionship is the state of being someone’s friend or companion. It can be a platonic relationship between two people who simply enjoy each other’s company. Companionship is a term often used in the context of friendship. It’s a relationship in which both parties support each other emotionally without having s*xual interest.”
“A relationship is defined as a connection between two or more people. Relationships can be intimate when there is a strong emotional bond, or they can be casual when there is a less emotional investment.”(Enlightio.com)

Was I wrong in presuming that a Companionship has more value than a Relationship? Am I the only person who thinks (thought) that companionship goes deeper than relationship?

If these definitions are correct, then I may have to make an adjustment to my profile heading. What do you think?

According to the podcaster I listen to...

What are some traits that make a high value man?

...of course, everything is dependent on one's age and living location. (some living locations have different cost of living)

1. high economic wealth...making 6 figures for about 5 years in a row.

2. your image...which leads into a man's attitude

3. your material possessions.

4. you have to be accepted among other high value men.

5. you have little time available.

Now, only a very small percent of men qualify as high value...to give you an idea, it is only the top 1 to 2%. So a man can be of higher value (which would mean there are some variations in the list)...but only very few men will achieve a top high value status.

In my opinion, this is valuable for both men and women to know and understand.

For men....these are traits that others value...and yourself may value.
For women...high value men are rare...and if you are holding out for one, you may remain single for life.


What do you think?

Happy almost Friday all.

The last relationship that I was in was with a woman from Kentucky. We broke up last January. She had some interesting ways to say the least. I remember one night I opened up the fridge and saw a bad of Doritos in the back on the top shelf. I thought why did she stick in in their for, never saw until now. I had always used a plastic clip to seal the top part of the bags of Doritos, Cheese Puffs, and Funyuns. But I hadn't used the plastic clip for so long, so I had always just rolled up the top part to try to keep it fresh. After about a week or so, it was stale, not good at all.

So one night, which was about two weeks ago I was a little hungry, and decided to go for that bag of Doritos that must have been in there since last December. I thought for sure it wasn't going to have a good taste to it after about a year being in the fridge. Well, I gotta say, I was really surprised. It tasted like I had just bought them and opened to eat.

After that, I put my cheese puffs in there for a few days. Still fresh. Never knew this would work on potato chips. I guess you're never too old to learn things.

Anyone else pick up on some useful things that you learned from your ex, feel free to share.