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Romance Is Dead
Romance is dead. It died when a so-called enlightened society decided that there is no difference between men and women and any suggestion to the contrary is sexist. Goodbye romance. R.I.P.
Seriously.....How many of you who have been on CS for years have actually met and married someone?
I have been on and off CS for at least almost the last four years and.........? Reminds me of the Stones' song"Can't get no satisfaction"! I am not necessarily knocking CS but......... is this a dating site or...more a "social atmosphere" for all of the mateless wannabees to meet,mingle and commiserate with each other? As usual.... feel free to post any opinion you want to my blog....HOWEVER, I WILL NOT TOLERATE PERSONAL ATTACKS,INSULTS OR COARSE LANGUAGE! DELETED IMMEDIATELY!
what to do?
well this is my first time doing this .
what to do i mean i am married for 28 years she has been a good wife we renewed our vows in 2018. how ever she currently resides in a nursing home because of her health problems and she is the same age as me 58.before you people start she voluntary put herself in said nursing home because i was her primary caregiver and yes we did have help comming in sometimes twice a week however there were a few that didnt want to do there job and i coudnt provide for all her health needs yes she is beibg well taken care of and we were seening each other every day untill this covid shit now we see each other though a window or chat on video or by messenger yes the home does allow outside visits wear mask 6 feet apart. i have a feeling its going to be a not so fun thanksgiving and xmas. yes i know that i shouldnt be on connceting singles but here i am
and before you people shoot thy mouth off yes she has giving me permission to find a girlfreind she knows that i have needs that she cant do anymore and is compleatly ok with that. so i hve been searchig for the one but to no avail yes i know that alot of women wont give me the time of day because im married well it just so happens that my situation is rather unqinic and i struggel everyday not to be able to hold one another.i know you people are sying well if yo do find nother woman would i tellmy wife absolultily we hide nother from each other and have a understanding she is in the said nursing home indefinetly i know what you people are going to say whats amatter dont you love your wife on the contrary i love her very much and even though she is in sai home i do asmuch as i can from outside yes i do buy her flowers and anything else she wants. but a man has needs and she knows that i just hope that its not going to take too long to find someone because im almost 60 and pritty soon my time will be up and it will sux not being able to be with a women again before my time runs out. i know you people will say why dont you go find a sult if i could find one that is. well thanks for reading this i know that some of you people especialy you testosterone guys i wont answer only female ill answer im outta here
what to do i mean i am married for 28 years she has been a good wife we renewed our vows in 2018. how ever she currently resides in a nursing home because of her health problems and she is the same age as me 58.before you people start she voluntary put herself in said nursing home because i was her primary caregiver and yes we did have help comming in sometimes twice a week however there were a few that didnt want to do there job and i coudnt provide for all her health needs yes she is beibg well taken care of and we were seening each other every day untill this covid shit now we see each other though a window or chat on video or by messenger yes the home does allow outside visits wear mask 6 feet apart. i have a feeling its going to be a not so fun thanksgiving and xmas. yes i know that i shouldnt be on connceting singles but here i am
and before you people shoot thy mouth off yes she has giving me permission to find a girlfreind she knows that i have needs that she cant do anymore and is compleatly ok with that. so i hve been searchig for the one but to no avail yes i know that alot of women wont give me the time of day because im married well it just so happens that my situation is rather unqinic and i struggel everyday not to be able to hold one another.i know you people are sying well if yo do find nother woman would i tellmy wife absolultily we hide nother from each other and have a understanding she is in the said nursing home indefinetly i know what you people are going to say whats amatter dont you love your wife on the contrary i love her very much and even though she is in sai home i do asmuch as i can from outside yes i do buy her flowers and anything else she wants. but a man has needs and she knows that i just hope that its not going to take too long to find someone because im almost 60 and pritty soon my time will be up and it will sux not being able to be with a women again before my time runs out. i know you people will say why dont you go find a sult if i could find one that is. well thanks for reading this i know that some of you people especialy you testosterone guys i wont answer only female ill answer im outta here
6 styles of love. People can be a blend
In response to:
There Are Six Styles of Love. Which One Best Describes You?
Keep in mind, you may still possess some elements of the others.
The Conversation
Rachel Grieve
Love is a complex and powerful force, one that plays out in a number of emotional, cognitive and social ways.
When we love a person, we feel emotional arousal in their presence. We will also have a set of thoughts (or cognitions) about that person, and our previous experiences can shape our ideas about what we expect in our relationships. For example, if you believe in love at first sight, then you are more likely to experience it.
But we use love in many different contexts. You might say that you love your partner, or your family, or your best friend, your job or even your car. Clearly, you’re using the term in different ways that highlight the various dimensions of love.
The ancient Greeks described several different types of love. Following the Greeks, the sociologist and activist John Alan Lee suggested that there are six broad styles of love.
It is good to keep in mind that although these love styles can be thought of as “types”, we are not necessarily locked into only one. We might have a predominant love style, but we will also have some elements of the other styles.
Similarly, our love style might change over time based on our experiences and interactions with our partners.
Eros
This style is typically experienced as a romantic, fairytale-type love. Physical beauty is important to this love style. Attraction is intense and immediate (“head over heels”), and the Eros lover feels an urgent drive to deepen the relationship emotionally and physically.
Because these individuals love the feeling of being in love, they tend to be serial monogamists, staying in a relationship as long as it feels fresh and compelling, then moving on so they can experience those same feelings again with someone new.
Storge
Storgic types tend to be stable and committed in their relationships. They value companionship, psychological closeness and trust. For these individuals, love relationships can sometimes grow out of friendships, so that love sneaks up on the pair. This love style is enduring, and these individuals are in it for the long haul.
Ludus
People with a ludic style view love as a game that they are playing to win. Often this can be a multiplayer game! Ludic individuals are comfortable with deception and manipulation in their relationships. They tend to be low on commitment and are often emotionally distant.
Because ludic individuals are more focused on the short term, they tend to place greater importance on the physical characteristics of their mate than do the other love styles. They are also more likely to engage in s*xual hookups.
Pragma
Practicality rules for this type. Logic is used to determine compatibility and future prospects. This doesn’t mean that these individuals use an emotionless, Spock-like approach to their relationships, rather they a place a high importance on whether a potential mate will be suited to meeting their needs.
These needs might be social or financial. Pragmatists might wonder if their prospective partner would be accepted by family and friends, or whether they’re good with money. The might also evaluate their emotional assets; for example, does a would-be partner have the skills to be calm in times of stress? ...
There Are Six Styles of Love. Which One Best Describes You?
Keep in mind, you may still possess some elements of the others.
The Conversation
Rachel Grieve
Love is a complex and powerful force, one that plays out in a number of emotional, cognitive and social ways.
When we love a person, we feel emotional arousal in their presence. We will also have a set of thoughts (or cognitions) about that person, and our previous experiences can shape our ideas about what we expect in our relationships. For example, if you believe in love at first sight, then you are more likely to experience it.
But we use love in many different contexts. You might say that you love your partner, or your family, or your best friend, your job or even your car. Clearly, you’re using the term in different ways that highlight the various dimensions of love.
The ancient Greeks described several different types of love. Following the Greeks, the sociologist and activist John Alan Lee suggested that there are six broad styles of love.
It is good to keep in mind that although these love styles can be thought of as “types”, we are not necessarily locked into only one. We might have a predominant love style, but we will also have some elements of the other styles.
Similarly, our love style might change over time based on our experiences and interactions with our partners.
Eros
This style is typically experienced as a romantic, fairytale-type love. Physical beauty is important to this love style. Attraction is intense and immediate (“head over heels”), and the Eros lover feels an urgent drive to deepen the relationship emotionally and physically.
Because these individuals love the feeling of being in love, they tend to be serial monogamists, staying in a relationship as long as it feels fresh and compelling, then moving on so they can experience those same feelings again with someone new.
Storge
Storgic types tend to be stable and committed in their relationships. They value companionship, psychological closeness and trust. For these individuals, love relationships can sometimes grow out of friendships, so that love sneaks up on the pair. This love style is enduring, and these individuals are in it for the long haul.
Ludus
People with a ludic style view love as a game that they are playing to win. Often this can be a multiplayer game! Ludic individuals are comfortable with deception and manipulation in their relationships. They tend to be low on commitment and are often emotionally distant.
Because ludic individuals are more focused on the short term, they tend to place greater importance on the physical characteristics of their mate than do the other love styles. They are also more likely to engage in s*xual hookups.
Pragma
Practicality rules for this type. Logic is used to determine compatibility and future prospects. This doesn’t mean that these individuals use an emotionless, Spock-like approach to their relationships, rather they a place a high importance on whether a potential mate will be suited to meeting their needs.
These needs might be social or financial. Pragmatists might wonder if their prospective partner would be accepted by family and friends, or whether they’re good with money. The might also evaluate their emotional assets; for example, does a would-be partner have the skills to be calm in times of stress? ...
(continued in my first comment below)
I lost my heart to a Galway Girl........
.... and her hair was blonde and her eyes were blue....
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Do I Love My Giant Really?
"Am I really in love with him?"
Not just one time did I ask myself such question.
To be honest, I don’t know. I haven’t met him in person yet. I only know that he has always been in my mind since I knew him better. The much better I know him the more he occupies this little brain of mine.
Every time I went to grocery stores, my feet were just taking me to the tea counter/shelf. I wondered which tea he would pick if he was here. Like me he doesn’t really drink coffee, but different from me he does love drinking tea, especially iced tea. I don’t. I prefer to drink mineral water or juice. Still I went and checked the tea available at the stores, without buying any. It’s kinda like a reflex move.
Every time I saw stuffs needed to make donut, I asked myself. “Hey Kal, when will you start practicing making donuts?” Oohh he loves donuts.
Every time I passed the counter of Macaroni, I smiled. I remembered when he told me about the Baked Macaroni n Tuna he got. And I remembered telling him why I don’t really like Macaroni. Hmm.. everything seems to remind me of him, even the eggplants I saw at the stores.
And it’s not just at the grocery stores. I kept thinking of him wherever I go.
Do you think is that a sign that I am in love with him?
“What do you want from him, Kal?”
I asked myself another question.
Again, to be honest, I don’t know. I don’t really know.
I know he has more money than I do (and that’s because of the stupid currency of Indonesian Rupiah). But do I want anything he can buy for me? I don’t think so. I already have everything I want and need. I told him that the only thing I don’t have is a winter coat as we don’t have Winter in Indonesia. Why do I have to have any when I don’t need it..
"So what do you want, Kal?"
Hmm.. I want to take him for Culinary tourism when he is here. I want to take him to places where he can get lost in the beauty of Indonesia, my City in particular. I want him to be happy whenever he is with me. I want him to relax and smile and forget all his long and hard and tiring day at work. I want him to get to know me more by knowing my family and friends . I want to make him happier.. I want to hold his hand, hug him, kiss him and make love to him..
And I was soo verry happy when he thanked me for making me his star.
If all those things are not any sign of how I am in love with that left-handed gentleman of mine, please tell me what else?
Not just one time did I ask myself such question.
To be honest, I don’t know. I haven’t met him in person yet. I only know that he has always been in my mind since I knew him better. The much better I know him the more he occupies this little brain of mine.
Every time I went to grocery stores, my feet were just taking me to the tea counter/shelf. I wondered which tea he would pick if he was here. Like me he doesn’t really drink coffee, but different from me he does love drinking tea, especially iced tea. I don’t. I prefer to drink mineral water or juice. Still I went and checked the tea available at the stores, without buying any. It’s kinda like a reflex move.
Every time I saw stuffs needed to make donut, I asked myself. “Hey Kal, when will you start practicing making donuts?” Oohh he loves donuts.
Every time I passed the counter of Macaroni, I smiled. I remembered when he told me about the Baked Macaroni n Tuna he got. And I remembered telling him why I don’t really like Macaroni. Hmm.. everything seems to remind me of him, even the eggplants I saw at the stores.
And it’s not just at the grocery stores. I kept thinking of him wherever I go.
Do you think is that a sign that I am in love with him?
“What do you want from him, Kal?”
I asked myself another question.
Again, to be honest, I don’t know. I don’t really know.
I know he has more money than I do (and that’s because of the stupid currency of Indonesian Rupiah). But do I want anything he can buy for me? I don’t think so. I already have everything I want and need. I told him that the only thing I don’t have is a winter coat as we don’t have Winter in Indonesia. Why do I have to have any when I don’t need it..
"So what do you want, Kal?"
Hmm.. I want to take him for Culinary tourism when he is here. I want to take him to places where he can get lost in the beauty of Indonesia, my City in particular. I want him to be happy whenever he is with me. I want him to relax and smile and forget all his long and hard and tiring day at work. I want him to get to know me more by knowing my family and friends . I want to make him happier.. I want to hold his hand, hug him, kiss him and make love to him..
And I was soo verry happy when he thanked me for making me his star.
If all those things are not any sign of how I am in love with that left-handed gentleman of mine, please tell me what else?
Would you consider dating a tootist
You know, someone who farts. 
I mean we all fart, right ? But some of us go outside or wait until we are alone first.
But, how about someone who not only doesn't wait to be alone, but somehow reveres their farting, as something sacred, almost a religious experience.
They outright pray......that it was a dry one.
Yes, a tootist not only smelt it and dealt it, but considers the experience a moving experience.
Just move them away from me.
If you have any comments on this situation, let 'em rip !
I mean we all fart, right ? But some of us go outside or wait until we are alone first.
But, how about someone who not only doesn't wait to be alone, but somehow reveres their farting, as something sacred, almost a religious experience.
They outright pray......that it was a dry one.
Yes, a tootist not only smelt it and dealt it, but considers the experience a moving experience.
Just move them away from me.
If you have any comments on this situation, let 'em rip !
Belonging to somebody...advantages/disadvantages
Is the concept of belonging to somebody becoming something of the past....belonging in a way that marriage promotes or exclusive relationships promote.
What are some of the advantages and/or disadvantages of somebody belonging to you or you belonging to somebody else.
The point is to weigh the pros and cons of each.
Happy Saturday all.
What are some of the advantages and/or disadvantages of somebody belonging to you or you belonging to somebody else.
The point is to weigh the pros and cons of each.
Happy Saturday all.
The questions to know each other better for real.
The dating world amuses me now for real, not always in a good way. The online environment is very different from the real world dating hugely and not everyone seam to spot it.
1) We can just type the figures and search like shopping products.
2) we don't have the feromones, body language nor facial expressions the matching communication is based on in the real world.
This is now very interesting that we all can look at our prospective 'datees' in purely technical way. What they wrote is now everything. Different but interesting so, to get out of people the most about them in the way they will remain real in their answers and showing their true colors I was looking the brain/mind puzzle to solve with someone and see if we will enjoy solving it together. Life together is a big puzzle after all. This is where I came up with a hypothetical question but, the answers were not what I thought it may be. I always thought that intelligent person can talk about everything (not being an expert), ....wellllll..., I was wrong.
The question was 'If the black holes could speak, what their story would be like?'; only one going into theoretical philosophical path, no one gone for science path, one held for research topic further (curiosity and growing is noble) the rest of answers made me to love online, black guys lecture me on racism (haaa ha ha), Asian dudes reacted to the word 'whole' and run for sexval paths (nooooo!), white guys combined both of those nonsense paths and concluded that I'm up to black guys (ha ha ha, no!)
In one moment I appreciated online dating as some of those guys turned into vishous name calling. How wonderfully I don't have to meet those people.
1) We can just type the figures and search like shopping products.
2) we don't have the feromones, body language nor facial expressions the matching communication is based on in the real world.
This is now very interesting that we all can look at our prospective 'datees' in purely technical way. What they wrote is now everything. Different but interesting so, to get out of people the most about them in the way they will remain real in their answers and showing their true colors I was looking the brain/mind puzzle to solve with someone and see if we will enjoy solving it together. Life together is a big puzzle after all. This is where I came up with a hypothetical question but, the answers were not what I thought it may be. I always thought that intelligent person can talk about everything (not being an expert), ....wellllll..., I was wrong.
The question was 'If the black holes could speak, what their story would be like?'; only one going into theoretical philosophical path, no one gone for science path, one held for research topic further (curiosity and growing is noble) the rest of answers made me to love online, black guys lecture me on racism (haaa ha ha), Asian dudes reacted to the word 'whole' and run for sexval paths (nooooo!), white guys combined both of those nonsense paths and concluded that I'm up to black guys (ha ha ha, no!)
In one moment I appreciated online dating as some of those guys turned into vishous name calling. How wonderfully I don't have to meet those people.
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