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The minute your lips softly touched mine,I knew-In every part of me,a tidal wave of desire existed within me-the fierce pulsating river flooded my heart,and every other beat was yours-rippling to the bottom of my feet.....It was then,that you took my breath away.~It sent me reeling through my mind,with thoughts only of you.And all the world did not exist,around us.Only you and I were on a flight going nowhere-just a mere kiss,and I was enthralled.~When you took my breath away.~The mystery of love,engaging sweet talk,the look in your eyes,so many plans-nothing mattered,when we lived on the edge of the world,I couldn`t forget you.~And,you took part of my heart away with you,too.It was etched within you.When I saw you last,I dreamt your breath was still on my lips,even though some of you is still with me.you are gone from me to be in the graves of lovers.
My only regret was a child I never had, that could remind me of the wave in the back of your hair. The tiny gap in the front of your teeth, they may have one day, & the long fingers of being creative, & all the other "If onlys", & maybe growing old together....I will still think of what could have been, & you still would take my breath away, my love.

How much truth is written in a profile?
Here are a few untruths I have found.
One guy, seems to unage with time. When I first spoke to him on cam, his age on CS was 76.
Looking at him, he looked like 80 and I asked him, yes, he was 80 but “felt” younger!
At the moment, a few years later – he is now 74 (!)

Another one, I think he got his age right, but not his marital status. The profile is not a new one and marital status is given as divorced. Just before we were supposed to meet, I get a whatsapp from him saying his wife has just arrived at their house so he wished to postpone are first meeting. I blocked him, only forgot to block “telegram” too. A few weeks later he begs to continue our getting to know each other and that they are in the process of divorcing (she is 82!).
Finally, we arrange a meeting for a few days later, get a whatapp saying sorry, met another woman on CS and will not be meeting me.
Poor her – lucky me!

Thinking about all strange profiles on CS - the, mostly younger guys, showing the most hideous profile photos.
To me it shows their "intelligence" nothing more. A good "start" on CS- or not?

I've discovered something new lately..Did you knew already that there is paid members on this site??? Wow! Finally, getting some answers here..

We have successful musicians, and some go on to have marriages. Some more than once.

We have successful actors/celebrities. Some marry, some don't, some have divorces, some have families out of wedlock, and some have more than one family.

We even have YouTubers who find fame (hopefully good fame), and also found love, or at least a potential interest.

But we hardly ever hear of writers getting lucky. Sure, a great author will become more interesting for potential spouses as they are not just successful, they're a household name. Even those who write out articles that are, at best, exaggerations tend to be engaged to someone.

I would like to hear your thoughts; would any of you date a writer, even an author?

Hi guys!
My name is Peter. Let me tell you about a love story that goes back to 1990. I met this beautiful Swedish girl when I was on business in London UK back in 1990. Sitting at the hotel bar after close of business that day, my eyes came into contact with a lady who could have been a pin up movie star.
I just had to speak to her and started up a conversation.
She only had a couple of drinks and we decided to go to the park next to Earls court. It was breath taking to sit with a lady who listened to me, in turn we both had so many questions for each other.
I knew that from the first moment we saw each other, I had fallen in love with this Swedish girl.
After one of the most beautiful nights in our lives, we said goodbye the next day as she was flying back to Sweden, I was due to go back to Scotland at the end of the week.
I promised to call her and did a few times when I arrived back in Scotland. The fifth time I called her, a young child answered the phone and could not speak English. I said best I could.* Tell your mom I will telephone Friday* When that Friday came, I was heart broken. The number was no longer connected. With the UK and Swedish operator figuring out that there was no forwarding address number.
I met a lady in Scotland and we had a relation ship for 18 years until she ended up with my best friend.
After a while I thought it was time to date again.
All those years later, cell phones and online computers were all the rage.
A few short relationships later, I decided to try online dating.
One day, I came home from work and saw a couple people had viewed my profile on Connecting singles.
When I looked at the second one, this picture of a beautiful looking woman, mature in years like me. She was pulling my eyes to her picture. There was something about her that I was drawn to.
I think it was two days later when I had a message from her. She just wanted to know if I was the Peter she met in London in 1990!!!!
WOW! You could have knocked me down with a feather.
Yeppers! It was Veronica.
10 days later she flew over to Edinboro and I fell in love all over again. She told me I was the only one night stand she had ever had. LOL. Technically.
We ended up with her moving to Scotland and my home. That was in 2012. On September 21st 2013, we married. ( See Picture on my profile. )
Last year after having cancer for the third and fourth time, she didn't have any fight left in her. She passed away in front of me.
I loved her to bits and still do. Now I have to get on with life and living. I have cried honest tears. Grieved hard, but, now I am starting to laugh and live again.
What better place to come back to than Connecting singles, where beautiful things can and do happen.
In the end, I was given some beautiful years with a woman that I thought I would never be with. I was also part of the solution, not the problem with what she had in the cancer.
Love sometimes finds a way. In my case, It did. It was fate!
I am young at heart at 64 years old. My mind is of a 30 year old, but my body reminds me I am not lol.
Thank you for taking time to read this. Thank you connecting singles.

Walking away from toxic relationship does not mean you don't love or care for that person it means you love yourself first and you care for yourself first. The first person that matters in this life is you.
This is called self care and self love

A new study indicates that individuals who exhibit Dark Triad traits tend to be more content in their romantic relationships when their partner also possesses similar traits.
The Dark Triad refers to a group of three antagonistic personality traits: psychopathy, Machiavellianism, and narcissism. Psychopathy is characterized by impulsivity, antagonism, sensation-seeking, and low empathy. Machiavellianism involves self-interest, manipulation, and exploitation of others. Narcissism is characterized by grandiosity, entitlement, and a lack of empathy.
These traits have been found to have negative effects on various aspects of life. In particular, they have been associated with harmful outcomes in romantic relationships. Psychopathy, for example, is damaging to romantic relationships as it is linked to exploitative and aggressive behaviors, infidelity, and a lack of commitment and intimacy.
Machiavellianism is associated with emotionally detached relationships, reluctance to commit, and controlling behavior. Individuals high in narcissism tend to have little empathy, take advantage of others, and have low relationship commitment.
The researchers wanted to understand the effects of the Dark Triad traits on relationship outcomes from both partners’ perspectives. They considered not only how an individual’s Dark Triad traits influence their own relationship outcomes but also how these traits affect their partner’s outcomes. They aimed to improve the understanding of how these traits impact relationships by considering the experiences of both partners.
“The Dark Triad personality traits are generally associated to negative relationship outcomes, such as lower satisfaction, quality and stability,” said study author Igor Kardum, a tenured psychology professor at the University of Rijeka in Croatia.
Link: Psypost.org

Slithering through the grass, A serpent moves so fast, With scales so smooth and green, It's beauty cannot be seen.

It glides with grace so still, A hunter on its way to thrill, With fangs so sharp and quick, It strikes before you even click.

Yet still it's feared by many, A symbol of death and plenty, But it's just a creature wild, Living life with no revile.

Let's look back in time.
What was before online dating. Newspaper personal ads, friends/family arranged blind dates, social events, bars, libraries, literally everywhere where people were.
It was very slow. It was usually down to luck. It was very limited in choices. (Usually in a limited geographic location).
Why was it good? It was natural. People met because they were at the same place. They started to talk because probably had some similar interest.
When people chose or accepted the partner they went for the "good enough" option. It was enough if it was slightly better than others. The brain is happy to do a task like this.
These days the Internet gives the false impression of unlimited choice.
Do a search. Not enough results? No problem. Widen your options and voila now you can scroll 30 pages.
And makes you believe it is down to how you choose.
Barry Schwartz wrote a book called "The Paradox of Choice". He says too much choice will be detrimental.
There are couple of problems inside:
1. Because there are so many options you believe there must be a perfect one. This means the weight of your decision is much bigger.
2. When you choose one and it's not flawless you believe other choice would have been better. Which means you will never be satisfied with the choice.
3. Choosing from a big selection is exhausting. Our brain is not made for this.
4. Big number of players mean big competition. It's very easy to feel you are the only one left alone.
5. Anonymity changes the behaviours for lot of people. They would never say things or act the similar way face-to-face as they do online.
You can find many more points if you think.

Solution: I don't know. I believe it's still a very slow game. You have to accept it you either go for just a good enough or wait much much longer. Same as it was before. The difference is you have to cancel all the noise.
Also I don't believe the marriage is about how you choose at the beginning. It's about how much work the partners put in. The marriage is a workshop. (Yes, I know the classic: Men work, women shop...)
But no one can see in years ahead. what works at the beginning might not work in 5 years time. People also change.
The biggest issue is not how you choose but people didn't learn to work on problems. It's better to look out for new partner if there is a problem.... See, how many potential options out there? Just look around on dating sites.....

Confucius said, it's not that he blogs too much. It's that the others blog too little.
As a matter of perspective. If one person blogs daily and others feel like they only want to blog weekly or monthly, is it the fault of the person who blogs daily that his/her blogs often appear on the main page?

If the website had more member participation there would be more blogs and no reason to complain about the bloggers who 'keep the place alive' and frequently appear on the main page.

Blog more people... Be an active part of the blogging community in a good way and not a bad way.

Maybe the solution is to blog about giving money to scammers or why it's so hard to find someone using online dating.

Those topics rarely get talked about!