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It's not often I see a profile on CS with someone smoking/lighting up a joint. Today, there was an attractive woman with a clear shot of her lighting up!

A few years ago on POF there was a high percentage of members exhibiting their drug addiction. Usually, it was young guys. My opinion was "It's an advertisement of their lifestyle to attract women who share the same lifestyle." kinda like trouble breeds trouble.

They had a section where the members could review photos of other members and help management (sorry for lack of a better term) 'weed out' photos that weren't proper... or those photos that didn't comply with their rules.

It was a huge site that had thousands of members online at any point in time. That presented a problem for management as they didn't didn't have the ability to go through every photo, so they asked members to volunteer and notify them of photos that needed to be adjusted or removed.

Some of the choices were blurred or faceless photos, single photos of kids, photos of violent activity, weapons, drugs or drug paraphernalia. Probably the biggest reason to get your profile closed was nudity. CS doesn't attract the masses and appears to have fewer problems with non-compliant photos.

I wouldn't mind seeing a 'hot or not' section where members can anonymously vote on photos they like or like to see removed.

I just saw old photos of mine, screenshots of some mails that I got on here years ago. Then, I realized how different this place is from it was before.

Before I got more prospects here. But now, there are more scammers than prospects. This site was a social place for me to get to know other people from around the world. Now, sorry to say, this place serves as a secret venting place for me.

Where were my friends here? I miss you guys.

i dont mean anyone in
particular .... just think

if only men will .. stop...
from all Lust .. the whole. world
will change into heaven..
women will have to work
hard for a good living...
i mean atleast the ones... who
are..
not doing now...
lot of business which
live on womens (need to be closed)
attractions

Where to begin, in 2014 I left CS ,and I got married...I WAS happily married, got a house, decent area, nothing fancy blaablaablaa...She was remarkable, she didn't want NO KIDS, and if that didn't do it for me,nothing would...Several years we were married, than my brother had his first child "Kira" beautiful little girl, and one day he ask me if I could watch her, I said no problem, my wife came home ,smelled the baby head, and for 2 YEAR STRAIGHT, she wanted a baby. I don't want a child, nor a kids, nor do I want to be in a relationship with anyone who has kid/kids THATS MY TURN-OFF. Any way,we divorce, she remarried now with child ,I know ,because her parents still live across from my brother house, and we managed to keep the peace etc... I on the other hand ,have been visiting AMP/spas every other weekend (Friday & Saturday) or escort services. Not into American women, reason being, because the majority of them can't cook anymore, and just want to eat out. I can BBQ,and bake, hell I've even followed recipes from YT to make great Italian,and Mexican food etc... so if you an Asian hotty from "sorry no India women, it's called deodorant ladies" or those kind of Asian, but like Indonesia, Vietnam, Chinese, Korean Philippines etc HURRY UP AND HIT ME UP ASIAN HOTTNESS!!!!!!

There are lots of profiles where the women are saying "I'm looking for a soulmate."
That should be redefined.
A soulmate is specific... the one in a million person who is right for you.
It's not like you are shopping for blue leather boots that matches your blue leather purse.

A soulmate is a person who's thoughts, ideas, moral fiber matches yours. Someone that after death (if you strongly believe) your souls will continue on together.

That said, looking for a soulmate would be better described as looking for my soulmate.

Or in the case of shopping for boots, you would be looking for a solemate.

Nearly all the members who are active in blogs and forums have strong personalities. Some stronger than others... obviously. When a strong personality does or says something opposite to what CS wants to reflect on their site, a comment or blog gets deleted. Often as a warning and a 'time-out' should they consider the offense become more serious.

I cannot remember the number of years I've been here and how many members were banned, but it's more than a handful. Banning I believe was mostly (but not always) for political reasons. Some return with a new profile and in a short time get banned again. I think it's not for the way they behave as a 'new' member, but rather for the sins and havoc created in their previous profile.

Compared to other sites, moderation at CS is very light. I'm sure there are more important things for them to attend to aside from our little space on the internet. But when they do visit you may see several things happen in one swipe.

A few years ago their position was stated and requests from CS staff were stated as to what blogs they want to see less of. That's long gone and it's business as usual.

Last year a handful of blogs disappeared and some of the members who authored them disappeared too. While some of the blogs of the 'dearly departed' remain, most of them are unlocked. Only this week I see some long lasting blogs have been locked.

My opinion/question is shouldn't a blog of a banned member be locked or deleted too?


Oh, the difference one member can make...

Hopefully men are following instructions and reading this before contacting me...

I used to get upset that all men cared about was the photo on dating sites (or for that matter CL replies) your looks are a result of one minute of creation and how you look is a result of the "good" genetics your parents had, whereas your personality is a result of your sense of humor, intelligence and innate (or not of kindness) and in MY case hours (LOL) of carefully crafting my profile, writing and re-writing!

The photos are to show my puckish sense of humor, I am NOT trying to fool anyone but I know if you are just oogling the photo or bothered to read my profile which (if a person had any brains) could figure out it was taken DECADES ago! I always tell my age so if you think that in my sixties I would look like this, (in my forties though looked like that though!) you're not on the swift side.

I want to find someone who had a puckish sense of humor like me. but also adventurous and curious and DARING, which means willing to see what I look like NOW in person vs. the past, the big hint was should have been wrote you'll have to meet me to see if I have aged like fine wine or do I look like Jabba the Hut. I used to say that this was taken before Reagan was elected but when one guy said his photo might make me throw up but at least it was taken after McCain left the Hanoi Hilton, so even if that was waay (sic) after that, I will keep that in.

I am NOT too stupid to take a good photo as one man said, my caption tells why it looks blurry (though one man thought it showed I had good cheekbones, go figure that!) for god's sake it's a dating site, don't take photos so seriously!!!

Well, here we are again...

I know that I don't come here often, but I thank everyone who reads and interacts with my blogs. I usually come here to talk about the things that I have difficulty expressing to anyone in person. Or when I need a diversified opinion. Because mostly, the people I interact with in my environment share a monotonous perspective on almost everything.

I have been single and out to the dating pool for a moment now. but I am in dilemma of whether I should keep being open and hope in case i meet my match soon, or take charge and just close myself entirely until I am in a more suitable environment.

Where I am is considered by many nationalities as a state of passage - a temporary residence; temporary job; temporary relationships until they have saved enough money to start their lives elsewhere. And with this mindset coupled with every humans' need to interact with other humans and form attachments, men need "temporary girlfriends." And one of the nationalities best chosen for this is Filipinas! Because filipinas are mostly good-natured, caring, kind of liberated, flexible emotionally, can be submissive, and we do not ask permission from our parents to make our own decisions. Qualities that make us an object of convenience. Sadly, many of us are gullible and naive and even more of those of us who are willing to forgo our own virtues and principles in the name of love (that misbegotten word) or money and comfort. As I think of my "experience" and what I have seen from other pinays here, I couldn't help but think of men here (middle eastern mostly) would they treat women from their own culture they way they treat filipinas? Because I think that they want filipina girlfriends, but when they reach the maturity for them to finally marry, they marry girls from their own culture. Even without romantic feelings. Just pure dictates of their culture. It's a sad affair.

Some well-meaning acquaintances would suggest to give filipino males a chance. To be clear, I never closed my heart on filipino men. I am open to any nationality so long as our values, priorities, minds and hearts align. However, many filipino guys here also are inexcusable. Many of them have families of their own in the Philippines, they convert to Islam here so they could marry another. It would have been ok for the right reasons, but they usually do it without thinking of ramifications. Their excuse: "I want to be happy." And many also want health care workers because HCW have better salary. One guy before wanted to date me, he asked me how much my monthly salary was. I told him it was enough, I am also supporting my parents financially since they both are seniors. Then he said, "but when you are married, your priorities is supposed to be your own family, right?" Damn, we haven't even started dating yet, but he was already initiating control? I mean, why can't they strive harder, finish university and get better jobs so they have better salaries too? "But why work hard when they can just marry a nurse and live comfortably, right?" said one middle aged woman to me before.

So, pray tell me, which direction should I go? I know I sound negative, but no. I am being realistic. I still believe that there's someone out there. Should I take another chance here? Be content with being seen as the temporary girlfriend, or hope and keep wasting my time?

Are often so off-putting ,scruffy beards are so common. I like beards but neat and clean not looking like a deserted birds nest . Guys posing in the shower sends the wrong message as does the picture of men lying in bed .Well you know what that message is don't think I need to voice it. If men can't make the effort to look presentable I know they will be exasperating untidy types who open cupboard doors empty drawer contents onto floor because they can't find anyrhing in their mess. They likely throw their clothes on the floor then pick them up wear them again for weeks by the looks of some guys, they may even sleep in them . Work clothes are acceptable of course not talking about that it's the guys slouched on couch who had sudden impulse to join a site and are so out of touch they have no clue how sloppy they look. Perhaps there's equally sloppy women it's quite the norm miwadays in certain sections to look like a slob . Older men in hoodie!s!! Don't get me started .....dress like an adult but then .....you obviously don't give a fiddlers

A married man finds birth control pills in his wife's drawer...
However, he had a vasectomy a few years before they were married.

Is that a reason to be suspicious?