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I would like to discuss non-relationships. What is a non-relationship? I don't know. It's something I have just invented and I hope to figure out what it is here.

To start, there's a guy on the street that asks me for a cigarette. Do I have a non-relationship with this guy? No, because we have this relationship where he wants something and where I say something.

A stray dog starts to follow me around. Never seen him before. Now we have a relationship where he follows me and I try to figure out who he has more of a relationship with than me. So now I know this dog, and it's not a non-relationship.

Since this seems hard to figure out, maybe we can get at it by asking what a non-non-relationship is. Is that the same as a regular relationship? Do the two "nons" cancel each other? This is an age old philosophical thing. In short, constructively speaking, they do not. So what is it, constructively speaking? Probably that we don't know if it's a relationship or a non-relationship. If I imagine a very large talking shoe, I can not say in which relation we stand, as I can offer evidence for neither. Nor can I fashion the shoe so as to vouchsafe reality to him or her; to do so would establish a relationship indeed.

Nor, analogously, will I endeavor to define a relationship. I don't know anything about that. Unless I'm a shoe and I come to life and there's this other shoe and we tie our laces together. . .but this has never happened.

So I have no idea, really. Come to think of it, I don't think I invented it, either. But I think I know who did.

The dog claimed he did but I think he was just trying to get some attention. The smoking guy's dead, and everything else seems to stick to its own kind. I miss thinking I knew what the hell was going on.

If you want to have a non-relationship with me, I have nothing to say to you. Literally. Don't want to blow it, do you?

The joys of faceless blogging...
Not only can you hide your face but you can also hide / change your gender ...
And if you can't find anyone you can furk yourself..

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For several days now I have been dutifully awaiting the ability to write somewhere other than the poetry section. As well I have been trying to decide upon an idea or a topic, if you will, to write about. I do not yet know how effectively I am able to convey ideas or topics, but I will do what I can not to bore you or make you run away screaming.

It may or may not be customary to introduce oneself in a blog like this. I will err on the side of the latter. For now.

There are some events that occurred that perhaps played a part in my joining. Perhaps the "perhaps" in tenuous. In any case I am often maudlin and bitterly sarcastic, though always respectful. Please don't take anything I say personally, unless I tell you to.

Assuming a more positive air, I am grateful to all of you for having me, and I look forward to the most varied and intriguing discussions we can muster. For we must all have others to talk to, and must even more (muster) have someone to relate to. Even if we believe we can only relate to ourselves. Which doesn't seem possible to me, but perhaps (perhapser?) this is an acceptable first idea.

Do people expect to find themselves in a relationship? I believe that I believe a "good" partner would be one in which one can lose and find oneself, if that makes sense. If one has only been able to do the former in the past, I would submit that they had not done it to the extent they believe they had. Like many other things, I believe it is a matter of stepping out of one's own way. It feels like a loss of control and is frightening, but something inside us knows very well what to do.

So there. Sorry my first choice wasn't fun or amusing. And I apologize that I don't have time to comment until later (if there's anything to comment to.) I shall not disable them. Ever.

Nice to meet all you.

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Kissing, kissing and more kissing! Kissing is such a great part of human contact, greeting coming and going! Sometime the best part of dating is kissing, which leads to intimacy and s*xual arousal or just makes us feel good! But what if we had no lips! Kissing would be out of the question, a handshake would have to suffice or perhaps we would be intimate enough that we could clean each others teeth. Not very attractive or at least from my perspective. No lipstick on the shirt, no chapped lips in the winter. Chewing would not be very attractive, chewing with your mouth open is a very annoying practice but without lips who would notice! Whispering sweet nothings into one's ear would be nearly impossible. I guess the worst thing about having no lips is having no lips
Hey! "Don't give me any lip!"

May not be linked to external trappings such as .jobs, income, appearance, etc., — these tend to "come and go."

Instead it may be Relational Self-Awareness , which is defined as "the ability to take a curious stance vis a vis yourself."

"People who don't have much relational self-awareness tell stories (especially love stories) that are full of blame and shame. They tend to cast themselves as victims and other people as suckers, losers, or fools."

On the other hand, a relationally self-aware person might say something like, "It wasn't the right time for us," or "It was painful, but I learned from the experience."


"Without relational self-awareness, what happens is I slip into into blame — I see it as your fault because I'm blind to my own role in it — or I slip into shame — because I'm not paying attention to your role and I'm convinced that I'm the problem and I ruined the whole thing."

A relationally self-aware partner will realize that you both messed up and "ended up way down this rabbit hole of misunderstanding."


How do you recognise the lack of self-awareness in somebody (or in yourself)?

Pay attention to how they talk about their past relationships; see if they always blame others for every bad thing that has happened to them; see how they treat a waiter who brings an incorrect drink; see how they deal with another road user, etc.

Basically, when the sh1t hits the fan, how do they react.

Can you improve their self-awareness?
Improve your own, and let them learn from you.

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I still have faith in God because i don't know if this site is for old women because it is difficult to find someone around my age or even older than me by 4-5 years.

To Impress your Special Person In This Site IT Will Not Cost You a Cent!

Imagine How you Will Feel When Every time you Open a Message, There Is a Red Rose, Bunch of Flowers,
Teddybear , Soft puppy, Kitten Or a Note Just Saying I Love You!

Or If You Having A Birthday!
Birthday Card with Happy Birthday Song just playing for you!

It Did Happen To Me!
It Make Me Feel So Happy That I want To Share With All Of You!
You Will Have The Chance To Make Somebody Happy Too!

By Balicia




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I need your help.

I have a confession to make and I don't know what steps to take next.

I have a crush on a CS member. He has no idea. We chat here and there, mostly just banter on the blogs, and I try to keep things sounding platonic because he gives no indication of having any interest in me beyond friendship.

What do I do??

FYI

Uranus was last in Scorpio from 1890-1897

Neptune was in Aquarius from 1998-2012

Pluto was in Virgo 1957-1972

How is that going to work?