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I’m still surprised at how many people join Connecting Singles believing that the love of their lives is going to drop into their laps over-night. That only happens in fairy land.

They don’t seem to realize that to find a partner here, you need to market yourself in a proper way just as you would in the real world? Those who cannot find love in the real world, won’t find it here either. They will only open themselves to scammers.

Some try too hard, some are too desperate, some are too full of themselves, some are too placid and some others are just too full of shìt. You have to find a balance in your assault. You cannot hunt a whale with a bow and arrow and you cannot shoot sardines with a harpoon.

Telling everybody how desperate and lonely they are will only solicit a little sympathy… and not even much of it which makes me wonder what they really want; sympathy or a partner?

And by shooting into the bunch, hoping for a random hit by indicating that just anybody will do, is rather lame and will achieve even less. All of us want to be special; chosen, not just another somebody picked in random fashion.

While it is true that CS creates many more opportunities to meet people, you will not get it on a platter. CS only creates the platform from where to operate but when the opportunity presents itself, you have to make the best of it.

Yet, getting the attention of the opposite gender is not that difficult. There is no need to be extravagant in anything; actually most people don’t like that. To use that worn-out cliche; just be yourself. The average woman wants an average man and vice versa.

If you are neat, not standing out too much in the crowd (being dead normal) and dressed to the occasion, somebody of the opposite gender is bound to show some interest in you no matter where you are; be that a disco, a charity function or a church bazaar. The world is full of single people looking for somebody to share their lives with; all we need to do is to look around to see them.

And I repeat, cruel as it may sound, if you cannot get somebody in real life, it is unlikely that you’re going to succeed here.


A wonderful day to all of ya!

well, in my experience, it's quite rare, but does happen. Perhaps more so among previous generations, which had more patience/groundedness, and fewer life distractions, when life was slower. But the belief in this portal to committed relationships persists, and most often leads to woe and regret. As mom and grandma said, be patient, take your time, get to know someone before intimacy, and so on. Not exactly rocket science. A-V.

Anh à , ch?c anh không d?c du?c nh?ng dòng tâm s? này c?a em . ..Nhung ma em không th? chia s? v?i ngu?i khác vì h? cung b?n r?n .. thôi thì e vi?t o day v?y .... k? t? ngày dó em bu?n l?m dem ve e khóc m?t minh .... t?i sao em lúc nao cun la ng th?t b?i trong t.y het v?y ... em có l?m l?i gì ....e d?n v?i anh chân thành .. e c? g?ng vì ?n .... em buon rát buon ....em thát t? ph?i không anh nên anh m?i di tìm nguoi khác ....e buon tim e dâu trách ai bay ...trách chính mình vì qua y?u du?i.... ??????????

If you dont know what you really want, please dont come in my life and playing game...! Life is hard enough already without games.

SO, HERE WE GO ,, WHAT DO WOMEN WANT IN A MAN ?
MOST DON'T KNOW , THEY PUT UP ON THERE PROFILE ABOUT WHAT THERE LOOKING FOR !, GOD HELP MOST OF THEM , THEY MUST BE LOOKING FOR GOD ,

BUT WITH MOST WOMEN ON DATING SITE'S YOU ALWAYS GET THE 7 DAY WOMAN !
I HERE YOU ASK ,''WHAT IS THAT''? WELL I WILL TRY TO TELL YOU .

WOMAN SAYING '' I WORK HARD AND LONG HOUR'S!! SO DO MEN
WOMAN SAYING '' I LIKE TO GO TO THE GYM 3 NIGHT'S A WEEK '' ? WHAT'S THAT ABOUT
AND THEN WITH MOST '' I LOVE WEEKENDS WITH MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY ''

SO THE 7 DAY A WEEK WOMAN ,,, WORK'S LONG HOUR'S 5/6 DAYS A WEEK , BUT FINDS TIME TO GO TO THE GYM 3 NIGHTS A WEEK , AND THEN WHEN ALL THAT IS DONE SHE GO'S OUT WITH HER FRIENDS AND FAMILY ON WEEKENDS?

SO CAN I AS THIS WOMAN !! '' WHAT ARE YOU DOING ON A DATING SITE ? AND WHEN DO YOU GET THE TIME TO ''GO ON A DATE ''?

WELCOME TO THE 7 DAY A WEEK WOMAN .

Like food, all relationships have a sell-by date.

Relationships started way back when the average life-expectancy would have been only 25-40 years of age.
So a lifetime commitment to a relationship wasn't quite so long, 10-15 years if you were very lucky.

Fast forward to the 21st century where people are living happily into their 90s, is it really reasonable to expect a lifetime commitment of 60+ years?

As with all things, there are exceptions in food too. Honey will last indefinitely but even that can crystallise and look a bit shabby. It takes a bit of hot stuff to bring it back again.
Some relationships also stand the test of time, but when they crystallise, somebody needs to be there,and willing, to apply that fix to make it gleam again.

Other foods you do keep forever, much past their sell-by date. But they grow dusty in the back of the cupboard as you don't want to get rid of them, but are not actively using them either. It is better to just clear out the cupboard and start afresh.

With all foods, it is better to enjoy them when they are fresh, and not try to hold on to them as they grow musty and dusty.

The sweetest food is often the one with the shortest lifespan. Think cupcakes

So, for 2018, maybe we should stop thinking longterm, and getting disappointed when they go sour, and just enjoy the sweetness of a relationship for however long it lasts.

One beautiful fresh cupcake will always be tastier than the dusty cans in the back of the cupboard.

Carpe diem.

I'm here to help you in anything you want help with, I've been told by many that I'm good with giving advice and I'm a good person to have a conversation with... With that said you can ask me anything... This blog is about what ever you want to talk about be it, relationship or casual talk...

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Purely by what I have read on the public blogs, there are men and women who meet up with the much-discussed intention of serious zoobie zooms*. There are people who have got so close during their correspondence that the meeting is just the final step in a long-term relationship they both know will happen. There are people who lose their nerve and cancel at the last minute, and there are people almost breathless with hope that this time will be The One.

Sometimes it is The One. Just, maybe, you hadn't specified the one what ...

Sometimes the one was eh, hang on, this is just coffee, right?

And sometimes one person is confidently expecting zoobie zooms and the other expecting a new acquaintance to compare stamp collections with . . . mixed signals. Oops.

One way and another I’ve met about 15 people off CS now and the ones that I wanted to meet because we are cyber buddies were GREAT. The three others, well, one meet was a disaster which didn’t get to the end of lunch, one turned into a series of LDR meetings before crashing and burning a year later, and one was another whole story altogether. and for the last year or so I have stuck firmly to the buddy side of things.

Taken me nearly 4 years on here to realize that people can meet just on the off-chance, with little or no expectations, they live not particularly far apart, why not

That’s the problem with being a closet romantic, I keep waiting on Prince Charming jerking the closet door open and telling me my pumpkin awaits. I assume everyone else does too so when I hear a meet went well I’m partly oh WOW they’re in love and partly green with envy because they’re so lucky .

Doh.

Just as soon as I wash the plaster out my hair and scrub off the paint freckles I’m writing back to a few locals in my new location who had suggested meeting up for coffee. At the time I had been meh, that's going nowhere, pass. Now I just expect a cup of coffee

And maybe a few hair-raising stories to pass on, that’s a popular blog subject too . . .


*zoobie zooms? bonking.

Hi all

A scorpion was walking along the bank of a river, wondering how to get to the other side... when suddenly he saw a fox. He asked the fox to take him on his back across the river. The fox said no... I'll get halfway there, and you'll sting me, and I'll drown. But the scorpion assured him... if I did that, we'd both drown. The fox thought about it and finally agreed. So the scorpion climbed up on his back, and the fox began to swim... But halfway across the river, the scorpion stung the fox. As the poison filled his veins, the fox turned to the scorpion and said why did you do that? Now you'll drown, too. I couldn't help it, said the scorpion. It's my nature What does tell us that not every human being is good or bad

As you know, I was indoctrinated into the swinger life and my swinger went monogamous on me. Now, I don’t know where to turn for some real pork and beans. I know there is such a thing as gaydar, is there a swingar? Nothing like wanting and not getting