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Attention People In Dating Sites! " Please " Stop Putting Some One Else s Picture In Your Profile"
It Does Not Work ! And It Will Never Will
Even If Is a Younger Picture of Yours!
But Make Sure In your First Date < That You Look Similar To That Picture!
Look The Best and Smell The Best For Your Date!!
Put A Piece of gum in your Mouth!
It Will Stop You for Been Nerves!
Good Luck
By falicia
What Is Your Oppinion?
Even If Is a Younger Picture of Yours!
But Make Sure In your First Date < That You Look Similar To That Picture!
Look The Best and Smell The Best For Your Date!!
Put A Piece of gum in your Mouth!
It Will Stop You for Been Nerves!
Good Luck
By falicia
What Is Your Oppinion?
online today!
Age Difference
Since I have joined this site, I am getting more responses from women in the 30-35 year old range than closer to my age, and I am 56.
I am wondering why this is? Any thoughts?
I am wondering why this is? Any thoughts?
Relocating
how many people will relocate for a man or woman we have become a mobile race ready to leave our areas for love or sex....... what do you think 
online today!
Girls and boys......rejection...
Seeing blogs about the self serving stories we tell each other on breaking up with (dumping) others, got me wondering. Probably blogger/formumed here before, but I'm sure we, as s*xual groups, handle rejection, real or perceived, differently. We hear caution tails about a woman's wrath, and it really is no picnic to be on the receiving end to such, especially with lawyers in tow. But here on CS and elsewhere, seems like men react with more expressed anger. Perhaps many women internalize it all. Generalizations, sure, but perhaps true.
The Games People Play
My business requires me to cross the border twice a week to mail orders out in the U.S. I do this as the product doesn't get hung up in customs and it's more economical and faster for my clients. I've been doing this for the past 18 years or so.
I've been crossing the current border for 8 years, with nary a problem, returning via the commercial lanes, as I go down commercially. Most times I don't have any commercial goods returning, occasionally I have personal items, but I'd been told if I went down commercially, I had to return that way. Then other border guards told me different things. I just do what I've always done. One border guard told me I could cherry pick the line and do whatever I wanted. So I do. All the border guards are pleasant and professional, and when it comes time for a car search (usually about once every one or two years), they're always great about it.
A year ago, a new border guard joined the commercial crossing, and from the very first time he saw me, he had a burr up his arse about it. I haven no idea why, but the first time I was in the commercial lane, he was rude and demanded to see a receipt for a $22.00 item. Well, I couldn't find it, wouldn't you know, even on my phone, not being familiar with how my phone worked, and he finally let me go, but was in a major snit. He'd asked me why I was in the commercial lane and I told him I'd been told to use it as I went down commercially.
For the past year, he's been a jerk every time I've crossed and he's on. The gate arms to let us out have been broken, so they had the border guards operate the gates from their booth. So Mr. Miserable has played games with the gate arms, slamming them as soon as I got to the gate, following someone else out, and then making me wait until he processed the truck behind me before letting me out. He's done all kinds of things to delay me going through.
A few months later, another new guy told me I could use the personal lanes. I said to him 'why would I do that when the lineup is halfway through town and I've been down 10 minutes?' He didn't have an answer, but he too, started the same delay tactics with the gate arms.
At first I did nothing. Just let them have their jollies. After it didn't stop, I asked Mr. Miserable for his badge number and name, and he asked if there was a problem. I told him yes there was, he was rude and I was tired of his passive aggressive games with the gate. That didn't stop him - in fact, it increased. So one day, when he pulled that same garbage, I parked my car in front of the gate and went inside to complain. The supervisor had an excuse for him. The games didn't stop, but were tandem, with the other guy.
Then, I had Mr. Miserable process me through, there was no one behind me at the booth, and between leaving the booth and getting to the gate, the other guy took over the booth. Despite me honking my horn three separate times, he refused to turn around and open the gate. So, again, I parked my car and went in to complain. I was surprised to see Mr. Miserable inside, and he smirked that he'd gaslighted me, kind of like I was making things up. He said to me, so you stop our whole operation for this? I ignored him. I didn't stop their operation - THEY did.
So now the gate arms are left up, until they're repaired. Now that they don't have the gate arms to delay me, they upped the ante and started searching my car. The first time, the tall guy was in the booth, and Mr. Miserable searched my car, the tall guy smirking the whole time. I just shrugged. Fill your boots.
Last week, I had commercial goods to declare. One box of sprayers - taxes due - $7.18. Mr. Miserable ensured he took my paperwork and then demanded to see my purse, went through my wallet, my purse, and then went out through my car again. He delayed me the better part of an hour. Usually, when I'm in the office, I'm in and out in about 10 minutes.
So as Mr. Miserable was still taking his time -
cont..
I've been crossing the current border for 8 years, with nary a problem, returning via the commercial lanes, as I go down commercially. Most times I don't have any commercial goods returning, occasionally I have personal items, but I'd been told if I went down commercially, I had to return that way. Then other border guards told me different things. I just do what I've always done. One border guard told me I could cherry pick the line and do whatever I wanted. So I do. All the border guards are pleasant and professional, and when it comes time for a car search (usually about once every one or two years), they're always great about it.
A year ago, a new border guard joined the commercial crossing, and from the very first time he saw me, he had a burr up his arse about it. I haven no idea why, but the first time I was in the commercial lane, he was rude and demanded to see a receipt for a $22.00 item. Well, I couldn't find it, wouldn't you know, even on my phone, not being familiar with how my phone worked, and he finally let me go, but was in a major snit. He'd asked me why I was in the commercial lane and I told him I'd been told to use it as I went down commercially.
For the past year, he's been a jerk every time I've crossed and he's on. The gate arms to let us out have been broken, so they had the border guards operate the gates from their booth. So Mr. Miserable has played games with the gate arms, slamming them as soon as I got to the gate, following someone else out, and then making me wait until he processed the truck behind me before letting me out. He's done all kinds of things to delay me going through.
A few months later, another new guy told me I could use the personal lanes. I said to him 'why would I do that when the lineup is halfway through town and I've been down 10 minutes?' He didn't have an answer, but he too, started the same delay tactics with the gate arms.
At first I did nothing. Just let them have their jollies. After it didn't stop, I asked Mr. Miserable for his badge number and name, and he asked if there was a problem. I told him yes there was, he was rude and I was tired of his passive aggressive games with the gate. That didn't stop him - in fact, it increased. So one day, when he pulled that same garbage, I parked my car in front of the gate and went inside to complain. The supervisor had an excuse for him. The games didn't stop, but were tandem, with the other guy.
Then, I had Mr. Miserable process me through, there was no one behind me at the booth, and between leaving the booth and getting to the gate, the other guy took over the booth. Despite me honking my horn three separate times, he refused to turn around and open the gate. So, again, I parked my car and went in to complain. I was surprised to see Mr. Miserable inside, and he smirked that he'd gaslighted me, kind of like I was making things up. He said to me, so you stop our whole operation for this? I ignored him. I didn't stop their operation - THEY did.
So now the gate arms are left up, until they're repaired. Now that they don't have the gate arms to delay me, they upped the ante and started searching my car. The first time, the tall guy was in the booth, and Mr. Miserable searched my car, the tall guy smirking the whole time. I just shrugged. Fill your boots.
Last week, I had commercial goods to declare. One box of sprayers - taxes due - $7.18. Mr. Miserable ensured he took my paperwork and then demanded to see my purse, went through my wallet, my purse, and then went out through my car again. He delayed me the better part of an hour. Usually, when I'm in the office, I'm in and out in about 10 minutes.
So as Mr. Miserable was still taking his time -
cont..
Ghosting your date, can be illegal !
I recall a couple of former blogs on here recounting "ghosting" as a method to deal with a date,
that wasn't quite up to expectations.
One seemed to think it was OK and the other was left somewhat puzzled at the experience.
Well, here's an extreme example of a serial ghosting practitioner, who ghosted dates with the intent
of consuming expensive meals without paying.
(continued in first comment below)
that wasn't quite up to expectations.
One seemed to think it was OK and the other was left somewhat puzzled at the experience.
Well, here's an extreme example of a serial ghosting practitioner, who ghosted dates with the intent
of consuming expensive meals without paying.
In response to:
Hearing Begins for Alleged 'Dine and Dash Dater'
The 45-year-old could face a potential state prison term if convicted as charged.
By Terri Vermeulen Keith
Published at 3:10 PM PDT on Sep 11, 2018 | Updated at 5:30 PM PDT on Sep 11, 2018
One of the alleged victims of the so-called "Dine-and-Dash Dater" testified Tuesday that she used part of her rent money to pay the check after he allegedly left the Pasadena restaurant where they had shared a meal on their first date.
As a hearing got underway to determine if there is enough evidence to require Paul Guadalupe Gonzales to stand trial, the prosecution's first witness, Martha Barba, testified that she knew she would be left with the bill the moment he walked out of the restaurant where they had dinner together on July 4, 2016.
"I just felt it in my gut," she said.
Gonzales, 45, is facing eight felony counts of extortion and two felony counts of attempted extortion involving 10 women, along with one misdemeanor count each of petty theft and defrauding an innkeeper.
Four other counts -- three counts of extortion and one count of defrauding an innkeeper -- were dismissed as the hearing began, with the prosecution citing the unavailability of witnesses.
Deputy District Attorney Michael Fern alleged that Gonzales met his victims through online dating sites and dashed out of restaurants without paying his share of the bill.
Barba said she met Gonzales through the online dating site Plenty of Fish and agreed to meet him for dinner at a Chipotle restaurant in Pasadena, but he subsequently asked to leave the fast-food eatery and go to a nearby Houston's restaurant while assuring her that he would pick up the tab.
Gonzales "mentioned something about Facetiming with his kids" after the two ate, and said he said he had to go outside to speak with them, but never returned, according to Barba, who identified the man in court as Gonzales.
Barba said she asked the waitress for the bill -- which she thought was close to $200 -- and paid it because she was embarrassed about what had happened.
"I felt humiliated a little bit," she said.
Superior Court Judge Darrell Mavis was also expected to hear testimony from a number of other women, with the hearing expected to wrap up late Tuesday afternoon in a Pasadena courtroom.
Gonzales was initially charged July 3, with the prosecution filing additional counts against him late last week.
The criminal complaint alleges that the crimes occurred between May 2016 and April 2018.
A court filing prepared by Fern alleges "the defendant frequented restaurants with the intent of ordering expensive meals without paying for them. Rather than simply 'dine and dash' on the restaurant's dime, he set up a third party to take the fall."
The prosecution's filing alleges that Gonzales' "modus operandi" involved befriending a woman on an online dating website or service, asking her to accompany him to a restaurant under the guise of a "date," feigning an excuse to leave the table and "exiting the restaurant and leaving the woman behind, so that she would end up with the restaurant bill and pay it out of fear of embarrassment or shame."
The court filing alleges that the bills -- from restaurants in Los Angeles, Long Beach and Pasadena -- ranged from almost $81 to about $250......
Hearing Begins for Alleged 'Dine and Dash Dater'
The 45-year-old could face a potential state prison term if convicted as charged.
By Terri Vermeulen Keith
Published at 3:10 PM PDT on Sep 11, 2018 | Updated at 5:30 PM PDT on Sep 11, 2018
One of the alleged victims of the so-called "Dine-and-Dash Dater" testified Tuesday that she used part of her rent money to pay the check after he allegedly left the Pasadena restaurant where they had shared a meal on their first date.
As a hearing got underway to determine if there is enough evidence to require Paul Guadalupe Gonzales to stand trial, the prosecution's first witness, Martha Barba, testified that she knew she would be left with the bill the moment he walked out of the restaurant where they had dinner together on July 4, 2016.
"I just felt it in my gut," she said.
Gonzales, 45, is facing eight felony counts of extortion and two felony counts of attempted extortion involving 10 women, along with one misdemeanor count each of petty theft and defrauding an innkeeper.
Four other counts -- three counts of extortion and one count of defrauding an innkeeper -- were dismissed as the hearing began, with the prosecution citing the unavailability of witnesses.
Deputy District Attorney Michael Fern alleged that Gonzales met his victims through online dating sites and dashed out of restaurants without paying his share of the bill.
Barba said she met Gonzales through the online dating site Plenty of Fish and agreed to meet him for dinner at a Chipotle restaurant in Pasadena, but he subsequently asked to leave the fast-food eatery and go to a nearby Houston's restaurant while assuring her that he would pick up the tab.
Gonzales "mentioned something about Facetiming with his kids" after the two ate, and said he said he had to go outside to speak with them, but never returned, according to Barba, who identified the man in court as Gonzales.
Barba said she asked the waitress for the bill -- which she thought was close to $200 -- and paid it because she was embarrassed about what had happened.
"I felt humiliated a little bit," she said.
Superior Court Judge Darrell Mavis was also expected to hear testimony from a number of other women, with the hearing expected to wrap up late Tuesday afternoon in a Pasadena courtroom.
Gonzales was initially charged July 3, with the prosecution filing additional counts against him late last week.
The criminal complaint alleges that the crimes occurred between May 2016 and April 2018.
A court filing prepared by Fern alleges "the defendant frequented restaurants with the intent of ordering expensive meals without paying for them. Rather than simply 'dine and dash' on the restaurant's dime, he set up a third party to take the fall."
The prosecution's filing alleges that Gonzales' "modus operandi" involved befriending a woman on an online dating website or service, asking her to accompany him to a restaurant under the guise of a "date," feigning an excuse to leave the table and "exiting the restaurant and leaving the woman behind, so that she would end up with the restaurant bill and pay it out of fear of embarrassment or shame."
The court filing alleges that the bills -- from restaurants in Los Angeles, Long Beach and Pasadena -- ranged from almost $81 to about $250......
(continued in first comment below)
Drama Ploys
Most of the time, when reading posts, I can gauge whether or not a person is just venting and wants some attention, or wants a solution to their problem. Sometimes, though, like probably a lot of people, I get sucked in to those that just want attention - and of course kick my own a** for doing so.
After posting the photo of the old truck in a fb group for local residents, lots of people really liked it and made comments on it. I like to post photos so the locals can see what a beautiful area we live in, and the hidden treasures that abound in our little city.
Post after post, people mentioned something about how much they loved old cars and trucks. Obviously a favourite subject for many. And then this afternoon, some a-hole posted that it was a piece of junk and go and remove it. Initially I responded to him asking why I would trespass on someone's private property and clean up their yard? Also that it wasn't an issue for the owner and the only person that had a problem with it was him.
He didn't respond, and one other person agreed with me, that his remark was uncalled for. In looking up his name, I noted he'd made an insulting remark to another woman on the site. It was more than evident that he's a troll. So I deleted my comment and hid his post so no one else will be able to see it. That, Imo, is the most effective way to shut these a-holes down. Don't give them any attention whatsoever.
Then, this afternoon a woman I know back east, posted that she needed ice cream, chocolate or cookies with the hashtag #ketosucks. I suggested something she could have without cheating that would help with the sweet cravings. Well, she didn't want a solution, she just wanted to whine. Several others offered her a solution, but she dismissed all the suggestions with the assertion that she was on strict keto. Okay, then, don't b*tch about it, when it's your own choice.
I'm mad at myself for getting sucked in to her needless drama, and peed off at her for making a big deal out of something that's her own decision. So I've hidden her post as well, and turned off notifications, as I could care less how many solutions come up, she's obviously not interested - and I'm not interested in her whining.
While those of us that are on a weight loss program are thrilled at our progress, whining about something I can't have doesn't solve anything, and only makes me want it more. If I have a craving for sweets, I'll make something healthy that'll take that craving away without affecting my program. It's not rocket science.
I guess now she's happy that she's attained all the attention she wanted, with offers of solutions - all dismissed - and an outpouring of sympathy for her predicament. Yeah, none from me. I'll save my empathy and compassion for someone that truly deserves it, and isn't just whining because they want attention and sympathy for a situation they've chosen. Good grief!
I feel like telling her to go out for a bike ride or something. If she asks how that will take her craving away, I'll respond that it won't, but she won't be online whining about something she's choosing to do voluntarily.
I should tell her that sympathy is between sh*t and syphilis in the dictionary.
That'll teach me to get sucked in to someone's ploy for drama. And yes, I'm just venting.
After posting the photo of the old truck in a fb group for local residents, lots of people really liked it and made comments on it. I like to post photos so the locals can see what a beautiful area we live in, and the hidden treasures that abound in our little city.
Post after post, people mentioned something about how much they loved old cars and trucks. Obviously a favourite subject for many. And then this afternoon, some a-hole posted that it was a piece of junk and go and remove it. Initially I responded to him asking why I would trespass on someone's private property and clean up their yard? Also that it wasn't an issue for the owner and the only person that had a problem with it was him.
He didn't respond, and one other person agreed with me, that his remark was uncalled for. In looking up his name, I noted he'd made an insulting remark to another woman on the site. It was more than evident that he's a troll. So I deleted my comment and hid his post so no one else will be able to see it. That, Imo, is the most effective way to shut these a-holes down. Don't give them any attention whatsoever.
Then, this afternoon a woman I know back east, posted that she needed ice cream, chocolate or cookies with the hashtag #ketosucks. I suggested something she could have without cheating that would help with the sweet cravings. Well, she didn't want a solution, she just wanted to whine. Several others offered her a solution, but she dismissed all the suggestions with the assertion that she was on strict keto. Okay, then, don't b*tch about it, when it's your own choice.
I'm mad at myself for getting sucked in to her needless drama, and peed off at her for making a big deal out of something that's her own decision. So I've hidden her post as well, and turned off notifications, as I could care less how many solutions come up, she's obviously not interested - and I'm not interested in her whining.
While those of us that are on a weight loss program are thrilled at our progress, whining about something I can't have doesn't solve anything, and only makes me want it more. If I have a craving for sweets, I'll make something healthy that'll take that craving away without affecting my program. It's not rocket science.
I guess now she's happy that she's attained all the attention she wanted, with offers of solutions - all dismissed - and an outpouring of sympathy for her predicament. Yeah, none from me. I'll save my empathy and compassion for someone that truly deserves it, and isn't just whining because they want attention and sympathy for a situation they've chosen. Good grief!
I feel like telling her to go out for a bike ride or something. If she asks how that will take her craving away, I'll respond that it won't, but she won't be online whining about something she's choosing to do voluntarily.
I should tell her that sympathy is between sh*t and syphilis in the dictionary.
That'll teach me to get sucked in to someone's ploy for drama. And yes, I'm just venting.
Things What will keep Two People Together In a Relationship1(By falicias Own Experiences)
Love! Sex! Looks ! Loyalty Affection ! Priority ! Caring ! Confidence ! Self Esteem Compromise ! Things In Common ! Trust ! Admiration ! Time ! Respect ! Communication ! Patience ! Listening!
By falicia!
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What is your Oppinion?
By falicia!
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What is your Oppinion?
with love
HI. I am searching a true friend for everything here in Portugal. ...so, would you like to be my Dearest One? Please send me msg if you want to be a part of rest life for everything (only female ).
just waiting your msg.
Thank you.
just waiting your msg.
Thank you.
online now!
Matchmaker...
Typically, a matchmaker is a person who arranges introductions for people for the purpose of marriage. It's a profession in some countries. I'm not sure where I heard the name matchmaker and the song first. It was a Broadway show in 1964 and made into a movie 1971. Chances are my dad got hold of a record or reel-to-reel tape.
(I planned to do one long blog, but for lack of time maybe I'll break it into episodes. My schedule this month has me working 6 days a week and training two newly hired workers.)
Mail order bride was a term I heard as a kid. I knew it existed and recall reading the back page advertisements of magazines and newspapers. Women looking men were the ones I recall. The matchmaker would post some photos of his clients and guys would have to send letters to obtain more information. The women were mostly from European countries.
30 years later and the beginning of internet had matchmakers doing business nearly the same way, except they were crossing over to legitimate dating sites, creating profiles that appeared to be 'too good to believe' and fooling other members into thinking a real person was using the profile. For simplicity, I'll put matchmakers and scammers in the same category.
Of the sites I was listed, many had Russian and Asian women sending messages like crazy. I was getting a few a day. One site had a private messenger style chat interface, person-to-person. This was something new. If the person I was chatting with appeared interesting, I would give out my Yahoo or Skype. One woman sent me many messages and I declined each time because she was much too young.
Her English on the messages was very good and she was persistent. Okay... I agreed.
What I found in a video chat was the woman sitting next to her translator! She spoke no English and had gone to a matchmaking service run mostly by college students who were fluent in English. I would speak to the matchmaker who translated what I said and the woman's response would be translated into English. I was learning about meetings like this from blogs and forums and know someone had to pay for the service, so I repeated my position and thanked her for the time.
Scanning profiles was something I became good at and I noticed that a handful of profiles from the same city all had nearly identical introductions. Obviously a matchmaking service was doing the work for a few clients, cutting and pasting cloning the text. I became suspicious of messages with perfect English especially from women in China, I would ask if the the member was real or if I was communicating with a matchmaker!
That's it for Matchmaker.
Is Matchmaker II to follow?
Guys, here's a tidbit for you... Remember getting messages from beautiful blonde women claiming they were 'interested in your structure' ??
Many said they were from America.
Where were they really from?
(I planned to do one long blog, but for lack of time maybe I'll break it into episodes. My schedule this month has me working 6 days a week and training two newly hired workers.)
Mail order bride was a term I heard as a kid. I knew it existed and recall reading the back page advertisements of magazines and newspapers. Women looking men were the ones I recall. The matchmaker would post some photos of his clients and guys would have to send letters to obtain more information. The women were mostly from European countries.
30 years later and the beginning of internet had matchmakers doing business nearly the same way, except they were crossing over to legitimate dating sites, creating profiles that appeared to be 'too good to believe' and fooling other members into thinking a real person was using the profile. For simplicity, I'll put matchmakers and scammers in the same category.
Of the sites I was listed, many had Russian and Asian women sending messages like crazy. I was getting a few a day. One site had a private messenger style chat interface, person-to-person. This was something new. If the person I was chatting with appeared interesting, I would give out my Yahoo or Skype. One woman sent me many messages and I declined each time because she was much too young.
Her English on the messages was very good and she was persistent. Okay... I agreed.
What I found in a video chat was the woman sitting next to her translator! She spoke no English and had gone to a matchmaking service run mostly by college students who were fluent in English. I would speak to the matchmaker who translated what I said and the woman's response would be translated into English. I was learning about meetings like this from blogs and forums and know someone had to pay for the service, so I repeated my position and thanked her for the time.
Scanning profiles was something I became good at and I noticed that a handful of profiles from the same city all had nearly identical introductions. Obviously a matchmaking service was doing the work for a few clients, cutting and pasting cloning the text. I became suspicious of messages with perfect English especially from women in China, I would ask if the the member was real or if I was communicating with a matchmaker!
That's it for Matchmaker.
Is Matchmaker II to follow?
Guys, here's a tidbit for you... Remember getting messages from beautiful blonde women claiming they were 'interested in your structure' ??
Many said they were from America.
Where were they really from?
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