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This blog is a mere observation of the sarcasm,hate speech,arrogance and utter disregard for the feeling of all concerned.
BY NO MEANS IS THIS A REFLECTION ON ANY SPECIFIC PERSON.
1) If you don't believe in God,don't use blasphemous remarks.
A) Rather just say I don't believe in God and move along swiftly
2) No respect shown to people genuinely crying for help.
A) Just a tiny word of encouragement,like wish you happiness will suffice
3) Competing for Mr OR MS popularity,this is not a popularity site
A) Watch out for that big ditch,favouritism is false and nasty.
4) Say derogatory things about a person on a blog and when taken to task
you go and delete the evidence ,but the person spoken about has made a
copy thereof ,and by the time the other bloggers read the response of
the person spoken about ,they think he/she is nuts and not aware of the post.
A)To this remark I have been the victim but copied the proof thereof.

5)Gossip and planning of response with certain blogger via private email

Once again you know who you are.
A)One day when you have a spat with a person you have been emailing privately,the bubble will burst and all will be revealed as what happened on a previous blog.C.C RESPECT TO YOU AND THE APPROACH YOU HAVE TAKEN.Freedom of speech is for all to embrace,don't hide what you have to say,come out in the open and air your view.C.H you are a VERY GOOD EXAMPLE,RESPECT MY SISTER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER.

6)If you know you are not welcome on a blog of a particular person.

A)Don't go there and don't use someone else's blog to spew your venom.
In plain English stay away,shut the door,take the hint,or fix the mess you started,don't always answer a question with a question,or play victim by bringing in sob stories such as my brother or sister or mother or whoever is not well so therefore I have the right to say what I please because I know my back will be covered. I say pathetic

MY WISH FOR TODAY AND MANY TO COME .GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO EXCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE,BUT THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENC

I Have posted this blog with the hope of understanding and reaching out to our fellow bloggers without nastiness

heart and soul
Author: lindsyjones

red roses adorned
memories

folded, gone

replaced by fresh hugs
touch that melts my heart

the ray of the morning sun

seeping through two souls
conjoined as one

happy valentines to everyone.

~ ~ ~ ~ ~

About this poem:


just a thought for all who are in love, had been in love and who knows forever loved.

Thanks all for your reads

There’s nothing like the rush of a new relationship. The butterflies. The lost sleep. The giddiness. The unknown.

It’s easy to lose ourselves in it.

These feelings are intoxicating, which is why we often lose sight of our more rational, forward-looking concerns during the honeymoon phase of a relationship. Let me put it this way: there have been so many times when I've plunged right into a relationship without stopping to ask myself some important questions about myself, as well as the new dynamic, and the other person.

And sometimes, a few months into these relationships, I find myself wondering if these partners were who I had originally thought they were. When the excitement and infatuation wears off, the last place we want to end up is realizing that we had been wrong.

1. Am I being fully authentic in this relationship?

Let's face it: being ourselves is sometimes harder than we think it should be. Oftentimes, we are afraid to hurt someone's feelings or be judged incorrectly, so we guard ourselves by not showing up authentically. This can take very subtle forms — not speaking up about a dislike of a certain restaurant — or more serious forms — not being honest about our past relationship experiences because we're afraid they make us unlovable.

Ultimately, we all want someone who loves us for our true and unfiltered self. It is our responsibility to bring that self into the relationship from moment one so that our love is based on that and not on pretense.

Navigating love from this true space might also prevent the disconnect that happens later in relationship when we wonder why our partners are so different from who we thought they were. You know, that Who-are-you-and-what-did-you-do-with-the-person-I-fell-in-love-with? moment that so many couples have experienced.


2. Am I putting this person on a pedestal (or am I requiring that this person put me on one?)?


But as a result, one person is situated in a position of more power than the other, and often precipitates self-destructive, toxic dynamics in the relationship. Specifically, this can cause us to over-give, over-prove, or over-compensate when we're on the "lower" end of the pedestal, and it can cause us to play aloof and disconnect emotionally if we've placed ourselves above our partner.

This imbalanced relationship dynamic leads us to be anything but our authentic and vulnerable self. It also leads to unfair expectations of the people we're with. If we've placed them "up there," we often expect perfection; if we've placed ourselves "up there," we expect them to prove their worth.

I propose that you make a committed choice to see your partner and yourself as equals. At all times, you are equally beautiful and worthy of love ... but also equally and perfectly imperfect.

3. How do I feel in this relationship?

Sometimes, the list of qualities we want in a potential partner is so elaborate and specific that it could fill pages. Why? Because it's easy to fantasize about all the things we might want to see in another person. Because we can uncritically focus on the surface qualities we desire and, in the process, neglect how we actually feel in the relationship.
4. What’s triggering me in this relationship and what might that be showing me about myself?

When we have emotional reactions (positive and negative) in relationship, these are golden opportunities to learn about ourselves. Since emotions are so powerful at the start of a relationship, this is a time rich with potential insights.


Try asking yourself these questions the next time you find yourself falling for someone.

Joy is within your reach, go grab some!

We all want to feel happy, and each one of us has different ways of getting there. Here are 10 steps you can take to increase your joie de vivre and bring more happiness into your life:

1. Be with others who make you smile. Studies show that we are happiest when we are around those who are also happy. Stick with those who are joyful and let rub off on you.

2. Hold on to your values. What you find true, what you know is fair, and what you believe in are all values. Over time, the more you honor them, the better you will feel about yourself and those you love.

3. Accept the good. Look at your life and take stock of what’s working, and don’t push away something just because it isn’t perfect. When good things happen, even the very little ones, let them in.

4. Imagine the best. Don’t be afraid to look at what you really want and see yourself getting it. Many people avoid this process because they don’t want to be disappointed if things don’t work out. The truth is that imagining getting what you want is a big part of achieving it.

5. Do things you love. Maybe you can’t skydive every day or take vacations every season, but as long as you get to do the things you love every once in a while, you will find greater happiness.

6. Find purpose. Those who believe they are contributing to the well-being of humanity tend to feel better about their lives. Most people want to be part of something greater than they are, simply because it’s fulfilling.

7. Listen to your heart. You are the only one who knows what fills you up. Your family and friends may think you’d be great at something that really doesn’t float your boat. It can be complicated following your bliss. Just be smart, and keep your day job for the time being.

8. Push yourself, not others. It’s easy to feel that someone else is responsible for your fulfillment, but the reality is that it is really your charge. Once you realize that, you have the power to get where you want to go. Stop blaming others or the world, and you’ll find your answers much sooner.

9. Be open to change. Even if it doesn’t feel good, change is the one thing you can count on. Change will happen, so make contingency plans and emotionally shore yourself up for the experience.

10. Bask in the simple pleasures. Those who love you, treasured memories, silly jokes, warm days, and starry nights—these are the ties that bind and the gifts that keep on giving.

Happiness and fulfillment are within your grasp, but sometimes just out of reach. Understanding what works best for you is the first step in finding more of them.

Looks are relative to the viewer.

Is age so Important?

I admire intelligence, curiosity and understanding.

Whats you criteria?

I met this Hot,sexy,amazing,intelligent,charismatic and caring woman on this site.we met on forums and blogs . We have many common interests and share the same passionate topics .
I'm a romantic dreamer and she down to earth pessimist.we went on a date and it was almost perfect except without that first kiss,instead a passive hug with our farewell.
We even had time to visit my mum that they became close.
Mum thinks she is way too good for me and I truly agree .we do make an excellent team but as a couple that's seem doubtful.
She likes my poems but shows no emotions.chemistry is very strong between us but what is puzzling me ...where is the love?
I know for real she'll be a great wife and wonderful daughter in law .I've the utmost respect and affection over a "Sarah Conner Terminator 2 " woman .Are we just only friends for life ?
Is there a way to find if she even has an inch of love for me ?
Sometimes I'm afraid of losing her completely as she is the closest a friend and chat mate I've gotten in this lonely life. And to make it almost an impossible reality of being together we are from different countries with lots to lose by leaving our native home and crossing over.

they care, they ask and they try to find measures. Most of them come to a common measure, introducing men that they think are good and compatible for me.

I have kept avoiding dating meetings arranged by my colleagues, friends and relatived but lately i accepted to meet 1 man. It was quite awkward. We have nice hours long conversation to see that we have very few things in common lol.

Now other friends are proposing other meetings. I am fed up with it but the pressure keeps pressing me everyday. How many failures to reach 1 success? If following the formular off 99 failures per 1 success, maybe i ll get 1 when i get around 60 years old lol.

He broke his plan with customer to spare any time for helping me. He does anything i ask. i wish i could return his "friendship" or at least introduce someone suitable for him...

Why is life teasing us a lot? People keep chasing each other. Should i just let it be, let it come naturally or keep on searching?

I can fall in love in a second, but mostly get to know the person, I'm attracted to, better. I'm in love at present, with the drop of a coin in a fountain. He's absolutely adorable.

About 4 years ago I met an illegal alien who spoke very little English but upon learning from a friend of hers my wife had recently died came over to me in the 7-11 she worked at and gave me a hug and through a co-worker who interpreted said she was sorry to hear of my loss. She normally worked alone on a lonely stretch of highway as the sole clerk in a rural 7-11. The unexpected kindness from a total stranger who spoke so little English touched me and I resolved to learn more about her. Thus began a friendship.

I learned of and helped her resolve her problems with the US Immigration agency and she got her work Visa and later her Permanent Resident status. I helped her secure a "no fault" divorce from an absentee and abusive, drug using, ex husband. I worked on her English and helped her move to a new boyfriend's house. I taught her to use a computer and how to write a resume. I persuaded her to go to a trade school and get a first license in the medical field. I helped her find her first medical job and use my computer for on-line applying and allowed the use of my home with a key as a way station between work, home and the school. In return I found myself with someone whose problems distracted me from my grief and who, working with and discussing things about life in her homeland versus life in America with, helped me get past a very rough emotional time in my own life. My cats liked her too. The constant stream of free donuts in the morning and going out for lunches in new (to me) Asian and Indian restaurants where everything on the menu was in Sanskrit was also a plus. Since her own father had been murdered in front of her during the civil war that swept her country not too long before she came to America, I think I fill(ed) a needed father advisor figure role in her life too.

Working alone at 3AM in a 7-11 in the middle of nowhere.



Bringing hot coffee and fresh donuts to my house at 5AM at shift's end.



Building her first resume on my PC



Her and my girl friend of that month together before lunch.



Learning to work with a laptop in my living room.



Applying for a first medical job with her new license from my PC



Her first interview for a good paying job in America.



She got a job in a Washington, DC area major hospital, and later on when her boyfriend moved I helped her get a hospital job closer to that city.

On a night out to celebrate getting the second hospital job.



Meanwhile I began to push for her to enroll in college, which she did and attends the University in the night towards her 4 year degree while working in the hospital in the day or late at night.

So I provided some coaching on the process and she did the interviews and took the test and yesterday after being sworn in she became a US citizen.



I feel like a proud Step-Father. One more year of school to go and I hope to attend her first college graduation too. She will decide then if she wishes to go on towards a doctorate or not.

Why do men keep asking questions like these: am i single, do i have kids, what kind of relationship i'm seeking for, where do i come from etc. All the answers are in my profile ! They don't even care to read it before writing me a message or they write the same to every one? Very creative and serious i must say....
Oh and the best is that they get angry with me when i don't reply ...