Who Sleeps With Whom?
What we write in our blogs reveals our souls and it exposes us to the bone in the process. What we say and how we say it is the most obvious telltales of our personalities, but what we don’t say, can give away just as much. People read between the lines because every blogger has a distinctive undertone in all his or her blogs, be that goodwill, humor, loneliness, skepticism, scorn, bitterness, malice, or whatever. That undertone seldom deviates from the person.Comment posters are not exempted from this. In fact, they are even more vulnerable to it, because comments are more spontaneous in nature than blogs. They come out at the spur of the moment whereas we plan our blogs and have plenty of time to sanitize them before posting it.
Reading comments is interesting and tells us a lot about the author, but when you look a bit deeper, a more interesting pattern unfolds. Try to see who ignores whom, who comments on whose blogs, and note the nature of those comments to the different bloggers, and you can easily see who sleeps with whom.
In real life, we avoid the people we don’t like. Why can’t we do it here? Of course, we may disagree with another person’s view on a topic and we are free to state such disagreement, but why do we have to criticize the person? Is he or she not entitled to certain a view same as we are? Do we have to take it to a personal level?
It is not enough to state our disagreement and scoot off. We have to add a bit of acid to it. Perhaps we all have a bit of a troll in us, only closer to the surface with some than with others.
Enjoy this day and let’s try to show a little more respect to each other.
Comments (79)
Don't blame me. I offered, but you declined.
Refusing an offer from you?!?
I gotta be crazyyyyyyyy! Real crazy!
Maybe I wasn't thinking straight then?
You have an astute observations. I may just add something; when some of the commentators will take you or taken you into something personal (whom sometimes might below the belt) IGNORED THEM.
They say, the higher educations you have, the more humble you are....in short don't stoop down with their level of thinking.
You sounded a bit incoherent at the time but I did not want to be pushy. Some will say I have no determination.
Welcome to my blog.
The problem is that when a person singles you out for their negative comments all the time, it is hard to keep quiet.
No, I don't know what you mean. Do you want to elaborate a bit more.
I'm not likely to stop and I hope nobody else does. We have too few bloggers as it is. The blogs have gone quiet during the last year.
That is very reassuring. I was looking around for a rope strong enough but now I'm happy again.
For your blog ...
Thank you. It is a shame that we have to pen this. We should have it in all of us to respect others.
Blogging was exciting, when it's sensible, reality and authentic.
Promises, promises, promises. That is all I ever get. Promises and more promises.
My car never breaks down. I sell potential problems before they become problems.
It's true. Even my little pic-up truck that looks like a wreck is mechanically sound and gets his service regularly.
So, to sum up, I don't get pushy with cars.
I wonder if you are aware of it that I posted a blog very similar to this about a year or so ago.
I must admit that I have not had the guts yet to re-post a blog that was moderated and I have refrained from touching the same topics to date. I'm very attached to my blogs and don't like to see them vanishing into thin air.
He must be an active blogger and commenter. Either heart-stoppingly handsome, or with no pics at all. Prepared to flirt outrageously, but never reveal our passionate attachment.
Easy, really.
Oh, and preferably not adored by too many others. Cat this is my public way of telling you I'm recruiting. If I get more than one successful applicant, I will have to let you go, you are just too much of a flirt. You have good taste, and so do they, but enough is enough.
I'm sorry dear, but you must understand that I live in Africa. As a good citizen of my country, I follow the example set by our State President.
Interesting blog and pretty much spot on on what happens in blogging and in life away from the internet as well.
I just want to add an ole saying we have all heard at one time or another. "We are the company we keep." In other words, if we want to know the kind of person we are or how other people may view us, all we have to do is look at the friends we have, the people we surround ourselves with or those we associate with.
Of course, I don't know if that ole saying always rings completely true, as I know so many various types of people and personalities. But just thought I'd mention it here.
Also, as for me, I sometimes do plan my blogs, and sometimes I don't. Sometimes I may change a blog of mine or just do something spur of the moment instead. lol
Of all my friends and everyone on the blogs, I am proud to associate with all of them. Everyone is always welcomed on my blogs.
Thanks again for an interesting and good blog.
I wish you a great day.
I'm sorry that you feel like this. I really thought you understood me. My heart is like the mini-bus taxis that you get on the South African roads. There is always place for another one.
One more will not undermine my unfaltering love for
womenyou.On whose side are you? This is not one bit funny.
Of course I'm standing on.....................................Viv's side!!!
I'm not too proud to admit that my vocabulary allows me to replace a word here and there to give it a new appearance Changing the sequence of paragraphs also help.
Actually, I must look fr that blog and see how much of it corresponds. It will be interesting to see how much my view on the matter has changed since then.
DC understands.
No, my mind is made up. And I see I have mail.
Strange how things happen. I was thinking earlier to use the two of us as an example. We seldom comment on each others blogs (and here you just did it), but there is no animosity between us. We respect each other and even had the odd conversation off the blogs in the past. The main reason (imo) for 'ignoring' each other is the diversity of our interests and maybe a bit of a time difference. By the time when we usually get to the others blog it is already stale. Yet we coexist without problems between us. We had a haggle or two, but it was never personal. It is not that difficult, is it?
Had the hiccups?
Of course I can tell who you are. You are Calliopesgirl! We all know you.
Yes, DC understands too well but you don't. She is just putting suggestions in your mind to drive a wedge between us so she can have me for herself.
I know sharing is caring but I don't like to share my man
Do you seriously know whom I sleep with?!
Oh my.. oh geezz..!
I have to turn the light off before I go to bed from now, I suppose.
I knew you would come to your senses at some stage.