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We all have some memories ..
Some sweet , some sour , some bitter ...
Few smiles and few tears ...

These are those dewdrops of moments , that make the paths of our life memorable till to the end ....

People leave..
Time leaves ...
Only thing that's left behind with us , is MEMORY ...

... In the US Federal and some individual US States, seat warming "employees" are now being required to spend time in seminars, so they can try to behave, and thereby magically become, less White.
Gone is the arrogance, respect for hard work in school and on the job, reliance on fact based critical argument, and all the sordid rest of it. Pupils can now stop ackin' White, ditch the proto gang banger threads, and get down to real academic achievement. And now this Third Reich mindset is moving into some corporate culture. Coca Cola, thankfully, is reportedly doing so. Many others are on the Apartheid band wagon. Public schools, universities. And more.
And Robin DiAngelo's ("White Fragility"-see it at your liberal public library, don't make her any more rich), 50 minute on line self-learning program on this important topic, no doubt will advance the demise of the human scourge of prejudging others, on the basis of skin color.
Well, all I can say is, it's about time. But why spend so much time in self critical self study? For a few bucks, we hopelessly melanin challenged Hupersons, can apply skin creams to darken the skin, just as Michael Jackson used the opposite potions to look less Negro. Not to mention the botched repeat rhinoplasty.
No more hair straitening. Gold teeth. What a release from bondage. Wealthy successful Black men can now look for non White spouses. Or at least abandon the search for a hottie near White Lady Octadroon.
See, all. I now am finding valid reasons to stop regretting the stolen, VERY stolen, erection. As should we all.

I believe that the greatest crime is to learn something that can significantly benefit other people, yet share it with no one.

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Intelligence is a good thing to have, but IMO,
relying on your instincts and experience will work far better for you in most situations in
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life.
Of course, being intelligent on any level, wouldn't hurt, either.
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Train your mind to calm in every storm. Calmness will show your confidence , resilience & experience with dealing in the worst of times ,
Stop getting offended by words .The worse thing you can do is lose control of your own thoughts .

People tend to pay attention to what they already believe. Then they filter out information that doesn’t fit with their opinions & dismiss it .
Tell them what they want to hear
Most of our problems are just minor obstacles that we’ve mentally overblown .
Focus only on the solutions & the issues will vanish.

A small change that can make a major impact on your life : Stop verbalizing negativity ,
Knowing but acting like you do not is self-care .
Acting dumb to avoid argument is wisdom,
In today’s world, everyone’s trying to get a hold of your focus.
Value your focus like you should & do what you need to protect it .
Attention is the new currency so be careful who you give yours to ,
Have faith over fear ! Fear can only control you if you let it in . Have faith & let the good things be your guide.

Let them rage . Win in silence . This has stood the test of time

Just Chill.!!

....Yep, lets hear them.... Those hopeless, ephemeral, doomed, time and breath wasting New Years Resolutions. I've already hinted at mine. Including---much more targeted flirting. Being kinder to the world, including to dozens of strikingly lovely females nightly scratching at my front door. Less impossibly cognitively fathomable, intendedly putatively significant, somnolence immediately generating, ---cryptic scribbling. Above all those containing a trace of waxing narcissistic, on all my greatness and unmatched modesty. Much fewer rank base political meanderings. Ditto for comments on such, especially when sourced by AOC levels of thinking and knowledge base. And a few more, too personal to mention, except in more private venues. All have have had auspicious beginnings over the past few weeks. Except for the HARDest one, VERY hard. Abandoning my wanker ways of life. The flirting and tree house might just help with workable results on this last pledge.

One beautiful Monday morning, I stepped out in front of my door and noticed a mad man standing right in front of my door step,he bent down, wrote “W”, and asked me what he wrote. At this point, I was already feeling ashamed, getting involved in a lengthy conversation with him. In a hurry to leave, I said “w”, but I was amazed when he replied to my answer, “You only see 'W', because of the angle at which you are looking at it. If you turn upside down, you'll see “M”; from the right side, it is “3”, and from the left side, it is “E”.

The fact that I don’t see things at the perspective that everyone is seeing it doesn’t make me a mad man, he said. Then he left.

I pondered for so long about this though; and more, its application to life. We act, and relate to people, based on the perspective at which we are looking at their situation. Have you taken your time to look at other possible perspectives, views and angles, maybe, a little from their own view before we judge them? I then decided that, before I get angry with, or act against, or judge, anyone that has done something unfavourable to me, I will view it in at least three possible perspectives, mine, theirs and others'.

So, before you judge people,
before you rage your anger on them,
take a little time to view their angle or perspective, and,
if you still cannot see a reasonable reason,
then you may act REASONABLY .
Have a great week

.....Bravo and I were walking into the government offices of this little ocean hamlet, VERY ham. On our way to pay confiscatory taxes---money on its way to much redundancy and waste. Who hasn't seen this? Government employee road work crew, surrounding sewer trench, digging done by oversized backhoe, really only two or three humans needed---one on backhoe, and hand shovelers. Over half a dozen standing/sitting about hole in road, --smoking, joking ---all with paychecks, and government PENSIONS. Crew chief, assistant to crew chief, ad hoc- protempere- adjunct- deputy under secretary to crew chiefs, and so on. Pensions in the dreaded private sector? Don't hold your breaths. Onward we two, and private firm house painters at real work. Merely two souls, busy as bees. Pensions? ---what are those? Same with next few craftperson crews. So, we reach Tax office, at around 10:30, all "workers" gone home, sign on door, "closing at noon, due to storm". No storm within 500 miles. On way home, passed dozens of private businesses, with no "storm early release" notices anywhere in sight. Busy workers. Whence the lack of trust in government, and the phrase, "good enough for government work"'. And suspicion of science, especially as pandering pols wastefully turn it into policy. Using, what?, why OPM of course.The growing dichotomy. Folks on right who produce, create jobs and pay taxes, others on the leftie end of big government pander largesse. Trump Vs. Bernie types. Populism, on the right and LEFT. Of course, as with self loathing, privilege guilt, virtue broadcasting, ---lefties can (constitutionally) only focus with hate speech on the former---only to admit to the latter with a gun held to the head. Science?, on which I've tried to blog to clarify it's essence and real roles/limitations. Well, just remember that Karl Marx himself, son of wealth, ur- communist, proto source of so much human suffering---prefered to combine the terms to describe his and Lenin's craft. "Scientific Economics". Sort of has a nice ring to it, no? Great for public big government policy, as history clearly shows.

If we look closely, every person in the world is suffering from this disease. Our personality keeps changing according to our feelings. When anger, hatred, greed, ego, fear, lust, etc. dominate us, our behavior changes completely, and it affects our life also. Similarly, when good feelings awaken within us, our behavior also becomes good. Our personality depends on our good and bad feelings.
If we could control our feelings, we can get a stable personality and a stable life.

In wanting of what you don't have, don't forget to enjoy what you have.
What you have got very easily, many people do not get it even after hard work. So respect what you have.
In pursuit of a brighter tomorrow don't stop enjoying your today.
'Yesterday' is gone, whenever 'Tomorrow' comes it will come in the form of 'Today'. So only 'Today' is in your hands, how to live it is up to you.

Live 'Today' in such a way that 'Tomorrow' doesn't get angry with you.

Here is my definition of a easy going man vs a guy who faces life with all its challenges.
I think easy going is lazy/ignorant/ at facing issues and problems/ could be deceitful at times, lacking the maturity to face problems and find solutions, or not wanting to appear to be arrogant?

On the flip side: Mature man who had to face difficult and find solutions/military trained/ had a solid family rules structures. A person who does not quit on life.

What is your opinion?