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Do you ever look at your life like someone else may look at it? Do you ever take yourself out of yourself, and look at your life from a different perspective? As if you aren't you? Like looking at yourself through a camera lens.

I do that sometimes. I remove myself from me, from all the emotions and ego, and just examine what I've been paying attention to. And I ask myself, is this worth putting any energy into? If my attention is hooked, then I've invested some kind of energy - positive or negative. If I devote any energy to it, then I must care about it in some way.

Let's face it, if we don't care about something or someone, we simply don't devote any thought or energy to it. It doesn't hold our attention for one second. It's like this blog. Have I hooked your attention? Enough to read it? If I have, then you've devoted some energy to it. Now, I can ask you, what did you feel about it? Anything? If I hooked your attention enough to read it, if it's meaningful to you, you will feel something about it, hopefully something positive.

If it's not meaningful in any way, you may feel I've wasted your time. And then you will forget it. A fleeting moment lost. But perhaps you're angry that I've wasted your time. So you write a nasty comment, venting your anger at my blog. And thus, I have hooked your attention enough for you to care to elicit an emotion and to make a comment. And if I respond to your negativity, then you have hooked my attention enough for me to care and perpetuated that negative energy.

But sometimes that camera that we look at life through, has a very narrow lens perspective on it.

I know there's a quote by Maya Angelou that says something to the effect that people may not remember what you say, but they always remember how you made them feel. Now, I do have a bit of an issue with this, because no one can 'make' us feel anything we don't choose to feel. But people do remember the energy one emits. And it's up to us, whether we choose to emit positive or negative energy. If the energy one emits is always negative, then it isn't any wonder that other's don't want to be around that kind of energy on a consistent basis.

In widening our focus, we get to see so much more than the pithiness of ourselves. That as much as our lives are about us, our own dramas, our own plays, our own tragedies, our own comedies, they really are about living wider than our own narrow perspective. About loving and accepting ourselves enough to be able to share that with others. Not in a way of trying to control what they think, do, say, or believe, but in a way that benefits them - giving them what they truly need. When we help others, we help them believe in themselves. Of course, the payoff is that we get to feel good as well.

And I truly think that's what life is about. Not hoarding who we are - but sharing ourselves. Not seeing what is wrong with everyone else, but seeing what is right. Not concerning ourselves with what others do wrong, but only in our own goals and what we can do 'right'.

And I think that's what optimism is. Living wide. Seeing life through a wide-angle lens. Seeing that everyone has something of value to offer, even if it's to teach us what we don't want in our lives. To help those that actually want and need our help. Being able to 'scan' with the wide angle lens, and then narrow the focus only on those things and people that are worthy of hooking our attention, emotions and energy.

I don't think it's ever too late to learn how to live wide. To change one's focus and perspective. To not only feel good oneself, but to help others feel good about themselves. And it's up to us whether we want to focus on the positive or negative.

We all deserve the abundance that this life offers and to share it. We all deserve to be happy and feel loved. We all have value and deserve to live the fullest life possible.

Open up the lens as much as you can. Live wide open.

That's the spirit : half a job is not a job, as a leader you do not get away............. ......... 'Dancing like a butterfly, stabbing like a bee', that was the strategy with which Muhammad Ali attacked opponents who were much bigger and perhaps also much stronger than he was.

Shine, Son..................

Look into the mirror. Not just at the face. Look into your own eyes. You are looking at the only person you have to put up with the rest of you life. Be honest with yourself. You can't lie to you. You will catch you every time. You can't steal from yourself. Be honest. Except who you are. Become your own best friend. You are the one who has to Deeside to love you or hate you. If you hate you. You will always hold you back. If you love you you will take better care of you. If you don't like who you are change. You alone can change you. If there are things you don't like get rid of them. Things you like improve soon them. Your happiness is up to you. You alone can help you. You can only depend on you. Like yourself. Forgive yourself. Ask God to forgive you and repent. Stop hurting yourself and start helping yourself. Look yourself in the eyes. Do nothing that you can't forgive yourself for. Take care of you nobody else will your whole life. Smile tomorrow is a new day and a new adventure. Your world will be better that way. The whole world would be a better place if everyone would do this.

Some of my blogs are inspired about current events and other popular blogs at the time. One such blog I did years ago was inspired by another blog. It was posted by a woman saying that men who played with themselves excessively would lose sensation. Okay, I did some research and found a few links to support her topic. I also read normal sensation would return when the men discontinued such activity.

I knew this woman's style of blogging and I was certain the work wasn't hers. I believe the correct term is plagiarized.

Her blog was funny to me, but I knew the inverse was true for women.

Typing away... and not doing cut & paste I wrote a blog that inverted what she said. If she said something a man did, I found a way to describe the same activity using a woman as the example.

Blogs on that site allowed for (up to) 5 tags (topics or categories) and I correctly tagged my blog with: satire, parody, humor, joke

Unfortunately, 'she' didn't see the joke and neither did her two friends.
It's not uncommon for me to blog then go out for a while. I'll check back after a few hours to see if I had any comments.

Yeah, I did.
I was getting lots of kudos and comments from people 'who got it' along with threats that I plagiarized HER work. They told me I stole her blog and I was being reported to the moderator. They were serious about this...


What's strange is we had commented on each others blogs in the past. I guess that abruptly ended!

Okay, so I dismantled my blog and rewrote another blog titled "I stole your blog..." where I explained my side of the story. If you only heard their side it appears that I was the devil. Actually that was one of the comments from her. If it really was bad, I'm sure the moderator would have deleted it. The blog stayed up.

The response/support to my new blog was overwhelming as though people were actually waiting for something like this. One of the private messages I received had two links. One to a story on a commercial site and one to a blog posted by one of my accusers, someone I knew and had shared comments with.

I was told there were more she had plagiarized.

Huh? The blog was copied? The woman accusing me of taking someone's work had been doing this (stealing) all along...
I wanted to puke over these findings, and I was asked to be silent by the person sending me the links

Thanks for reading my blog!

Hey people,
Fuel went up by 4% and BOV went down by 10% and not paying any dividends this year so far. Makes me feel like Zuckerberg must have felt with his Facebook shortfall 5 days ago (ha bl**dy haha)!
Not a good start to this hot month of August. But I can still go to the beaches, albeit somewhat overcrowded. And snorkel!
Ah..... I also wrote a new poem, and that helps life remain somewhat bearable.
Peace

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