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For the last few weeks, I have been locked in a battle. We're not talking a death match type battle, though, but more a back-and-forth battle. It was a battle that I was CONFIDENT I could win.

When I started this battle, I thought to myself "This will be over quickly. Easy mode activate!", but it wasn't the case. Day after day, month after month, I tried my very best to win. I even went as far as going on Google to research, how I could win this battle.

Usually, Google is helpful. Not this time. I tried to call my mother to ask her, and I tried to follow her instructions. I even went on YouTube to see how others did it. I tried to follow their steps, but alas - I was still defeated.

So now, I am accepting defeat, but not for long. I guarantee that I WILL learn to cook the correct amount of pasta/rice/food for myself. I am truly awful at judging the correct amount of stuff to boil for myself.

I will resume this battle on Monday!

Once I was traveling by train at night. While traveling, a thought came to my mind that if one man travels among 5 women in a cabin with 6 berths, then surely that man will travel safely, happily, sleeping comfortably among 5 women. He will not feel any danger among women. Even, if I were in his place, I wouldn't have felt threatened.

But if the situation is reversed, if a woman is alone among 5 men, will that woman be able to travel at night safely, happily, sleeping comfortably? Will she feel safe? Will she be able to sleep at night?
Definitely no, never.

Both male and female are born from the same womb, but there is a huge difference in the character of both.

Why?????????????????????????????

So dark and gloomy outside I have the lights on. The rain has passed, but the clouds linger. I am living dangerously. I have gotten tired of opening and closing the front door every 5 minutes to let one or both cats in or out. So I have propped the door wide open and am trying to ignore the small sounds coming from other rooms. Could be the cats, could be a snake or a fox. Schrodinger's rule. It is all those things until I get up to look. Maybe it is a topless Playboy model. Maybe I should go look?

Nah, just one of the cats. He saw me and with a guilty expression scooted back outside. Sigh. Now I have to check and make sure he wasn't hiding half a baby rabbit or some other such valuable treasure under the bed. I took inventory last night of stuff in my basement then googled some of the finds. I decided many things I have had for decades can go away now. Although I had thought they might, ,some of our more expensive purchases did not appreciate in value. Indeed I learn with a little googling many dropped enormously in value the longer I kept them.

A 1963 Johnson 3 HP outboard 2 cycle motor. Bought new by my grandfather and used on his 12 foot rowboat for flounder fishing often with me along, long, long ago.



My old US Divers Co. Navy MK I SCUBA tank (with J valve) and backpack. Used only a few times in the early 70s and early 80s it gave me trouble free performance.



It's regulator. Ibid.



A Schwinn 1973 Continental woman's 10 Speed bike. Manufactured in the USA. My wife's. Once upon a time, when it was new, she used it for commuting when she lived only a few blocks from OPM. She continued to ride it until about a year before her passing.



A Schwinn 1995 centennial woman's Cruiser bike. Only one speed. As soon as they came out, wife decided she had to have one. I have no idea why. I don't believe she ever rode it after getting it home. If I was female I would stick a small motor on it. Or add gears, but I certainly wouldn't want a bike with no gears in this hilly area.



My Mother's Zephyr TriStar. A 3 speed tricycle for adults. Ideal for a senior citizen living in an area with paved roads who wants to do some grocery shopping or still scoot around town after his/her driver's license is revoked. In theory anyway. In actuality I think Mom used it only one time, then decided bike pedaling was no fun compared to the convenience of having me do her grocery shopping for her. If I was a decade older I would stick a motor on it. It has the brackets for mounting one and I really don't understand why she didn't get one with the motor already installed.



I learned yesterday most of these things have declined in value to less than 1/3 of the value of their original purchase price. Together they eat a fair amount of basement floor space. Today, all of them went on Craigslist at about $200 each. LoL the Johnson motor cost just about that when new, so at least it breaks even. Of course in real dollars, it lost a lot of value. $200 was a lot more money in 1963.

Hmm, the other cat just poked his head in, looked at me and ran back to the front door. I really should just close the door I think.

Few weeks ago there's this man who messaged me and after a while asked my fb id to chat there. Well because of my privacy settings I asked his fb id instead,so he gave it and I sent him a friend request, he accepted it and we chatted there.

But the next day I became so busy that I couldn't response fast and sometimes also because of our time differences. He messaged me saying I am rude and unfriended me so I apologized. I said sorry and explained why I replied late. He says maybe I am not yet ready for a relationship and all then we said bye in a good way.

After 3 or 4 days we had a chat again and he sent me a friend request again so I accepted it. We chatted only for like 5 mins. or only exchanged 5 messages I think then we moved on. No chat again after my last message to him that he didn't answer. Lol..

Then all of a sudden last two days ago he messaged me here asking if I am ready now to give him time to get to know and be in a relationship. So because I thought he's a nice guy and really sincere I said yes but I told him to be more patience because I can't always response fast as I am not online all the time. And he said yes and asked again for my fb id. And I was like, '' What??? AGAIN???'' Lol I mean all I know is we are already friends there. Yes for the second time actually after the unfriended thing.

So I felt offended and dissapointed to know he unfriended me again for the second time around. I felt bad because as far as I know I didn't do anything bad to him. If he felt ignored it was not intentionally and I apologized and he accepted it so why? WHY HE KEPT ADDING AND UNFRIENDED PEOPLE then call people the ''Rudest person he ever know''. Aww I really felt so bad. I told him in a nice way that I think we're not for each other and that I can't be his fb friend for the third time because I'm offended and dissapointed after he unfriended me twice. And that's it
He said I am the rudest woman he ever know and told me to go hurt other people. Even called me little girl. Haha.. then blocked me..

Okay... done ranting.. So , Am I really rude? :(

I am giving up smoking cigarettes. Patch really works.

Ever get tired of the same old bullshit from people who could care less about you
and perhaps have no incentive to change or constantly depressed or sick of their
life and the choices they made?

Ever get tired of offering suggestions to help people who seem to embrace their misery?

Ever get tired of beating yourself up seeking approval from those you approve of
yet they just don't reciprocate?

Ever get tired of the drama of others?

Ever get tired of stupid mundane sometimes pointless forums or blogs seeing that most people
just have nothing else on their plate to offer?

Are we not tired of being surrounded and very much alone?

Tired of being tired? Thinking that sleeping it off will make it go away
only to find the pain is still there?

Its really sad indeed because no matter how polite we may act or the noble intentions to
offer some solace there is this void of apathy and it drains the energy from us.

People who are constantly depressed drain the energy of those who seemingly are doing fine.
Depression kills and destroys all that is good in anyone. Where does it come from why are people so miserable.
Why do we tend to attract the very thing we despise in others. Perhaps because those who are equally miserable
who do not want to face their issues attract others who do not want to face theirs. Hence they have something in common.

What is sad is having mental illness and depression or physical ailments and seeking others with similar
issues is not an ideal match.
If two are in darkness how can they see themselves to the light?
People in general have their good points and pitiful points and trying to focus on their good points and their potential of greatness is the best we can offer one another but if people only focus on how miserable they are
it actually repels the healing they seek.

I know I am not the sharpest pencil in the box or the brightest bulb but, its so disheartening to see the same old story of people we may care about watching them on a path of self destruction.
When it comes to the 3 kinds of people out there Perpetrators Victims and Rescuers its time to consider the real perpetrators people have such as fear, doubt, lack of confidence, emotional or physical illnesses, anger, hopelessness. These things in my opinion are the worse enemies we have and often sabotage our ambition to find friends and healthy relationships. As far as being a victim many have choices to be one to the perpetrators that rob us of life. Ah then the rescuer which claims they have overcome the perpetrator and profess they are no longer a victim.

How I hate despise this because those who claim they have overcome the role of victim of self made monsters their testimony is a reminder of we have the power to change. Yet how often do you give away that power to the victim and perpetrator?

So, in knowing who our friends really are it those three which are constant reminders of our perceive guilt because we can't measure up to one another.

A woman will always think the grass is greener elsewhere and will always consider their options.
A man may do the same but with a twist because deep down inside no matter how much people
profess they don't need anyone nor want anyone maybe they just gave up on everyone.

Yet they find their comfort zone in their sickness they won't tell you about. They won't tell you how alone they feel or how unhappy they are.
The mask we wear defines only how well we are able to hide our pain.
One day we will have to take off the mask and face our real selves our pain our regrets and declare our passions that we want to live and love and play to be happy and to be needed and wanted and be fruitful
and be human as God intended us to be.
Overall we will have to decide who are friends are and who we wish to let go or hold onto for the new year.

Have you ever heard the name of "Helen Keller" . Helen Keller was an American author . When she was 19 months old , Helen Keller became a deaf and blind.Her deafness and blindness could not stop her . She was the first deaf and blind person Who had achieved the Bachelor of Arts degree. Helen Keller was able to succeed . Do you know how it was possible for her . Helen Keller was a hard worker. The greatest thing was she loved what was she doing . She loved her work . Helen Keller achieved the success through her Heart, Mind and Sprite.


Nelson Mandela has been imprisoned for 27 years by removing casteism from his country and bringing democracy back . He became president of South Africa when he was 76 years old . Nelson Mandela was able to over come because his mind and sprite , to bring back democracy to his country by removing racism .




Turn history . You will see all the monks were succeeding because of their hard work , due to respect for work ,and love for work .They give their mind and soul in the work to gain their success. They also failed but they learned from their failures. They did not give up .


The road to success is not easy . Make you goal bigger . If your goal is smaller then maybe your achievement will be smaller .But if you look bigger you achieve big success .

according to all online quotes.
Putting on my investigative hat i decided to research as to why this might be !
While flicking through a news storyI came across stumbled upon This Article !



Now I never even knew that was a thing.
Did you ?

I also wonder,
Given his history did Donald Trump have a hand in mrs Bum Bum

So there's three things for you all to natter about among yourselves.

Remember Keep it clean people

The other day, I wrote a blog about me being lonely, and someone commented and asked if I was maybe depressed? To tell you the truth: I don't know. Maybe.

Usually when I am alone, I enjoy it, but other times I am so extremely lonely that I want to cry. Like properly bawl my eyes out. To prevent that from happening, I just put on some comedy or a song that I really love. But maybe it is good to have a cry once in a while.

I am VERY good at masking my true feelings. Some say that they don't know HOW I feel, because all they see is smiles and laughter. Maybe I should open up to them, and tell them how I really feel at a certain point in time. But that is not for now. I firstly need to think about how I am going to say it to them. Maybe in a few weeks, or maybe next year.

I know that online tests can be a bit... inconclusive.. But I took one, and it showed, that I have clear signs of a possible depression. I need to go to the doctor to see if the test is accurate, or if it is just a bit of a hag.

I will see if I can get a time on Tuesday, and then get myself checked out. I am worried about the result, to be honest.