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RE: What is the use of a man in the life of a woman?

Funny...about 5 years ago I met a very nice man from Finland. He was both a teacher and a minister. Quite well-read, and very good-looking, as Finns go...I got the impression that women in Finland were now the "boss".

RE: does people know how to talk on the phone instead of texting

I have a difficult time in the modern technology. The other day, I heard some twenty-somethings talking. The young lady said, "I heard you got a new ring tone.." He replied, "yeah, it is SO cool. Listen! (he was so excited..) "Hey, it sounds just like my great grandma's phone! How cool is THAT!"

enough said.....

RE: should an art form like music ever be bowdlerized?

I have belonged to at least one folk music club in a major city that had a majority of club officers and members insisting that Stephen Foster songs, particularly "Swanee River/Old Folks At Home" be altered, so as not to offend. Same thing in writers clubs, omitting some Samuel Clemens prose (Tom Sawyer/Huckleberry Finn) because somewhere someone might be offended. Personally, I am against abridging art, whether it be a poem, a song, or a painting. Some people might be offended by some artwork in The Louvre, for example, or even in the Sistine Chapel. I would rather someone just not participate, or not go to those places, rather than take a wrecking ball to someone's art. JMO

RE: Name something you should always buy new.....

Agree! Something that a few (or many) people may not realize is the extremely high chance of getting a fungus of one kind or another with buying used slippers or shoes. These various noxious flora and fauna are HARDY....seem to live through almost anything. And, sadly, once you get "athletes foot" ,it is all but impossible to eradicate. Pesky, nasty condition. I don't mind buying used socks, jocks, or underwear, because they can all be laundered. I tend to avoid buying new hats, as the same could apply as shoes.

RE: How many hypocrites do you think are actively hypocritical on cs

Not everything is so pat. I've written about this before: Corrie Ten Boom and her family could not have saved human lives during WWII if they had adhered to "Honesty Is The Best Policy". Writer Walt Whitman wrote,
"Do I contradict myself? Very well, I contradict myself. I am large."

RE: Why are people so judgmental ? Are they either

Hey, thank you. Hope you're doing well.

RE: Why are people so judgmental ? Are they either

Lately when I am confronted with someone with negative behaviors and/or personality (gaslighting, passive-aggressive, emotional blackmail, etc...) I immediately/spontaneously remind myself that this is a person who is hurting, in some way or another. For some reason, this helps in a positive way how I respond, because I am validating their "pain", rather than judging their behavior. Sometimes people just want to be heard, and giving them some TLC rather than arguing with them calms the waters.

RE: Everything that irritates us about others

Hey Pedro---its quite normal to be irritated when we see others behave in a way we also behave, but do not care for.

RE: We must give to others what we expect from others for ourselves.

All the philosophers say this in one way or another. It’s called “The Golden Rule”.

RE: Let’s Debate

Not offended. Just unclear about exactly what it is you are asking people to tell you. So, let me try this: I believe it is far better to be optimistic regarding spirituality (allowing that this is different for everyone). If you are pessimistic and correct, you won't know the difference. If you are pessimistic and incorrect, you will have wasted precious time being pessimistic, and it will be too late. If you are optimistic and incorrect, you were optimistic for your lifespan. If you are are optimistic and correct, you win twice. (if you are pessimistic, you lose all the way around.)

hope that is some clarity from my neck of the woods, spiritually, anyway/

RE: Let’s Debate

What you are wanting is a matrix. Read the story of the apostle ‘Thomas’. Though doubting, he was one of Christ’s favorites. You’re stirring up deep waters. What credentials do you bring to the table to be so philosophical regarding the private sanctity of peoples innermost personal convictions? You need to be more careful in your attempts to rankle people about their very private feelings. Not so good….

RE: Let’s Debate

What a conundrum this can be. Many people fully desire a spiritual connection, but there are so many red herrings in the road...which doctrine, who's for real, which history (there are several versions of every faith-based belief systems), what actually occurred vs parables and allegory. I have decided, and am comfortable with, just calling or referring to this entity as God. If I am misguided, or not quite on the correct track, I get full credit for wanting to be right. We're only human, God understands this, He knows that its difficult for us to fully know. Thats where Faith comes in. No one alive can really know what's REALLY going on. So, we get credit for having the Faith that what we cannot see or touch or feel is there. And guess what? It's different for every single person. It's supposed to be.

RE: Proverbs..

"Experience keeps a dear school, but fools will learn in no other" B. Franklin

RE: is bitter truth better than sweet lies?

"Today I bent the truth to be kind, and I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is true"

robert brault.....

RE: Have you ever dated outside of your race? If so, what differences did you encounter (if any)?

Thanks. You’re a gem.

RE: what a wonderful website

I’ve met far more nice folks than not. There are a few “Karens” and “Kevins”, but they’re usually found out and easily ignored.
( not going to get into the meaning…google it if you don’t get it)
Welcome, btw…

RE: would you date...an alpha woman?

Thanks for the laugh— needed it today (going to yet another memorial service…too many lately..)

RE: would you date...an alpha woman?

Truer words were never spoken…

RE: would you date...an alpha woman?

Now is probably a good time to parse the term “Alpha”, as it appears some folks interpret it as a negative. I believe there are women who stand up for themselves, are well educated, and can run or co-run a household or business. That is not “alpha”. To some, the term indicates someone who purposefully controls, and passive-aggressive behaviors are front and center. It’s not the whole Maryann, but certainly part of it.

RE: Thankful Thursday.....What are you thankful for today?

Comfortable house, plenty of everything, enough finances to live well…I’m a fortunate guy. No kidding…

RE: would you date...an alpha woman?

There’s something to think about…

RE: would you date...an alpha woman?

Karen’s back….

RE: Have you ever dated outside of your race? If so, what differences did you encounter (if any)?

I’m not sure just what you’re wanting to know. (I guess I don’t “get” the part about me being “a good story-teller”. Whether you meant to be or not, it seemed condescending. But that’s OK…I’ll still answer your inquiries the best I can…for the moment, as I said, it was a great friendship, she left, neither of us were upset…just a chapter in Life. Don’t know what else to tell you…

RE: What do old people think about ?

I recently turned 64, so of course this thread jumped at me. From my conversations, and friendships with many people older than me, here are the concerns as my spectrum focuses in on:

1. HOUSING!!!!! Way too high for retirees, and way too few subsidies available. Only 20% of people have something else besides Social Security, by the way. Rents in Oregon go up 10% every year. COLA is usually around 3%. Do the math…
2. Medical Services. Many physicians don’t want to handle older clientele. They’re now cherry-picking who they’ll see. The elders are getting kicked to the curb. Pharmaceuticals are hitting the ceiling, and crashing through, in cost. The elderly are forced to make decisions- huge- like whether to eat quality, or to even have a car. It’s outrageous.

I can’t go on….trying to find the good things in life….

RE: Have you ever dated outside of your race? If so, what differences did you encounter (if any)?

Yes, the friendship was wonderful. We worked at the same hospital, so we were a bit nervous about fraternizing, which was, believe it or not, frowned upon. Both of us were in college, myself always ( C.E.U.) and she was working on a Masters Degree…so, very busy. We continued occasionally going out for quite awhile, and eventually she went to UK, then mainland Europe. It wasn’t different than dating would typically be, as in any other race…I personally didn’t dwell on that. She was nice, beautiful, good conversationalist. (Actually I’m a little more concerned about why you have so many personal questions regarding this).

RE: would you date...an alpha woman?

Alpha women don’t even like alpha women.

RE: Have you ever dated outside of your race? If so, what differences did you encounter (if any)?

It was some time ago, and during a “growing pains” chapter of my life. I had just nailed a great job at a prestigious hospital. I met a woman my own age from Nairobi, Kenya. She was exotically gorgeous. We went night-clubbing, to parties, and lots of sight-seeing. Our dating did not ‘turn heads’, this was Portland, near the centennial …pretty much ahead of its time-anything goes. She had a rare elegance about her, but above all else, she was gentle and kind.

RE: Which do you value more…World peace or Peace of Mind?

Thanks lovie…have a great rest of our week. (I like it that you embrace Life and have questions and views. It’s a good thing.)

RE: Which do you value more…World peace or Peace of Mind?

see The Tao…(thanks to YOU a couple of years ago, I personally have a much better understanding of Tao than I did…)

RE: Which do you value more…World peace or Peace of Mind?

At first I thought this would be tough to answer/ decide, but it’s not, actually. The world will never be at peace. It never has and never will. We deal in realities, not dreams, beautiful and sensible as they may be. And, if we can’t be comfortable with ourselves, have “peace of mind” as you state, then what good would we be in either world? Right?