You've asked a great question. It is very hard to give up space that was all yours. I was 9 yrs on my own.
In my case the right person has come a long. We are older and because he is on the road for a few days a week, I have space but rearranging furniture is the same as giving up some space. No matter how good the relationship is, there will always be a period of adjustment, and re-organizing.
You are not alone in feeling it is harder to give up or share your space. Those are normal feelings to have. It does not mean you are not in the right relationship, just means you are normal. :-)
JMO, each are giving up some of their own space, need to be patient, and open minded about adjusting to sharing space, & keeping some of your own space.
Kitty, if you got the Edmonton Journal today, if you see the Irish dancers feathered in the second section.... the photo of the group dancing with their teacher at the front.... that is my cousin and her students.
She was in the ER 2 weeks ago for pneumonia... that is cleared up. Cousin has given her acupuncture treatments, and has taken milk out of her diet. She is now able to keep food down.
Meets with Oncologist March 17th, and Chemo starts March 23rd.
Thanks for the Hugs.
Everyone is trying to keep Mom's spirits up. I need more sleep... and am sooooooooooo tired of this freezing cold weather.
Johnny O'Boyle hoisted his beer and said, 'Here's to spending the rest of me life!, between the legs of me wife!'
That won him the top prize at the pub for the best toast of the night!
He went home and told his wife, Mary, 'I won the prize for the Best toast of the night.'
She said, 'Aye, did ye now. And what was your toast?'
John said, 'Here's to spending the rest of me life, sitting in church beside me wife.'
'Oh, that is very nice indeed, John!' Mary said.
The next day, Mary ran into one of John's drinking buddies on the street corner.
The man chuckled leeringly and said, 'John won the prize the other night at the pub with a toast about you, Mary.'
She said, 'Aye, he told me, and I was a bit surprised myself. You know, he's only been there twice in the last four years. Once he fell asleep, and the other time I had to pull him by the ears to make him come.'
Johnny O'Boyle hoisted his beer and said, 'Here's to spending the rest of me life!, between the legs of me wife!'
That won him the top prize at the pub for the best toast of the night!
He went home and told his wife, Mary, 'I won the prize for the Best toast of the night.'
She said, 'Aye, did ye now. And what was your toast?'
John said, 'Here's to spending the rest of me life, sitting in church beside me wife.'
'Oh, that is very nice indeed, John!' Mary said.
The next day, Mary ran into one of John's drinking buddies on the street corner.
The man chuckled leeringly and said, 'John won the prize the other night at the pub with a toast about you, Mary.'
She said, 'Aye, he told me, and I was a bit surprised myself. You know, he's only been there twice in the last four years. Once he fell asleep, and the other time I had to pull him by the ears to make him come.'
It works both ways. Women have asked the same question. If I get an email from someone that it shows they did not look at my profile, (mostly from certain countries, or the photo used is from another completely profile), they do not get a response.
If the person says they love me, and want to get to know me more, they are blocked. My profile states "not looking" and that I'm engaged. If the moron can not respect that, they are blocked.
Mom, barring any problems will be coming home tomorrow. Home care will be visiting her twice a day. Test results are not back yet, so we do not know for if she will have to undergo chemo.
Some post photos used in magazines or ads... There have been some people that contacted me with different names, countries etc and the photo has been used for other profiles.
Some people do not post photos because they do not want friends etc to see them on a singles site, they are in a relationship and cheating, do not have a way to put a photo on a a public computer, are shy and won't show a photo until they are comfortable with it, and the most important reason... scammers might not use a photo.
Today my daughter sent me photos of her friend and the friends newly adopted daughter. Her friend looked totally in love with this little girl.
There are good parents and bad parents, age does not define if the person will be a good parent or not. My comment had more to do with some women who are having children for more selfish reasons instead of thinking about the children or the rest of the family.
The mother of the twins, according to the news, is in ICU. She may have known the risks, and took that chance. I am concerned about a few things. One of them being, why did the woman go to India to have the invitro done? Was it the cost of the procedure being cheaper... or because Dr.s here had refused to do it for health and ethical reasons? Did the woman truly realize the risks of a person with diabetes having children would be? There are many reasons women with certain types of diabetes should not take that risk. One of them being death.
I am sure the mother of the twins wanted to have children, and am not questioning her love or ability to raise them. I am questioning how well they can be raised with older parents not able to keep up, physically, and mentally... how many people in their 60's can cope with a child's homework if the child needs help? What toll it will take on both the mother and the children health wise? Especially if they all have health issues? A single healthy active child with no disabilities takes a toll on a parent who's diabetes is under control. What will raising twins, with possible health/development problems take on an older mother who's diabetes might not be all that stable?
I know a few women that were finished raising their own kids and for some reason or other, are now raising their grand children. These women had plans but have willingly taken on raising their grandchildren.
It takes a toll in every area of life to raise a child. Today more than it did 20 yrs ago. The toll of taking care of a child with a disability takes quite the toll and with so many services being cut and not much help financially to the parents ... I don't even want to go there. Many older people can not afford their own medications ... now add in the cost for all that a child will need ...
Lots to think about ... lots of questions ... with no concrete answers.
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Will be on my way to White Horse this week.... See you there Eyes!!!!!!!!