Well, I thought peace may be found, but not yet I guess. As arrows fly, I try to hope for the best. Baby Ruths to everyone, and if Mr. Paki is back, I'm glad. Just wish everyone could have peace, but if we look at the world, I guess that doesn't happen.
When people tell me they are bored, I am 'tempted' to tell them to get an iron...then they will be an ironing bored!
Actually, I sympathize. Never in the history of the world have we had so much to entertain us, and yet been so bored. I believe it's an inner restlessness...but that's just mho.
When people wear a mask and you believe they are a friend, they are wasting your time, because they did not give you the opportunity to really know them.
It is possible to be hurt deeply and not become mean. I sometimes think this is used as an excuse. We all have a choice on what we want to be, and with the help of others, rise above the pain to love.
If you are going to use Holy Scripture as a reference, there are a lot of passages which can pertain to this issue. Many times we think we can marry someone and then we can change them or they will convert to our faith - but we should not expect this because it is not true at all. God does not make this promise. Instead we should walk into it knowing we cannot change another person, that there is no guarantee that they will become the same faith, even if they tell you they will - it has to be a heart conversion, a gift/grace from God, not an agreement born of romantic passion, which may not last.
Only what's built on Christ will last...I believe non-Christian marriages can make it but they lack the fundamental grace of the union as God instituted it by not basing it on spiritual principles, and only on human love for each other, which so easily can fail and is rife with imperfection, which is why we look to God for guidance and strength to be able to truly love another, in good times and in bad.
Many times a partner who does not share your religious viewpoint can slowly tear your faith apart by constant planting of seeds of doubt and then there is the question of how to raise the children.
Marriage is the union of body AND soul, as Scripture puts it, can two walk together unless they are agreed? (Amos 3:3)
I don't know if this what you are asking, and I wouldn't use Scripture for a non-Christian, but I believe your profile states that is your Faith persuasion. :) Atheists and non-Christians need not start an argument, I was referring to the Christian belief system only and in no way am implying non-Christians can't have beautiful successful marriages.
Not sure if I understand the question, but marriage is the joining of two lives: two hearts and two minds. That's why Scripture says "that they may be as one". Because marriage is more than a physical union, it is important to be sure that the other person is a good match for the whole person, and is not entering the marriage for selfish reasons, but truly loves you enough to put your happiness over their own.
This is what marriage should be. Actually carrying it out is another matter entirely...that's why so many divorces.
Loved the kitty and robin...what a sweet video. Your kitten was very lucky indeed to have someone like you to care for and love her (just as you were lucky to have been loved by her).
Your blog post reminded me of the song Unchained Melody, where it speaks of the "open arms of the sea". I hope you find the one that lets you "love and be loved," because loving is the only real secret to happiness. Thanks for the food for thought.
Heck, when you're good looking, people even let you in front of the line at the cash register! That's why everyone's so obsessed with it and plastic surgeons are very rich men.
I would guess men lie about their age, their height, and their income. But 80 percent? I too wonder about where the researchers gathered such sad statistics.
First you state in your profile you don't want children at any time if your life, but your demographics are young single women who most overwhelmingly will probably want the option of children.
You don't want single mothers who already have children, another large portion of your demographic.
Leaves only a small percentage of fish to fry. Young single women with no children who are sure they never want any, that you find attractive, in your area, and who reciprocate your feeling.
Widen your search criteria in the initial bait. Don't play all your cards out front, or include a rant about singles mothers in your profile. Let women get to know you before you tell them you never want any children. At least then you have a chance of keeping them on-line if they are in love with you, and you never know, you might change your mind one day.
I know you are just being honest, but in your profile under "wants kids" you state "probably not". Women in your stated age range (young) will most likely want children at some point. This might be an issue for them.
Also, under income you state "prefer not to say". I completely understand this, but it may make some women hesitant that you aren't making enough money (their idea of enough money). This is not to say they are a golddigger, but "prefer not to say" could mean anything - and that includes next to poverty level.
Regarding the pics, you have a lot of no shirt muscle man pics - I'd only include one as not to intimidate.
As another poster said, I would limit the expectations you have for a potential meet (great if they like ferrets, etc.) Let all that come out as you get to know each other.
I thought everyone knew that the way you get someone to break with you is to make it their idea, lol. This secret to a perfect breakup has been ployed for a long, long time.
Actually I think it's better to just be honest with someone instead of causing them the suffering of end of love boorishness. Believe it or not, the girl will know that you are acting this way because you no longer love her.
I don't know if you are just writing this to express your thoughts or you really did just get your heart broken, but cheer up - you are too young and beautiful to be this sad. It is probable that he did care but you grew apart for some reason, or he had issues that make the relationship unworkable.
When people are young they make a lot of mistakes in relationships - it's a necessary part of learning how to love and be loved - not an easy thing. Sometimes people are scared of this type of committment so deliberately do things to distance the other person. They may care but still fall in love with someone else, they may just be immature and not ready for what you need from them.
It doesn't mean they never loved you, or even that they won't come back. My boyfriend came back to me twenty years later, lol. It didn't work out for us but it does for some.
You only waste your time when you know its not going to last and you keep hanging on - as you wrote. You always learn from loving so don't be bitter or hate. People are human with feet of clay and we hurt each other, even when we don't mean to. Try to forgive and do what you're doing...being open to others and daring to care again, maybe this time using what you've learned for an even better relationship.
By the way, I wish you luck with your journalism/writing. It's a great field because you are always discovering new things about the world.
I am pretty very sure there are relationships where the woman is older and it lasts, just as where the man is older.
As long as you continute to perpetuate a stereotype, the longer it will take to break it and give people freedom to love whom they want to love. What business is it of ours to forbid or make a judgement?
I would much rather be with someone older or younger, than to have loved and not been with them at all because of a silly societal stereotype that is long overdue to be broken.
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Well, I thought peace may be found, but not yet I guess. As arrows fly, I try to hope for the best. Baby Ruths to everyone, and if Mr. Paki is back, I'm glad. Just wish everyone could have peace, but if we look at the world, I guess that doesn't happen.