Sell-By Date
Like food, all relationships have a sell-by date.Relationships started way back when the average life-expectancy would have been only 25-40 years of age.
So a lifetime commitment to a relationship wasn't quite so long, 10-15 years if you were very lucky.
Fast forward to the 21st century where people are living happily into their 90s, is it really reasonable to expect a lifetime commitment of 60+ years?
As with all things, there are exceptions in food too. Honey will last indefinitely but even that can crystallise and look a bit shabby. It takes a bit of hot stuff to bring it back again.
Some relationships also stand the test of time, but when they crystallise, somebody needs to be there,and willing, to apply that fix to make it gleam again.
Other foods you do keep forever, much past their sell-by date. But they grow dusty in the back of the cupboard as you don't want to get rid of them, but are not actively using them either. It is better to just clear out the cupboard and start afresh.
With all foods, it is better to enjoy them when they are fresh, and not try to hold on to them as they grow musty and dusty.
The sweetest food is often the one with the shortest lifespan. Think cupcakes
So, for 2018, maybe we should stop thinking longterm, and getting disappointed when they go sour, and just enjoy the sweetness of a relationship for however long it lasts.
One beautiful fresh cupcake will always be tastier than the dusty cans in the back of the cupboard.
Carpe diem.
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I know you'd approve
The anticipation of meeting your Arty at the airport and the actual meet must have been wonderful
Daniela,
But...meeting with someone on dates well...that's pure delight and excitement.
Unless it is somebody I feel I know well already, and there is a connection
I constantly turn down other dates, which might be a bad thing as they could possibly have potential too
Maybe for 2018, I will start dating more
First. How far is the ideal the distance between his place and yours?
Second. How often would be the ideal intensity of you meeting him?
Last. How long would be the ideal length of time for you to spend in one meeting?
No more than an hour would be ideal
Second. How often would be the ideal intensity of you meeting him?
Every weekend, and maybe once midweek
Last. How long would be the ideal length of time for you to spend in one meeting?
The entire weekend, so that we have enough time to do things when we finally get out of bed
No matter what circumstances are?
Now regarding your one big frozen cupcake. Do you mind to share it with another woman? I mean when you have other thing you like to do beside enjoying the cupcake (you are living apart, remember), will you let the cupcake be enjoyed by someone else?
Sea, 71%
@Sea... are you a psychologist by any chance?
I think there should be more of this and less of the politics n religion.
It is a dating site after all.
Saw a film once called Hope Floats there was a line at the end where Sandra Bullock said.
" Your childhood is what u spend your adult life trying to get over"...that's not verbatim but close.
And I agree with this when it comes to dating our parents are of a generation where divorce was not heard of...where u failed in life if u left ur family for another man/woman....so marriages were just always going to be longer as it was more about the religious aspect of the union...granted probably most wanted to stay together.
We grew up seeing the stability this gave to both our parents and to ourselves...this with the church's stance on divorce brain washed us into thinking that it was one man for life.
We grow up thinking that's the way it has to be...until our adult mind kicks in and starts to question every thing.
I'm very like u in the respect that I do have this feeling of wanting security so much that I almost sabotage the relationship...trying to learn not to do that so much anymore.
I think for myself going forward and on the advice of someone I know all my life who is with h r husband since she was 17....they are now togethere 27 years.
She said that while her husband is still her best friend she never fully gives all of herself to him...she keeps things back just for herself. ..I didn't want to be nosey and ask what she meant exactly but I think it's the fact that she doesn't lose herself in the other person.
That she is so happy in her own skin and knows for herself she can survive any breakup and is realistic about life and the attraction between two people can wane and has its ebbs that it has made her live for the moment.
Its something I will be doing for sure
I'm not sure if this is even in keeping wit has hat ur trying to say but just giving my opinion.
Best of luck..we all need happiness
Surely this is a good alternative?
I'll have a word for you too
Our best relationships are ahead of us and I'll stick with that idea I think!!
Well, it seems that one night stands are the answer. I'm game.
So You mention cupcakes, if one removes the pretty icing, they are just cake, normal cake with issues, We don't know if they are stale until we taste them.
Especially men who don't recycle
All that said, I sometimes wonder whether my sell by date has expired, the package still looks good, but, the mirror tells a different story!