I agree in principal. We have no way of knowing the whole truth of the matter. And I would be opposed to sending the guy to the guillotine without giving him his day in court.
But we're really not in any position to demand his testimony. Nor to sentence him to any sort of punishment. We don't even know his name.
All we have is GG's story, and in the absence of the other side we can only base our opinion on that.
And with the "reserve" that GG's portrayal of the situation is accurate, I think the guy deserved what he got and then some.
GalwayGirl89: a problem shared is subsequently a problem that can be used against you. i'll learn to keep my mouth shut.
You're both right.
We have a right to hold and express opinions and to vent about them when necessary.
But there are times when it's best to restrain ourselves, not out of fear and intimidation, but out of faith, realizing that real closure and recovery can't occur until we decide to move on.
ladybird_jc: "You just sound like you are bragging - sorry." yubba: "Give me your email address l will send you the photos of us together and if you wish you can telefone to speak to either of them??" I don't think Ladybird was suggesting your claims aren't true yubba.
But it does seem like you feel a need to impress people with your ability to bed girls one third your age.
I wouldn't blame the men necessarily. Although, often enough, they do have a lot of the blame
For very sinister controlling reasons, civilization has been modified to break up the traditional nuclear family. Financial and social pressure works to break up couples and isolate individuals.
Individuals are easier to manipulate and control than couples.
They are more fearful and less secure, so they don't demand as much. And they can be abused in all sorts of ways.
For me, "serious" is hard to do right off the bat. I can't be "serious" when I don't really know the person yet.
I think flirting is just the natural first step. It's fun. It's not too threatening, invasive or demanding. It breaks the ice. There's no pressure for it to "succeed". If it's a total washout nobody gets hurt. etc etc etc
Occasionally I have met someone and it just "clicked" and we both knew it, so flirting wasn't necessary. But most of the time I think it is.
Do you think America could become a third world country? There's hope.
If it can manage to pay off all its debts and pay reparitions to all the countries it has robbed harmed, it might eventually be accepted as a third rate country.
Many years ago Charles DeGaule took France out from under the control of NATO because it was just a rubber-stamp front for US domination of Europe.
The French have always supported that decision.
But in the last election French voters got tricked into electing a bushwhacker president. Like his counterparts in Britain and the US, despite his rapid fall to being the most unpopular president in French history, he has pushed through major changes that undermine the nation's sovereignty, without due process and without the approval of the French Congress.
Yesterday, in a shockingly brazen move, he reinserted France under the American NATO thumb just at a time when Nato is pushing to install an American antimissile system in Europe. A move that will impose a new arms race between the West and Russia.
It's all about money. And keeping the people terrorized.
I would much rather be told right away that my mate is interested in someone else and wants to end the relationship than to find out she's been cheating on me for months and lying about it.
The lies are, in my opinion, the real essence of what "cheating" is all about.
When lies are involved. It's not just the ruin of hopes and dreams. It's not just a blow to one's pride. But, most seriously of all, it cripples the ability to trust someone's word.
And for that, I think a good dose of loathing towards the cheating mate is more than deserved.
As for the "other" person. If they were involved in the lying then they merit loathing too. But if they were just an unknown "other" and had no direct part in the lies, they don't merit much blame.
Oh that's not a problem. We have a process called doublethink for that. We can deny and forget our own crimes at will and instead focus on your petty faults, be they real or imagined.
Doublethink is:
“ The power of holding two contradictory beliefs in one's mind simultaneously, and accepting both of them....To tell deliberate lies while genuinely believing in them, to forget any fact that has become inconvenient, and then, when it becomes necessary again, to draw it back from oblivion for just so long as it is needed, to deny the existence of objective reality and all the while to take account of the reality which one denies — all this is indispensably necessary. Even in using the word doublethink it is necessary to exercise doublethink. For by using the word one admits that one is tampering with reality; by a fresh act of doublethink one erases this knowledge; and so on indefinitely, with the lie always one leap ahead of the truth. ”
On second thought forget the war There's really naught worth fighting for The reason we lie in this ditch Is just to make some merchants rich The enemy is just like you He's pushed into this madness too
So while you still have this life's breath Refuse to kill, choose life not death For if you brother's blood you've spilled Youself must of the sword be killed
RayfromUSA Forum Posts (6,611)
RE: how long do u wait to tell the person that you're interested in to meet?
I think there are times when the heart should lead the head.But the head has to make that decision.