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Simple fact... ALL dating sites have scammers with fraudulent profiles.
Some sites have more than others and I believe it's related to management, because they don't have the staff to monitor activity. That means, all of them rely on the members to report scammers or fakes...

In a world of 'self service' they do nothing until someone tells them something is wrong.

Not so much on Connecting Singles, because they often delete bogus profiles within a few days, where other sites only only respond to reports when an administrator gets around to it and that's not too often. Sadly, one of my favorite places had a scammer using a stolen photo of a pornstar that I blogged about her anniversary being there. I must have reported that one 15 times including the site where the photo was stolen from!

I see a new profile appear yesterday that has a warning to women. It's a man in the photo and the profile is warning women of a profile using that photo. Unfortunately, the person trying to be helpful has the wrong gender. They should have created a profile of a man so it comes up on the correct search for women.

Anyway, it's a rainy morning and I have a few minutes to do a Public Service Announcement (PSA) and entertain you with some scammers I have found.

I need your help.

I have a confession to make and I don't know what steps to take next.

I have a crush on a CS member. He has no idea. We chat here and there, mostly just banter on the blogs, and I try to keep things sounding platonic because he gives no indication of having any interest in me beyond friendship.

What do I do??

This is my first blog - so please be gentle with me!

While perusing posts on the blogs, I have noticed how member's personalities become exposed over time. It seems to me, that this sort of interaction is a much better way of getting to know someone, rather than just by profile alone.
Members can hide their true personality in a profile, or even when communicating by email with other members on the site. However, blogging has a way of revealing that which might otherwise be hidden.
With that in mind, would it not be a good idea to make it compulsory, to post at least one blog every couple of weeks/months? That way, other members can read the blogs and find out a lot more about someone they may be interested in. It would certainly weed out the scammers!

Just a thought!

to all my dear friends.....

My jaw wants to unhook when I listen to what some women have to say about their close encounters of the third kind with men. It crossed my mind that some of these women are just out to make men appear as evil monsters but I’m more than prepared to concede that at least some women may have had some really terrible experiences with men.

But all this makes we wonder with exactly what kind of men you are involved with? In all fairness, if you date an undesired character, you must expect to be treated in kind. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t say he has the right to misbehave because he is what he is but you cannot cultivate weeds and expect to pick peaches from it.

If a friend arranged a blind date and he turns out to be weird, kick your friend’s arse. You have been sold out. Otherwise you must take at least some of the blame – even if just for your inability to spot a bad character for they are not that difficult to recognize. They all carry a lot of baggage and it wells up soon enough in conversation. And if you get into it, knowing that you’re dealing with a dubious character, don’t complain about it afterwards because it was your choice to be with such a man.

I have seen it countless times that a woman who comes out of an abusive relationship, just hook up with another bad egg the next time. They find calm relationships dull. Harsh as this may sound, some women are attracted to ruffians and I think they want to be mistreated. I don’t know if they crave for the excitement or the sympathy but they normally get both.

I have also been had by one or two women but they were few and far between. The majority of women are normal and rational. Just like that there are many good men out there but the onus is on you to separate the dregs from the wine. If you pick one loose cannon, we can call it a mistake; it can happen to anybody. More than that, it starts looking like a trend. Remember, nobody can force you to date anybody. It’s your own choice. We cannot always blame others for our own bad choices.


Relax! It is Friday.

S.I.G.N.

According to Kevin Samuels:

A low value woman is...

S = Shame (They will shame you).
I = Insult ( " " insult " ).
G = Guilt ( " " guilt " ).
N = Need to be right (they will always need to be right).


Which leads to these types of traits:

no accountability
no honesty
no apologies


What do you think men and women....do you agree with him? Is Kevin Samuels right about low value women?

Happy Friday all.

Well, as they say, all good things come to an end. And this was a good one. I felt kind of sad when I took her home earlier. She’s leaving today and we said our good-byes. When I met her I thought it would be one or two dates and then good bye. I never dreamed that it would develop into such a pleasant encounter. I will remember her for a long time.

Finding a suitable gift for her did not prove such a challenge at all. I must thank Stargazer for giving me the idea. Friday afternoon, after cutting the sketch that she admired so much into a rectangular shape, I left it on the dining room table where she could not miss it. She did not give me the opportunity to offer it to her. She asked for it; the only thing she ever asked from me.

We had it framed Saturday morning and collected it on Monday. I must admit that it looks better with the frame, but I still think the frame is worth more than the sketch. Mind you, it has moved up in value since it ruined a perfectly good panel saw while trimming the edges. It lost some detail at the bottom and the sides in order to get the edges straight. There was some sort of a ditch with some water on the foreground; part of it still visible at the bottom. The size of it is 618mm X 411mm.
The sketch has a rather obscure history. I did it out of boredom, on an irregular shaped piece of scrap asbestos left by the builders, while waiting for the fire to get ready. It took no longer than 30 minutes or so. I used a piece of charcoal from a previous fire to draw it. When the fire was ready, my uncompleted ‘masterpiece’ landed back on the heap of building scrap where it was in the sun, wind and rain for a few months. You can notice the discoloration on the left and top. It still needed plenty of work but it was never intended to survive.

When they eventually came to remove the rubble, my brother-in-law preserved my ‘masterpiece’ for greater honors by putting it in the garage where it stood collecting dust for another two years before a woman from Gauteng noticed it when I brought her home the first time. The rest of it is already told.

I hope it brings her the same sweet memories as her gift brings me when I listen to my music. My gift to her compares poorly with the Bluetooth speakers she bought me but this is what she wanted.


Well, cheer up. If everything go according plan, tomorrow will be Friday.

Its plain and simple.

Everyone has a choice. To complain or not. To respect or not. To be nice or not. To terrorize or to be peaceful.

This site is free. While being civil is encouraged, it is not always the case. People including me becomes too personal at times especially on religion and politics.

All I'm saying is, be happy we have a site to enjoy and if we get lucky, we find those that sweep us off our feet. I did. Twice. I couldn't be more thankful.

So many times I heard people saying that they will never love again as it only brings pain but are they not doing themselves short for nothing? There is no guarantee the next affair will be the same.

Surely there must be some good memories sprouting from a sunken love affair. I mean why have the affair in the first place if it brought no happiness? If it brought no happiness then you have only yourself to blame for placing an expectation on something that was not to be. A lover is supposed to make you happy.

Love is too beautiful to be wasted but it needs not to be blind. You have to love with your eyes open. When you see the signs, don’t believe that it will go away for it will only grow worse. Break it off sooner than later and make it a clean break. Rather take a small hurt now than a much bigger hurt later.

Most aborted love affairs end in (or because of) some unpleasantness. That is life. When I think of the relationships I have been involved in, I only remember the good times. The bad times erase themselves with time. Don’t dwell on the shipwrecks of the past. Take the knock, put it behind you and get on with your life. There is no need to deprive yourself of all the joys of a future love. There is another love yet to come.

Don’t miss your dreamboat when it arrives. And if you discover that it is not the dreamboat that you thought it was, there is nothing to prevent you from jumping ship at the next harbor.

It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved.


Have a wonderful day.!

ONE
He had a meeting with his friends from the sport club, an online meeting ofcourse. He told me that one of his friends noticed something and asked him.
His friend : Hey, what happened to your razor? Is it broken?
Him : Nope. There is this woman. Her name is Kal from Indonesia. I have grown my whiskers for her.

My silent response -->

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TWO
Once I asked him if there's any Muslim in his area. He said he wasn’t sure if there is.
Me : Let say I come to your city and I accompany you to a sport event where there are many friends of yours. What do you think will your friends say or do when seeing me, a Muslim woman wearing hijab, holding your hand?
Him : They will be nice to you because you are with me.

My silent response -->

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THREE
Sometimes when we video called, he let the door behind him open so I could see his son’s bedroom door. Once I saw his son entering his room.
Me : Is that your son?
Him : Yes, the youngest. Do you want to be introduced to him?
Me : Naah. I am not ready. Next time, ok
Him : Sure, whenever you're ready

My silent response -->

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FOUR
I told him about what a big tall western man did to me when we’re on the Train from Paris to The Netherlands.
Him : If I was with you that moment, do you want me to act accordingly?
Me : Naah, I can handle it. If he started being abusive, then it’s your turn.
Him : I have never been beaten but I am not afraid to
Me : Nooo… I don’t want that to happen

My silent response -->

And every day there is always something, even just a little thing, that makes my heart touched.
Isn’t he so very adorable or what?

Have a good weekend, everyone!