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This is solely based on my observations. I would welcome any opinion that could clarify and contribute more meaning to my following statements::wink:

Women in their 20s desire men around their age who are good looking, funny, clever and financially stable…the perfect guy.

Men in their 20s desire women who are older, confident, financially stable…a mother figure whom they could get a lot of experiences from.


Women in their 30s desire men who are clever, financially stable, not so funny will do, not too good looking will do…stability and security matter most.

Men in their 30s desire women who are of the same mental, emotional , physical and financial wavelength. She has to be confident , good looking and knows how to carry herself…someone he can be proud of and raise a family…picture perfect marriage


Women in their 40s will accept men who are less financially stable, less good looking, less funny, less clever but will gladly opt for better option in the offer.

Men in their 40s desire women who are a little bit younger but the “been there, done that” type. She has to be confident, clever, funny, witty , good looking , emotionally and mentally stable….and financially independent.


Women in their 50s plus plus…many will tend to desire men who are much younger, less financially stable but quiet good looking, can be fun, not clever and not educated will do as long as they are young, physically active and gorgeous…but if common sense prevails, many will choose to stay single and enjoy their carefree lifestyle and freedom

Men in their 50s+ plus plus…many tend to desire women young enough to be their daughters…hot and sexy will be fantastic, she doesn’t have to be brainy…doesn’t have to work…he will be more than willing to give everything she desires but those who have wisdom and "old enough" to know what’s good for them will opt to find companionship with someone he has a lot in common with.

Ok, ok, I know, I know....please don't take me seriously...the above are just my own observations and assumptions:

Flirting is an important component of social behavior and although it can easily be misinterpreted, it need not be so if you select your ‘victims’ carefully and if you follow the six primary rules about flirting.

I love flirting and openly admit it in my profile. Everybody knows me as a flirt and I have rarely picked up problems because of it.

Rule 1
Do not flirt with complete strangers.
Flirting with complete strangers is inviting trouble. While I don’t flirt with strangers, I will certainly pay a strange woman a compliment if it is deserved, whereas in flirting, I grossly exaggerate with the compliments. I will flirt with the wives or girlfriends of my friends and relatives whenever the opportunity presents itself. I even flirt with my grandson’s girlfriend.

Rule 2
Do not touch the person that you are flirting with.
You flirt with the mouth and the eyes. You don’t need arms and hands to flirt. When you touch the person, it becomes personal and it can easily be misinterpreted. Don’t hug, don’t hold hands, and don’t kiss, not even her hand. If the person you’re flirting with start touching you, move away, and if it continues, stop flirting with him/her.

Rule 3
Do not flirt with somebody if you don’t know his/her partner well.
If your friend has a new lover, it is ok to flirt, even if you were just introduced. The quicker they get used to you, the better. The bottom line is, don’t flirt if the partner does not like you.

Rule 4
If your attentions are not welcome, stop it.
Not everybody enjoys flirting and look out for them. Don’t antagonize people. If the person or his/her lover does not enjoy your attentions, stop it right there and then or you may spoil what would have been a great party.

Rule 5
Only flirt on parties or other gathering where there are many people around.
Don’t flirt with your friend’s partner if you are only two or three couples together. If you are in a public place( like a steakhouse) and there are women in the company, don’t flirt with the staff; even if you don’t have a partner with you.

Rule 6
Keep it above board.
Flirt only if there are other people in the company. Do not flirt if you happen to meet alone on the verandah or while you’re dancing. Do not single somebody out to flirt with. If you want to flirt, flirt with every body.

So there you are. Six simple rules and if you follow them, you will never get problems about flirting. Flirting is a pleasure and a great icebreaker at parties and gatherings. People will see you as a big sport and it will often see you invited again and again.

But flirting has a serious down part if you have a real interest in a somebody. He or she will not take your attentions seriously but if you scale your flirting a bit down towards that person and talk some sense to him or her, your message will get through. If you want to know which girl I fancy at a party, just find the girl I flirt with the least.


I wish you all a great weekend and don’t flirt too much.

How Fights Start

Can you fall in love again

Would you want to fall in love again?

Does love only have to benefit you?

Is love a game to you?

Is love a means to an end for you?

Do you think love is real?

What?....Love?....what the hell is that?

lol

But seriously do you think you can love again?

I think I can....but...I do know love can make one weaker...as well as make one stronger....depending on your "better half."

I was talking with a female friend of mine over the weekend. We were talking about me and my activity on a dating site. She revealed to me, if she ever got on a dating site....her intention, if she were to join, would be...who could she f*ck over next.

She told me to get off these dating sites ASAP.

What do you think?

Are you still waiting for that elusive perfect partner? Well, I have news for you. He or she may never come. It is pretentious to believe that somewhere and somehow somebody out there was made just for you and all your whims and desires. And if there is somebody like that, the chances of the two of you meeting, are negligibly small.

By placing yourself on a pedestal, believing that you deserve only the best is folly and may leave you on your own forever plus another few days. Chances are that if you can locate that perfect partner, he or she may not see you as perfect at all.

Let’s face; it we are mass-produced; each one unique and yet all stereotyped. We are born the same. It is the events during our lives, and how we cope with it, that define us for what we are. The random factor is far too great to calculate the outcome. People change and adjust according to what life throws at them. What is perfect now may not be so in the future. The opposite is also true.

You have to make compromises. Compromising does not mean that you have to surrender. It merely entails a strategic reevaluation and restructuring of your goals. There is no need to lower your standards and there is nothing that a coat of paint cannot fix, providing that the superstructure is sound. And be prepared to receive a bit of painting as well. You’re not perfect either.

It is not all about finding the perfect partner; it is also about being the perfect partner. It takes two to tango and a chain is only as strong as the weakest link.


Have a marvelous weekend. It may just happen this weekend.

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The speaker then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.


People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is NOT finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because...........

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "DECISION". Not just a feeling.








OMG!!! Why am I sharing relationship advice with singles????



Ok, when you find the wrong partner you can still love him/her perfectly and try making it last.




Wish everyone a blessed week!!!!!!

What do you think? Are online dating sites becoming a thing of old? I know with this site, I hear about how boring the blogs are becoming and therefore people are just not interested in coming to the site as frequently. There is another dating site that I have been on for some time too...and I don't use it hardly at all anymore because it just seems to be a waste of time more than anything else. But, I recently rechecked it out...being bored...and I noticed that the number of users online was significantly less...nearly half as less as I remember it. Perhaps the concept of the dating sites I use (which is only 2) is becoming outdated to some extent and people are finding other means of meeting? Or, perhaps...people don't have any interest on meeting others anymore? Or even more perhaps, maybe I have just not gotten enough information to make any sort of determinations?


Good Thursday all.

The other day, when I had lunch with my father, I touched on a taboo subject. His latest girlfriend! My sister and I had a long chat about this beforehand and in the end it fell on me to speak to him. It is not always easy to be the eldest.

I told him she is up to no-good and the he should let her go. He looked at me with a somewhat amused expression and said: “Life makes a complete circle”. Then he took a small a sip of his wine and asked how many times I obeyed him when he told me to get rid of a girlfriend. He dismissed me by giving the answer himself. Not once!

However, he did assure me (without any further prompting) that she is nothing serious and that if he should be so foolish to marry at his age, he’d marry his previous girlfriend who now lives in Gauteng. The short conversation did not spoil the day and we continued to enjoy our meal. For a change he even allowed me to pay the bill.

I don’t mind him having a lady friend. My mother died 16 years ago and he did not bother with women until about seven or eight years ago. Since then he had three lady friends. The first two resembled my late mother, both in looks and in mannerism. The first girlfriend died and the second relocated to another province to be with her children. They still have contact.

Both these ladies wanted to marry my father and have approached me several times, asking me to work on my dad regarding this matter. Of course I politely refused. Not that I would have minded if my dad married one of them. They were good women and they cared about him, but I was not going to be the matchmaker.

His latest girlfriend is a horse of another color. She is five years my junior and almost 30 years younger than my father. We think that she wants to scam him. This woman is pretty, sexy and streetwise. And her eyes are way too busy. My sister noticed it as well. I try to avoid her as far as I can without being rude. I’m scared that my father may think that I’m the one making eyes at her.

Now, I don’t think my father is stupid, but he’s been exposed to very few women. My mother was his first girlfriend and the women I mentioned here, represent the total sum of his experience with women.

If she makes him happy, I don’t have a problem but I’m not going to see him scammed out of his money to leave him short in his old age. She’s not looking at carving a future with him. My father is 88. How much longer can he live? And why else would a good-looking, intelligent woman be interested in an old man almost 30 years her senior?

Am I paranoid or am I right to be concerned?

Hang in there. Tomorrow is Friday.

Seriously, why describe yourself as humble? Does it have a slang meaning I'm missing (like wicked sick = WOW amazing)

because it is not a sexy word. To me it says hello, may I be your doormat?

Official definition -
1. having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's importance.
"I felt very humble when meeting her"
synonyms: meek, deferential, respectful, submissive, self-effacing, unassertive, unpresuming;
2. of low social, administrative, or political rank.
"she came from a humble, unprivileged background"
synonyms: low-ranking, low, lowly, lower-class, plebeian, proletarian, working-class, undistinguished, poor, mean, ignoble, of low birth, low-born, of low rank;

So when a guy describes himself as humble, whoa, haud me back. NOT.

I'm obviously missing something. If it now means full of fun, rampant libido, and a real guy's kinda guy, I have been blocking a lot of exciting men lately.