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There's something in the way, love is never enough.
Funny as it may be, most of the times, we aren’t even aware we need to move on from a relationship until it becomes evident. Some of us logically know we should move on – yet we linger on anyway.
Sometimes we think we will never find someone like the person we are with. Other is just the fear of the change and not knowing what will happen next.
Why do we stay with relationships when we know it will lead to no where?

I know we are on Connecting Singles. But I guess most of us have been in situations like this.
What reason made you realize it was the moment to move on?

Not all women are angels and not all men are devils. Or, if you want it the other way around, not all men are saints and not all women are demons. For every man walking around acting like a pig there is a b*tch lurking somewhere else. While they deserve to end up together, it seldom works out that way.

For every blog appearing about a man being tormented in his love, there are 10 blogs about women blaming a man – and mostly all men – for their woes. And such blogs are normally swarming with ladies to join the bandwagon ready to condemn men while the absence of men on such blogs sticks out like a sore thumb. What is this; the pot calling the kettle black?

Men love no less intense than women. Men are hurt as easily as women; we just don’t walk around with our hearts on our sleeves. We are too proud to let women know when they hurt us.

I had my share of problems with women as well. In fact every single major problem I had in my life was because of a woman but do I hate them for that? No. Do I blame them for all the trouble? Once again, no. I was stupid enough to allow it. It was my own fault. I did not see the signs because I did not look at them before it was too late.

The signs are always there. Connivers always leave telltales. You only need to look and you will spot them. Your heart is not a toy; why allow people to play with it?

Men, in general, cannot be blamed for the behaviour if some men; just like women, in general, cannot be held accountable for the actions of some women.

We are all in control of our own lives. Take hold of it and don’t allow false-hearted lovers to control it. If you allow it, is your own fault.


A great day to you all and be in control of your own life.

Been dating this modelesque woman for a short while (certainly too good looking for the likes of me) and although she has a body like the statue of Venus with arms, things are not going according to plan and its time to move on to pastures new.

Have an idea to write this....
“Good morning, had a wonderful time chatting and laughing whilst in your company last evening, however, this morning my heart is crying.
As much as my body and soul long to be with you, to make a life of happiness together, my head tells me this cannot be and so the time for us to part has come.

I shall always treasure the moments we have shared, how your eyes glinted like stars in the brightness of your smile, the softness of your caress will always rest upon my arms and the feel of your warmth will always be within my heart.

My fervent hope is that the future will bring you the happiness you seek in the arms of another. Good bye my beautiful.... (Add name)”

What do you think?

For those of you not chucking your fingers down your throat in an effort to throw up, I hope you are reaching for the tissues to dab the tears welling in your eyes whilst curtailing your sniffles and trying to stabilize your quivering lip.

You don’t attract what you want. You attract who you are

The moment you’re happy on your own is when the right relationship enters your life (Myke Macapinlac)

Many people complain about not being able to find a partner, or finding the wrong one, or not being able to hold on to the right one.

Some blame everything on past partners, rather than focusing on improving themselves to a level that makes them good partner material.

Is the answer within ourselves? Do we attract what we deserve?

Hi everyone,

I'll try not to babble but here goes. I met a guy this time last year, from the outset he spoilt me, showered me with gifts, made me feel really special, bought me flowers on our first date, held doors open for me, you get my drift. He wanted to spend all his time with me, declared his love very early on. My feelings differed, I was a slow burner but as time went on my feelings grew. He told me he wanted nothing more than for me to move to where he was from, he told me he wanted to have kids with me etc. and even right up to the time we split he told me he wanted to bring me up the aisle. He broke up with me in May after 9 months together. I cut contact with him to help me get over the breakup,. He messaged me after one week saying how sorry he was but not wanting to reconcile and that he loved me. He then, after two weeks post breakup, sent my daughter a bday card with money inside and texted me again the following day to apologise about how things ended. I continued with no contact and asked him to respect my wishes. Roll on 5 weeks post breakup and he has updated his whatsapp pic to himself and new gf, which made me suspicious that he met her before we broke up, it would also coincide with his behaviour leading to the breakup. Well after no contact since, I get a phone call tonight from an unsaved number, it was him, ringing me to tell me he is after getting engaged, after only 3 months since our split. He went on to ring me once more, I didn't answer and has sent me three texts since saying he is really happy and hopes I'm happy for him too. I dont understand why he felt the need to ring me to tell me the news especially as I had requested no contact. I couldn't have found out about his engagenent as he lives in another county and he is not on social media so why the need to rub it in my face?

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Also I know she is obviously a better fit for him, but I find his behaviour odd.

Time and time again I read statements from women on profiles, blogs and forums that state “Not looking for a fling or casual sex”, not only is this declaration a complete turn off for any would be prospective suitor but it pretty much indicates the woman is, has been or wants to be a dating hermit.

In a recent post the blogger did elaborate in words what most women think by saying “I prefer to wait for years and have it with someone very special to me”, and this is the core problem of most dating hermits, if you dont participate how are you ever going to find someone special?

So.... To those women that have this attitude I say to you... “Stop pissing about wasting your time on dating sites”. Either get your shit together and make an effort or crawl back into your comfort zone and grow old peacefully.... AND SINGLE.

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Baseball Fight

We have all heard of ‘fake’ people on dating sites. Who are they really?

Are they the ones who put up a profile with no pic, who have a bit of fun (either with people or against them) then take down their profile, or be banned, and within days have a new one up, different name but same MO?

Or are they the ones who have a proper profile & a real pic? One of the ‘regulars’.
One who tells you their life story, albeit in dribs and drabs.
They may share personal details, often garnering people’s sympathy. Especially from the opposite gender. Soft people always fall for the sob-story.

They could act quite prissy at times. Looking down on others who may speak openly about matters related to sex. They may openly condemn them and act as the more virtuous person. They may constantly let people believe they are a step above the norm.

Behind the scenes is a different matter. They are intent on getting their claws into a man, a man they deem worthy of them.
They may get chatting to some of the nicer, or more vulnerable people. These are the easiest to manipulate. And boy do they manipulate.

They try to get as much personal information from the person as possible – this will be used at a later stage.
They, contrary to their public image, want to engage in online-sex early in the relationship. They badger the other person to do it, possibly goading them by saying that their genitals aren’t up to standard if they don’t want to comply.

If the other person doesn’t play ball, things quickly turn ugly.
Threats of blackmail soon follow – threats of exposing private details on the public arena. The constant emails, messages and the stalking.

Nobody turns them down! They are the greatest gift mankind has ever received. They do the choosing. They do the rejecting.
The fires of hell are unleashed on anybody who thinks they can take that away from them.

Some may call them narcissists; some egoists; some entertainers or some even call them victims,

I call them dangerous.


So, next time we are thinking fake, maybe we should look beyond the multi-profile messers & scammers, and into the world of the delusional and downright dangerous.

Can a man be in love with two women?

I love my new girlfriend and she loves me… But I am also in love with the mother of her son and she is in love with me too. I don’t want to lose either of them.

Should I tell them about each other?

Or should I wait until they discover about each other?

Maybe I can marry both. These things happen in Africa.

It is not that I'm greedy; I just like a lot while I enjoy the variety.