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online today!
I love my self resPect........
online today!
finally......i know....i am really in love this
My heart has made its mind up. And I'm afraid it's you.
..... ... ..i can wait .....until you realize...it yourself..that i am talking about you......
Dating for the Aware
Having been a member of CS for approximately 2 months, I’ve made certain observations.
1. From reading the comments of others, I’ve concluded that some people have been members for many years. Although the site may offer a sense of camaraderie and support, amongst other things, it would appear that often it may not lead to finding a long-term partner.
2. It’s apparent that there is a very high number of scammers on the site, which is probably due to it being a free site. Sifting through many unwanted messages is very time consuming.
3. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s very difficult to find members in my local area, Initially I thought this was due to the fact that I live in a fairly remote area, but from others’ comments, I get the sense that it’s more pervasive. In order to establish a real relationship, I believe that people actually need to meet in person, so this is clearly somewhat problematic.
4. Perhaps one of the things that has taken me aback most is the fact that a few profile pictures are actually of people wearing masks. In psychological terms, wearing a mask is akin to a person hiding his or her true self and is the complete antithesis of being authentic. Why anyone would choose to put up a profile picture on a dating site with at least two thirds of their face obscured by a mask defies belief. I cannot make any sense of it. Why put up a picture at all? But, obviously it does say a lot about anyone who would choose to do that. Having received one or two messages from people wearing masks, which I ignored, I chose to reply to one and challenge this. Whether doing this made any real difference, I’ll never know.
All this has left me wondering what people are actually looking for on a dating site like CS. I’m guessing that it’s probably very different things for different people. If people are not actually looking for a partner, I’d really be interested to know what draws them to a site, which is designed for single people who do want to find a partner.
Dating, as in every other area of life, involves making choices. Coming from a place of self awareness means being really conscious of the choices we make. In relation to online dating, I believe that in addition to many other factors, the issue of whether the other person has taken the jab or not is likely to become increasingly important in the future.
1. From reading the comments of others, I’ve concluded that some people have been members for many years. Although the site may offer a sense of camaraderie and support, amongst other things, it would appear that often it may not lead to finding a long-term partner.
2. It’s apparent that there is a very high number of scammers on the site, which is probably due to it being a free site. Sifting through many unwanted messages is very time consuming.
3. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s very difficult to find members in my local area, Initially I thought this was due to the fact that I live in a fairly remote area, but from others’ comments, I get the sense that it’s more pervasive. In order to establish a real relationship, I believe that people actually need to meet in person, so this is clearly somewhat problematic.
4. Perhaps one of the things that has taken me aback most is the fact that a few profile pictures are actually of people wearing masks. In psychological terms, wearing a mask is akin to a person hiding his or her true self and is the complete antithesis of being authentic. Why anyone would choose to put up a profile picture on a dating site with at least two thirds of their face obscured by a mask defies belief. I cannot make any sense of it. Why put up a picture at all? But, obviously it does say a lot about anyone who would choose to do that. Having received one or two messages from people wearing masks, which I ignored, I chose to reply to one and challenge this. Whether doing this made any real difference, I’ll never know.
All this has left me wondering what people are actually looking for on a dating site like CS. I’m guessing that it’s probably very different things for different people. If people are not actually looking for a partner, I’d really be interested to know what draws them to a site, which is designed for single people who do want to find a partner.
Dating, as in every other area of life, involves making choices. Coming from a place of self awareness means being really conscious of the choices we make. In relation to online dating, I believe that in addition to many other factors, the issue of whether the other person has taken the jab or not is likely to become increasingly important in the future.
My Valentine
I never make a fuss about big days like Christmas, Easter, Valentine’s Day and the likes. To me it is just a commercialized moneymaking racket and the real meanings of these days have long been forgotten.
Oh, I’ll join the fun if there is a party somewhere and if not, I normally book a table somewhere well in advance. But I never waste my money on expensive cards and BS that end up in the dustbin a week later. It is the same with Guy Fawkes Day. I'm not upset with my money and won't set it alight. When my children were still young, I used to buy a few fancy rockets just to see the awe in their faces but that was a long time ago.
I don’t know what is happening this year; maybe I’m going bonkers in my old days. Where I normally book a table at the more average places, I booked a table at one of the more expensive places. I never eat seafood when I eat out, yet I selected a place that specializes in seafood. I normally buy the first and the best Valentine cards but this year I spent about thirty minutes browsing fancy Valentine cards and ended up buying what probably was the most expensive card in the shop.
All because of a certain woman from Gauteng who happens to like seafood and who I probably won’t see again after tomorrow. So, it is not even an investment for the future. Why am I trying so hard to impress her? And the worst of it is that she cannot be impressed by any of this. If I entertain her at home and treat her on take-away fish and chips, wrapped in newspaper, she’d be happy too. She’s easily the least demanding woman I met in my life.
And before you tell me I’m in love; I’m not. Yorkie still steal my thoughts too often; not as often as before but she’s still somewhere there.
I wish you all a happy Valentine's Day.
Oh, I’ll join the fun if there is a party somewhere and if not, I normally book a table somewhere well in advance. But I never waste my money on expensive cards and BS that end up in the dustbin a week later. It is the same with Guy Fawkes Day. I'm not upset with my money and won't set it alight. When my children were still young, I used to buy a few fancy rockets just to see the awe in their faces but that was a long time ago.
I don’t know what is happening this year; maybe I’m going bonkers in my old days. Where I normally book a table at the more average places, I booked a table at one of the more expensive places. I never eat seafood when I eat out, yet I selected a place that specializes in seafood. I normally buy the first and the best Valentine cards but this year I spent about thirty minutes browsing fancy Valentine cards and ended up buying what probably was the most expensive card in the shop.
All because of a certain woman from Gauteng who happens to like seafood and who I probably won’t see again after tomorrow. So, it is not even an investment for the future. Why am I trying so hard to impress her? And the worst of it is that she cannot be impressed by any of this. If I entertain her at home and treat her on take-away fish and chips, wrapped in newspaper, she’d be happy too. She’s easily the least demanding woman I met in my life.
And before you tell me I’m in love; I’m not. Yorkie still steal my thoughts too often; not as often as before but she’s still somewhere there.
I wish you all a happy Valentine's Day.
Sell-By Date
Like food, all relationships have a sell-by date.
Relationships started way back when the average life-expectancy would have been only 25-40 years of age.
So a lifetime commitment to a relationship wasn't quite so long, 10-15 years if you were very lucky.
Fast forward to the 21st century where people are living happily into their 90s, is it really reasonable to expect a lifetime commitment of 60+ years?
As with all things, there are exceptions in food too. Honey will last indefinitely but even that can crystallise and look a bit shabby. It takes a bit of hot stuff to bring it back again.
Some relationships also stand the test of time, but when they crystallise, somebody needs to be there,and willing, to apply that fix to make it gleam again.
Other foods you do keep forever, much past their sell-by date. But they grow dusty in the back of the cupboard as you don't want to get rid of them, but are not actively using them either. It is better to just clear out the cupboard and start afresh.
With all foods, it is better to enjoy them when they are fresh, and not try to hold on to them as they grow musty and dusty.
The sweetest food is often the one with the shortest lifespan. Think cupcakes
So, for 2018, maybe we should stop thinking longterm, and getting disappointed when they go sour, and just enjoy the sweetness of a relationship for however long it lasts.
One beautiful fresh cupcake will always be tastier than the dusty cans in the back of the cupboard.
Carpe diem.
Relationships started way back when the average life-expectancy would have been only 25-40 years of age.
So a lifetime commitment to a relationship wasn't quite so long, 10-15 years if you were very lucky.
Fast forward to the 21st century where people are living happily into their 90s, is it really reasonable to expect a lifetime commitment of 60+ years?
As with all things, there are exceptions in food too. Honey will last indefinitely but even that can crystallise and look a bit shabby. It takes a bit of hot stuff to bring it back again.
Some relationships also stand the test of time, but when they crystallise, somebody needs to be there,and willing, to apply that fix to make it gleam again.
Other foods you do keep forever, much past their sell-by date. But they grow dusty in the back of the cupboard as you don't want to get rid of them, but are not actively using them either. It is better to just clear out the cupboard and start afresh.
With all foods, it is better to enjoy them when they are fresh, and not try to hold on to them as they grow musty and dusty.
The sweetest food is often the one with the shortest lifespan. Think cupcakes
So, for 2018, maybe we should stop thinking longterm, and getting disappointed when they go sour, and just enjoy the sweetness of a relationship for however long it lasts.
One beautiful fresh cupcake will always be tastier than the dusty cans in the back of the cupboard.
Carpe diem.
Promiscuity
Engaging in an unselective s*xual act is not my kind of thing, does that make me less of a woman? I have friends who openly enjoys casual sex, they chat, meet up and end up having sex with the guy. Seems normal to them....not to me.
I see sex as something special between two people who genuinely care for each other . I can wait for that special person and that perfect time...does that mean I'm cold ?
I'm not judging people who engage in casual sex, flings or one nigh stands but to me, promiscuous people have issues and difficulties in forming an emotional bond that could lead to a good relationship.
Would you find these kind of people impressive and someone to be trusted in a relationship?
I see sex as something special between two people who genuinely care for each other . I can wait for that special person and that perfect time...does that mean I'm cold ?
I'm not judging people who engage in casual sex, flings or one nigh stands but to me, promiscuous people have issues and difficulties in forming an emotional bond that could lead to a good relationship.
Would you find these kind of people impressive and someone to be trusted in a relationship?
Is old fashioned romance dead?
These days the internet and mobile technology has allowed us to meet people all over the world, messaging, Skype and these internet dating sites have become normal even to those of us over 50.
I do miss the days when I would have to ask permission from a girl’s father, getting dressed up and taking her out for a meal, sending flowers the next day even if the date didn’t go well. Cards and letters? a thing of the past.
Instant messaging is great, but so is talking on the phone, hearing someone’s voice, listening to what they have to say can still give me a warm feeling.
Meeting someone in person for the first time after messages and phone calls should be exciting, the days building up to the meeting are full of nervous worries “will she like me” “will I like her”........Normally these worries are silly but it’s how it should be.
What would be your ideal first date? And do you think that technology has taken away the romance?
I do miss the days when I would have to ask permission from a girl’s father, getting dressed up and taking her out for a meal, sending flowers the next day even if the date didn’t go well. Cards and letters? a thing of the past.
Instant messaging is great, but so is talking on the phone, hearing someone’s voice, listening to what they have to say can still give me a warm feeling.
Meeting someone in person for the first time after messages and phone calls should be exciting, the days building up to the meeting are full of nervous worries “will she like me” “will I like her”........Normally these worries are silly but it’s how it should be.
What would be your ideal first date? And do you think that technology has taken away the romance?
Artificial Friendship?
I was newly struck by the artificial nature of being online after reading the responses on a recent blog named ‘Dinner For Six’. 
What particularly struck me was the way some of us – I include myself here – apologized to our other friends for not having them on our invitation lists. Others refrained from giving names at all in fear of offending friends. Is the bond of friendship online so frail that we are too scared to invite some friends and not the others?
If you were to win such a prize in real life and you had 12 friends, would you rather stay home and forfeit the prize so not to offend our friends? I think not. Would you, in real life, ask the sponsor or organizer to expand the guest list to 12? No, you won’t.
You will invite 5 friends without even having to apologize to anybody, knowing they will understand. And you will come back bragging to them about how you enjoyed the evening. After all, the prize allowed for only 5 guests and if they are true friends there will be no ill feelings.
If one of your friends got 5 rugby, soccer, opera, cinema or whatever tickets and does not ask you along, will you be offended? If you are offended then you are not such a good friend at all. You cannot monopolize your friend. Like you, he/she is entitled to other friends as well.
So why do we want to treat online friends better than in real life? Friends who use names we’re not sure about, pictures that may be fake, doing a jobs that may not be true and claiming to be where they may not be. What is so special about online friends that we want to wrap them in cotton wool?
I wonder if you could guess how much time I spend finding the right words in a comment and how many euphemisms I use; only not to alienate myself from friends… but in real life, I call a spade a spade.
True friends take much more to be offended.
Stick around. Friday is still a long way off.
What particularly struck me was the way some of us – I include myself here – apologized to our other friends for not having them on our invitation lists. Others refrained from giving names at all in fear of offending friends. Is the bond of friendship online so frail that we are too scared to invite some friends and not the others?
If you were to win such a prize in real life and you had 12 friends, would you rather stay home and forfeit the prize so not to offend our friends? I think not. Would you, in real life, ask the sponsor or organizer to expand the guest list to 12? No, you won’t.
You will invite 5 friends without even having to apologize to anybody, knowing they will understand. And you will come back bragging to them about how you enjoyed the evening. After all, the prize allowed for only 5 guests and if they are true friends there will be no ill feelings.
If one of your friends got 5 rugby, soccer, opera, cinema or whatever tickets and does not ask you along, will you be offended? If you are offended then you are not such a good friend at all. You cannot monopolize your friend. Like you, he/she is entitled to other friends as well.
So why do we want to treat online friends better than in real life? Friends who use names we’re not sure about, pictures that may be fake, doing a jobs that may not be true and claiming to be where they may not be. What is so special about online friends that we want to wrap them in cotton wool?
I wonder if you could guess how much time I spend finding the right words in a comment and how many euphemisms I use; only not to alienate myself from friends… but in real life, I call a spade a spade.
True friends take much more to be offended.
Stick around. Friday is still a long way off.
When Love Comes Knocking At Your Door.
When somebody knocks on my front door, I open it. I think the majority of people do. Especially here in South Africa because most of us have safety gates to prevent surprises when we open the door. Something that was not necessary when I was a child.
The average person doesn’t hide behind a closed door and doesn’t scamper to write down registration numbers. Unless - of course - if we expect trouble.
We open the door and if it is a friend, we let him in. We cannot just let a stranger in but we should listen to what brought the stranger to our doorstep. Then, after checking his credentials, we can decide if there is need for any action or not.
Why is it then that we act differently when love comes knocking at our heart’s door? We follow the extreme options. We either hide behind a closed door of we let the stranger in and give him a free run of the place without knowing his bona fides.
Why don’t we first listen to a stranger’s story before we decide what to do? Should we not get to know the strangers bona fides before we give him the full run of our hearts?
Your heart is a sacred as your home; treat it as such.
The average person doesn’t hide behind a closed door and doesn’t scamper to write down registration numbers. Unless - of course - if we expect trouble.
We open the door and if it is a friend, we let him in. We cannot just let a stranger in but we should listen to what brought the stranger to our doorstep. Then, after checking his credentials, we can decide if there is need for any action or not.
Why is it then that we act differently when love comes knocking at our heart’s door? We follow the extreme options. We either hide behind a closed door of we let the stranger in and give him a free run of the place without knowing his bona fides.
Why don’t we first listen to a stranger’s story before we decide what to do? Should we not get to know the strangers bona fides before we give him the full run of our hearts?
Your heart is a sacred as your home; treat it as such.
Is She/He Lucky In You?
So many of us complain about our partners, BFs, GFs and other people in our life. We see their flaws, their mistakes and things that we don't like about them. We always see what's lacking in them but not what's lacking in ourselves.
I don't know how others see me...but I see myself as a good, kind, respectful and loving person. I'm independent and strong when I need to be.
I'm pig headed and can be a handful but I would stick with my man and people I care for better or worse, will be with them in every highs and lows, will protect and keep them safe and well come hell or high water.
I'm not the hottest and sexiest woman but I'll do my best to keep my man happy and make him feel like a real man and proud of me.
I'm not perfect but I'm someone he can get along with. I could embarrass him when I'm drunk but I'm someone who'll cook him nice meals and seduce him afterwards to make his day.
I don't think he's lucky in me. There could be things that he's looking for an ideal partner that he can't find in me, yet he's willing to meet me halfway. He puts up with my craziness and fruitloopness...accepts me as I am, with all my flaws and imperfections and that's enough for me
Have a lovely day!
I don't know how others see me...but I see myself as a good, kind, respectful and loving person. I'm independent and strong when I need to be.
I'm pig headed and can be a handful but I would stick with my man and people I care for better or worse, will be with them in every highs and lows, will protect and keep them safe and well come hell or high water.
I'm not the hottest and sexiest woman but I'll do my best to keep my man happy and make him feel like a real man and proud of me.
I'm not perfect but I'm someone he can get along with. I could embarrass him when I'm drunk but I'm someone who'll cook him nice meals and seduce him afterwards to make his day.
I don't think he's lucky in me. There could be things that he's looking for an ideal partner that he can't find in me, yet he's willing to meet me halfway. He puts up with my craziness and fruitloopness...accepts me as I am, with all my flaws and imperfections and that's enough for me
Have a lovely day!
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