But what's the alternative? Bad mouth the dead? They wouldn't believe anything and he's not here to "defend" himself. I don't even think now that I would discuss him with them. If they didn't have the "balls" to discuss him when he was alive, I'll be damned if I talk about him now that he is dead. I sure didn't like him but it's useless and futile to talk about him now.
You know I had documented my whole life with my ex, from when I got married, to when I divorced him. All the 11 hell years I was with him. I figured when I was gone, the kids could read it. Then when I went to the ex's funeral, I heard my kids talking about a GOD. I couldn't even cry looking at them up there speaking and breaking up. When I went home, I tore up everything I had written. I guess it was then I realized how much I had lost and there was no getting it back.
I had custody but he had visitation rights. I never in a million years would have thought that he would say anything against me. But all during their growing up years, I didn't understand some of the things they said or did when they were young. I didn't understand it but I knew I wasn't doing anything to cause it. It took a co-worker I talked with to enlighten me when she said "it sounds like they are being coached". Then EVERYTHING made sense.
When I divorced my husband because of physical cruelty my son was 10 and my daughter was 2. He was very bitter I was able to get a divorce and during his visitations he managed to make my relationship with my son and daughter stressful. He has since passed away but my relationship with them is still estranged. When I lived in the same state as they did, we exchanged pleasantries but nothing more. Visits to me were non-existent even when they had business in the same town. When my son had my two grandkids, I visited more than he brought them to see me. I think both of the kids had been over my house about three times. The one Mother’s Day I was treated, I had to drive an hour to their house and was taken out from there. Otherwise I just always get cards.
For Christmas I’ve been giving the grandkids each $100 gift cards and then I get something for the whole family to enjoy. Not easy because my son is a vegetarian. Sometime I would also get individual presents for the family in addition to the gift cards. I shopped and sent things to my daughter also. This past Christmas was no exception.
I was a bit disheartened when I received my Christmas present from my son and his family: A $25 gift card to a restaurant. I guess my daughter thought it was a good idea because she got me a $25 gift card too. I just thanked them for the gift and did not show that I was hurt. I would like some comments on this situation. Thanks.
I've got to get back to Aruba!! I've been travelling by myself for a while. I love tropical destinations. Now if they would only stop that "single supplement"!!!!!!!
Just wondering. I've been watching the racing channel lately and it just looks so strange. Older racing footage doesn't show them riding like that. Now, just so they don't change anything about the way they drive the pacers and trotters!!!!
Does anyone know why jockeys started riding in races like they are almost standing up? They don't sit in the saddle anymore. What's with that???? Anyone?????
Sometimes I think it is just the idea that they will be less than "perfect" mothers and are afraid to chance it. They just might be "worse" than their own mothers were.
Two longtime government engineers were standing at the base of a flagpole, looking up. A woman walked by and asked what they were doing.
“We’re supposed to find the height of the flagpole,” said the first one, “but we don’t have a ladder.”
The woman took a wrench from her purse, loosened a few bolts, and laid the pole down. Then she took a tape measure from her pocket, took a measurement, announced, “Eighteen feet, six inches,” and walked away.
Both men stood there for a moment, before one said to the other, “that’s just like a woman. We ask for the height and she gives us the length.”
Dating can be an enjoyable experience. Chatting about this or that. You can piece together later whether you thought the experience was interesting, just idle chatter or had some redeeming qualities. Most people have interesting lives and experiences. You don't have to marry them to enjoy their company.
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